I just moved to High Point NC from Florida. In Florida I was a good candidate for VBAC now in High Point I'm not. I went to a highly recommended doctor Henry Dorn who scared me half to death with all the risks associated with a macrosomic baby. According the ultrasound he did that day, my baby now is 9.7 pounds and will likely be 10 pounds or over at birth. He told me the baby could suffocate on the way out causing multiple disabilities and I could also end up with a nasty tear that will cause me to have trouble with bowel movements. Not only that but the thickness of my old cesarean scar is 2.3 mm and he told me that 3.5 mm is ideal so I also have an added risk of uterine rupture. After his speech I was left sitting there in his ultrasound room speechless and about to cry, and then he says I need to leave because he has other patients that need an ultrasound. I was mortified. I did my research and supposedly he use to back up homebirth midwives. Not anymore. I don't know what really happened. Today I made some calls and emailed some people he use to work with and they don't know either although it has been suggested that it might be an insurance liability issue.
The nearest birthing center that might take me is an hour away. I'm really leaning towards homebirth but I'm terrified of all the risks. This doctor really scared me I was crying the whole night.
The weird thing is that my with my other son, whom was 10.3 pounds when he was delivered by cesarean 4 years ago, I felt him up towards my ribs and I could barely breathe. I know what it's like to carry a big baby. But with this one, I get a headache here and there when he moves too much but I could breathe and I don't feel as big as last time. Also when he kicks and I feel his foot it's so tiny. I can't believe that he's already over 9 pounds. Although he could be.
I would just like to know what I can do now to facilitate my labor. I read about doing perineal massages. Is there anything else I can do in anticipating to delivering a possibly large baby? What do I do if the head gets stuck halfway out like the doctor said? What are the optimal birthing positions I can use?