Originally Posted by nstewart
So, with this pregnancy fatigue, I hate to say it but I'm really starting to resent co-sleeping and night nursing. I think I need to make a change. DS already starts the night in his own bed, but last night climbed in with me at 10:45, then DH moved him to his own bed around 2, but he was back in ours by 3, I moved him again around 4:45 and he was back in our bed before 6. He's been really wanting mommy milk all the time lately and I hate to say "no" but I am just so tired! I love cosleeping the nights that he actually "sleeps" but lately that hasn't been the case very often. Anyone else? Any suggestions? Part of me just wants to go sleep in the spareroom for a week and make DH deal with it.
Oh, I know what you mean! We just night-weaned DS2. DH ended up spending the whole night with him (DS in crib, DH in bed). The first few nights were hard, but not awful. He managed to get him back to sleep. After just a week or two, he responded really well to DH and went back to sleep with just hearing him say "Shh." Now, we are about 6 weeks out, and DS2 just started sleeping through the entire night without waking up.
It was heartbreaking for me to hear him crying for me in the beginning, and I honestly missed sleeping with him! So, I tried one night to re-introduce myself and cosleeping at his first wake-up (but not my boob), and it went horribly! He couldn't sleep with me next to him! So, I gave up by about midnight! Went back to him sleeping in crib with DH nearby, and things have really gone well since.
So, if DH is willing, I totally vote for having DH deal with it. If you start now or soon, your DS will probably be sleeping through the night by the time DC2 comes along! It will probably take some time, but it can have great rewards!
And, let me add that we did NOT change cosleeping with DS1 when I was pregnant with DS2. We tried, believe me, but he was a very persistent personality, and just would not have it. He would be up every hour, for 2 hours at a time, at each wake up. He wouldn't settle with DH. I think we tried 3 nights in a row, a couple of different occasions, and then gave up. Once DS2 came along, things were really hard, because DS1 was still waking at 5 am (and other times) and wanting to nurse (he was 2.75 years at the time). We had some really hellish mornings there when DS1 was screaming to nurse, newborn DS2 really needed to nurse, and that made DS1 more jealous, and scream more. It. was. hard.! I really, really wished we had done more to get DS1 nightweaned before DS2 was born! Not that we didn't try, but I guess I wished we had just persisted, because it would have made life a whole lot better in those early months. Eventually, things settled down, but it was really, really rough!
So, recognize that all LOs are different and nightweaning may not be easy, but there are definitely huge benefits to doing it, not just now during pregnancy but once baby arrives!