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[jacquelinej]

It's funny the showing thing came up again.  I was getting dressed 2 days ago and DH looked up and said, "I think you are starting to show" in a rather sweet and apologetic way (because he knows I m sensitive about my body).  I looked at him and I said, "Is that with or without clothes?"  He said "Without" and I said "Whew, OK I can deal with that!"  

Once I start to show with clothes, it's going to be tough to find clothes to wear because I will be limited to my wardrobe which I brought with me.  I think I will be able to make it to November when I return to the US for a visit to shop for some clothes but finding anything in an american size 12 is tough in Japan and shipping stuff overseas is a fortune!  Right now I have loose knit pants that I wear everyday and they are OK.  Can't do anything too fancy, but this will work for now.  I am so grateful I don't go into an office to work! 

[Lynann]

I have a bump with or without clothes. But since this is my 3rd pregnancy in as many years it isn't a huge surprise. Fortunately I already have quite a good collection of comfortable maternity clothes. I know its going to be really obvious any time now, but if you don't ask I'm not telling right now. It won't be more than another couple of weeks before people start asking though.

[BaileyB]

I don't have much time to respond and will be gone all weekend before I can respond more but I am think I am showing more than I realize. I keep putting maternity clothes that are a little too big but then I walk past a mirror or window or something and I think I do look pregnant.

We are off to a wedding and all of our college friends will be there. Most of the know we recently had am/s so they might think we could be pregnant again. It will be interesting if any of them guess or ask or hint at it. I suppose when I am not drinking it might be obvious (being that they are drinking buddies... :-) )

[timesway]

Hehe bailey, i was surprised when noone noticed me not drinking last night!! my belly is definately showing more every day.. its quite lovely really .. last night and this mornings sickness has been the worst so far.. spent most of the day wretching .. and evereything suddenly tastes horribly repulsive.. PLUS cigarette smoke is now unbearable even in an open space... i think my hormone levals must be getting quite high.. at least thats a good sign :)

[AmandaLynnH]

Originally Posted by Lynann 

AmanadaLynnH wouldn't you add the baby once its born.

This is what we had to do when both our boys were born, so that their healthcare for the birth was covered too. I think it was a 30 day window we had to get them added outside of open enrollment without having a fee. Its usually allowed as "life changing event" (or something like that.) We had the same thing when I immigrated over here 4 years ago and was added to DH's insurance, we had the 30 day window as immigration into the USA was also counted as one of those events. If we waited longer we would have a fee, and if we waited until the annual open enrollment then I (or the baby) would have no coverage until we were added.

You might want to give HR a call if your insurance is through work, or give the insurance company a call if its individual insurance you have.

Ah that could be.  We sort of just assumed that the only time to make changes was during the annual enrollment.  When we get a bit further in we'll ask HR. 

Originally Posted by CoBabyMaker 

I was thinking about being huge in winter and wondering how on earth I might cover my giant bump at the end!  I usually wear dresses at the end because all the shirts get too short and the pants are getting too tight.  I have two July babies but I tend to be cold all the time so the heat wasn't a big deal, then again it's not humid here. Another benefit to a May baby is they will be a few months old before sick season hits.

I just ate an entire box of mac and cheese. Morning sickness is starting to kick in and it's the only thing that sounds good.  The bad part is that I want a second bowl...That's so wrong. 

I just spent the morning with another preggie friend.  She kind of wants to find out what they are having but her DH doesn't.  How about you all?  Will you be finding out if you are having a boy or girl or waiting for a surprise?

We will be finding out.  I sort of would like to be surprised but I know that finding out is really important to DH.  I also like the idea of being able to find so we can plan since we already have two girls we have lots of really girly stuff. 

I'm so glad I'm not the only one who has been eating mac and cheese.  I'm out of the easy mac cups at work today though which makes me sad.  If it's wrong to love mac and cheese I don't want to be right.  

Migraines and pregnancy should not be allowed to coincide.  And I'd like a refund from my midwife.  For years they've told me my hormonal migraines would go away either when I turned thirty or when I had a kid.  Well, I'm 30 and pregnant.  I should not be having this migraine right now.  No fair!

We had our first ultrasound yesterday to date the pregnancy.  Since this was our first month off birth control we weren't sure if I ovulated during the typical 14ish day in the cycle or if I ovulated later so we weren't sure how far along I was.  I could have been anywhere from 6-8 weeks and I really felt like I was 8 thinking back on how I had been feeling and whatnot.  Well, sadly, I'm just 6 weeks 6 days.  Damn.  I was really hoping that I was closing in on 9 weeks as 3 more weeks of morning sickness sounded much more bearable than 5.  As a result my due date is now May 18th and the u/s just looked like a blob.  Kind of a let down all in all.  Does anyone know then when I would have conceived?  If I count back 7 weeks from tomorrow that is August 11th.  Now, IIRC you're technically two weeks more pregnant than when you actually conceived, right?  So that would mean that I conceived around the 25th?  Here's my chart if anyone can shed some light on this.  It would have had to have been around August 11-12 or 22-27 unless I'm carrying the next messiah.  I'm just kinda curious if I ovulated when I thought I did or not...

[Lynann]

The actual date of conception can be up to 5 days after sex, as that is theoretically how long the sperm can survive inside your body. You should have conceived within about 24 hours of ovulation though, as the egg doesn't live much longer than that. As for the whole dating thing, yes it is actually 2 weeks more than the actual baby has been around. At this stage though the dating is supposed to be pretty accurate. So a pregnancy of 6w6d would be 4w6d gestation.

[timesway]

So how r we all doing? I'm guessing we are all getting to the 6-10 week bracket.. How is that making everyone feel? I think this week at 8 weeks I really started feeling the massiveness of this all.. My circumstances r mental so im trying to surround myself in friends and stay chilled but it's easier said then done.. I've started joining way too many baby newsletters and watching pregnancy stuff.. It's like I'm trying to soak my mind with it all.. I think this is the first time I've allowed myself to "feel" and act pregnant.. And it scares me just incase it messes up.. But it's a beautiful feeling to think there is a little person growing inside of your belly.. It's quite amazing

[BaileyB]

I'm 9 weeks now and just hoping the ms goes away by 12 weeks this time instead of 16 or 20 like my last 2 pregnancies. Last week it seemed like it was getting better but it is back now and I have been getting headaches along with it too.

At the wedding we went to this weekend I ended up with an all day migraine and, although it sucked majorly, I thought it was a nice built in excuse to why I wasn't drinking. I went back to our room early and laid down the rest of the night, thinking I had totally dodged any pregnancy questions. When DH came to check on me I asked if anyone was asking if I was pregnant and he said, "No, but I'm telling everyone you are and that you are probably puking your guts out." Gee, thanks you loud mouth! haha.

Anyway, I keep thinking about 3 weeks (fingers crossed) until the end of morning sickness and 6 weeks until I might feel movement (but maybe earlier because baby is front and center this time).

[Lynann]

I'm 8 weeks, and definitely in the middle of the worst stage for nausea. I am finding that I NEED to eat within about 5 min of waking and then about every 90 minutes after that. Even brief wakings during the night require food to stop me from getting to the "I can't move I'm so nauseous" point.

I know that DS1 has been taking in how I've been feeling. He has been extra snuggly for the last week, and will sometimes stop playing and climb up on the sofa with me and just snuggle into my side. He always seems to know when my nausea is really bad, because that is when he does this the most.

[Quinalla]

Originally Posted by AmandaLynnH 

It's possible I purposely planned my pregnancy around the weather so that I wouldn't be huge when it was all cold and icy and increase my slip and fall likelihood and so that I wouldn't be huge during the heat and humidity of the summer.  

Of course we just got our insurance re-enrollment stuff yesterday and I believe that I have to keep my single plan when I enroll this year and then have to switch to a family one the following year.  If I was smart I would have planned it so I'd have the baby in Jan. and get 12 months of family insurance for the cost of single.  Drat!

Isn't it funny how you plan stuff like this. I did not want another winter baby (even though she was a tax break baby as we got the full year tax break for her for all the month and a week or so she was with us), so I planned so the baby would arrive in spring or summer so I would have nice weather for my maternity leave and not feel even more cooped up in the house than I already do with a newborn. And I didn't want to be pregnant during the summer if possible, its nice to be able to wear sandals as tying shoes later in pregnancy is a pain, but otherwise I was too darn hot all the time in the summer!

I'm definitely needing to eat frequent, but smaller meals. I'll feel super hungry, but then only be able to eat about half of what I normally would at a meal. And yeah, needing to pee frequently for sure. Ah hormones! The fatigue still hasn't hit yet, I'm 6weeks, 3days today, I'm just waiting. I've been a touch more tired that normal, but nothing that is really mattering that much.

And yeah, for insurance, you can definitely add your baby, but you do have to do it quickly (30 days). Anytime there is a major life event, you are allowed to change your insurance outside of the annual enrollment period (birth, death, divorce, etc.)

[CoBabyMaker]

I'm 9 weeks now and just hoping the ms goes away by 12 weeks this time instead of 16 or 20 like my last 2 pregnancies.

Ugh, I feel you.  I am so hoping that too.  It's not been horrible for me this time but any about of nausea (especially when you already have a child(ren) is rough.

I'm so sorry that you had a hard day at the wedding.  That is no fun!

I know that DS1 has been taking in how I've been feeling. He has been extra snuggly for the last week, and will sometimes stop playing and climb up on the sofa with me and just snuggle into my side. He always seems to know when my nausea is really bad, because that is when he does this the most.

Aaaw, so sweet. 

The fatigue still hasn't hit yet, I'm 6weeks, 3days today, I'm just waiting. I've been a touch more tired that normal, but nothing that is really mattering that much.

Boy has mine hit (along with relatively mild morning sickness) this last week.  I wake up in the mornings and can't sleep and then 30 minutes later I want to crawl back into bed. 

My morning sickness is so much more mild this time than my previous pregnancies that I feel like I shouldn't complain but man is it kicking my butt.  I am sooo exhausted.  We had a long day yesterday and I just completely crashed and that was with a 45 minute rest/mini-nap midday. 

Is anyone else having a hard time maintaining a consistent body temperature?  I am constantly getting cold, then too hot.  Yesterday I had on a dress with a scarf and cardigan.  I kept having to take them off and put them then on over and over. 

Last night I  woke in the middle of the night and something weird happened.  I got up and went to the bathroom.  All of a sudden I had sharp pain across my abs (very surface), cold sweat and felt like i was going to puke.  I ended up just laying on the bathroom floor for a while.  It was really weird and sort of scary. 

I'm also light headed all the time but i suspect that's mostly from morning sickness...  Kind of feeling like I should go to the doc sooner but what can they do?

[BaileyB]

Originally Posted by Lynann 

I'm 8 weeks, and definitely in the middle of the worst stage for nausea. I am finding that I NEED to eat within about 5 min of waking and then about every 90 minutes after that. Even brief wakings during the night require food to stop me from getting to the "I can't move I'm so nauseous" point.

I know that DS1 has been taking in how I've been feeling. He has been extra snuggly for the last week, and will sometimes stop playing and climb up on the sofa with me and just snuggle into my side. He always seems to know when my nausea is really bad, because that is when he does this the most.

That is sweet! DD was being like that but now she has been making life harder for me. Full of tantrums and screams. I think she is getting over a cold though and possibly teething.

I am having a second wave of exhaustion now. It sucks. I feel too tired to make something to eat but then I feel sick for not eating. Bleh. I think my nausea seems to be getting better as long as I avoid too much sugar and eat plenty when I am hungry. Snacking between meals is not enough, I have to just keep having meals all day.

[PhilsBabyMama]

I'm 8 weeks along and *finally* feeling better!  At a little before 6 weeks the morning (all day) sickness and fatigue hit me hard. That coupled with relentless tension headaches made me pretty miserable.  This is my second pregnancy, and my first was nothing like that! I was hardly sick and felt like I had plenty of energy. (Probably because I wasn't chasing a 4 year old around!)  My appetite is back, the headaches have eased up and I actually had enough energy to walk 4 miles this morning after dropping my son off at preschool.  Woo hoo!

[adventuregirl]

Originally Posted by CoBabyMaker 

Last night I  woke in the middle of the night and something weird happened.  I got up and went to the bathroom.  All of a sudden I had sharp pain across my abs (very surface), cold sweat and felt like i was going to puke.  I ended up just laying on the bathroom floor for a while.  It was really weird and sort of scary. 

I'm also light headed all the time but i suspect that's mostly from morning sickness...  Kind of feeling like I should go to the doc sooner but what can they do?

Oh, weird! Sounds like a manifestation of ms, hope it doesn't happen again! I don't know what the doc could do really... I had a similar middle of the night thing happen last week where I had a uncomfortable feeling in my belly, kind of a sharp pain, it was brief and never happened again, but totally freaked me out for the next hour as I tried to get back to sleep. All the while I was poking at my boobs to see if they were still sore and getting upset because they weren't very... But everything was back to normal (sore boobs and all) in the am and ever since. I think weird things happen and probably the worst thing we can do is stress about them, but in the moment I have no idea how not to!

Originally Posted by AmandaLynnH 

I'm so glad I'm not the only one who has been eating mac and cheese.  I'm out of the easy mac cups at work today though which makes me sad.  If it's wrong to love mac and cheese I don't want to be right.  

Yes! Me too! I know its not the best food, but it is sooooo delicious! Totally my comfort food.

Just hitting 7 wks here, wanting the time to tick away so we can get to a "safer" zone. I'm getting anxious to tell people, but trying to hold out. I really really really want to tell my DD(8), but once she knows, the whole world will know. Just last week, out of the blue she said to me "Mom, I really want a baby brother or a baby sister". Yay!

We chose a midwife over the weekend, so I am excited to get started on visits.

I seem to pretty much be tired and hungry all the time, so getting up at 6am with the prospect of working all day today was not my favorite, but ya gotta do what ya gotta do, I guess.

Hope everyone's week gets off to a good start!

-Sheryl

[nstewart]

Originally Posted by BaileyB 

At the wedding we went to this weekend I ended up with an all day migraine and, although it sucked majorly, I thought it was a nice built in excuse to why I wasn't drinking. I went back to our room early and laid down the rest of the night, thinking I had totally dodged any pregnancy questions. When DH came to check on me I asked if anyone was asking if I was pregnant and he said, "No, but I'm telling everyone you are and that you are probably puking your guts out." Gee, thanks you loud mouth! haha.

This made me laugh!  haha.  So much for keeping things on the down-low!

Originally Posted by Quinalla 


Isn't it funny how you plan stuff like this. I did not want another winter baby (even though she was a tax break baby as we got the full year tax break for her for all the month and a week or so she was with us), so I planned so the baby would arrive in spring or summer so I would have nice weather for my maternity leave and not feel even more cooped up in the house than I already do with a newborn. And I didn't want to be pregnant during the summer if possible, its nice to be able to wear sandals as tying shoes later in pregnancy is a pain, but otherwise I was too darn hot all the time in the summer!

DS was a summer baby (end of July) and I didn't really want to go through that again!  I was really uncomfortable at the end and for the first month post-partum.  I pretty much lived in my underwear around the house to deal with the sweaty-ness.  Gross!  I think May is perfect.  It'll be warm enough to get out for walks right away, and we won't be huge in the winter months when slips and falls are most dangerous.

I am 9wk4d today.  The MS seems to be letting up (but who knows, it could hit again at any moment) but the fatigue is kicking my butt.  I haven't been sleeping well as it is (having to pee, DS waking during the night, having trouble falling asleep due to a busy mind busy with nothing in particular) and got a horrid cold on Friday.  Thankfully, I have a 4 day weekend coming up (Friday is an earned day off, Monday is Thanksgiving in Canada) and we aren't going anywhere and have very few plans.  Hopefully I can catch up on rest.  And in fact, this 4 day weekend corresponds exactly to when my fatigue was the worst when I was pregnant with DS.  So timing wise I am getting very lucky!

[AmandaLynnH]

So my migraine kept me from attending a family wedding on Saturday and from having my MIL so we could tell her in person on Sunday and now I'm working from home although I'm not being terribly productive.  I've been eating mainly Pringles and I just had to look back at the can to remember what they were called.  Lunch today?  Spaghettios.

Yea, this is going awesomely.

NOT.

I am hopeful though when I read about people having it let up some around 8-9 weeks.  

I think the unisom+b6 combo has really been helping and am pretty sure the last 5 days have just been thanks to my friendly migraine so once that clears out maybe I'll start to feel human again.  My boss has been great about letting me work from home but I'm starting to feel bad about doing it so often.

[PhilsBabyMama]

Originally Posted by AmandaLynnH 

So my migraine kept me from attending a family wedding on Saturday and from having my MIL so we could tell her in person on Sunday and now I'm working from home although I'm not being terribly productive.  I've been eating mainly Pringles and I just had to look back at the can to remember what they were called.  Lunch today?  Spaghettios.

I totally understand.  For a little while I was eating quite a bit of junk food, because it was what I could keep down. It was either that or nothing and I figure some calories are better than none.

I hope you start feeling better soon!

[snozzberry]

Originally Posted by CoBabyMaker 

Last night I  woke in the middle of the night and something weird happened.  I got up and went to the bathroom.  All of a sudden I had sharp pain across my abs (very surface), cold sweat and felt like i was going to puke.  I ended up just laying on the bathroom floor for a while.  It was really weird and sort of scary. 

I'm also light headed all the time but i suspect that's mostly from morning sickness...  Kind of feeling like I should go to the doc sooner but what can they do?

How are you feeling now? I'm no doctor/midwife, but it sounds more like round ligament pain because it was a sharp pain that occurred when you went from being at rest to moving.

If you're scared about it being a m/c sign, if that were the case it seems more likely that you would have felt cramps or even contractions. At least, that's how m/c felt for me.

I hope you're feeling better!

[CoBabyMaker]

How are you feeling now?

Thanks.  I haven't had it happen again.  Just regular morning sickness awfulness now.  I hate trying to be a mom and wife with morning sickness because i frankly just can't.  I had to call a friend last night to go to the grocery store for me.  DH had to work late and we were out of things.  I am so weak because I can't eat much so it just makes it hard to do much at all.

I don't know how you ladies deal with morning sickness who are working.  You are amazing!

[jeanblu]

Originally Posted by CoBabyMaker 

I don't know how you ladies deal with morning sickness who are working.  You are amazing!

I just have to throw in that as I was browsing this thread, my daughter (4 1/2) reads aloud, "Co Baby Maker -- I know that guy!"  What?! lol.