I would LOVE a homebirth... but I cannot afford a doula or midwife, and I am 'high risk' because of RH factor, tilted pelvis, and irritable uterus ( or so my OB tells me )
My first birth was a so-so experience. I arrived at the hospital after laboring at home for 5 hours... I was dialated to an 8 when I got there... I jumped into the shower and instinctively rocked on my hands and knees (not knowing my baby was posterier)... I was able to stay on top of my contractions by making deep, low ahhing noises. After about an hour or two of that, the nurses came in and told me they needed to monitor baby. I REALLY didn't want to get out. They needed me out of the shower and on my back in the bed. Looking back I feel that I protested and fought against their request... but apparently I didn't because within minutes I was flat on my back... having full on horrendous back labor... no breaks in between contractions... and BEGGING for pain meds. I felt like a caged animal.
I ended up getting the intrathecal (I live on a small island, no epidurals here) and cried because I felt I gave up on my body and my baby. I felt horrible giving into pain meds.... It turned out that I got a few hour nap, woke up at 10 cm. Doctors told me to push... I told them I didn't have an urge to push and didn't want to... they told me that I had to or I would be getting a cesarian. Around this time... the doctor realized the posterior position of my baby.
I pushed for an hour, then my doctor came in and told me I had better hurry up or I wouldn't have a choice and I was putting my baby at risk. I stuck to my guns ( SO THANKFUL I WAS ABLE TO DO SO) and told her that I was NOT going to be getting a c section. I pushed for a total of 3.5 hours... (mainly because I couldnt feel any sensation because of the meds... ) towards the end I started to regain feeling in my legs and bottom... And I pushed his head out. Doctor was nervous because babys heartrate was low so she was yelling "push push push!!" and she pulled him out... hurting his little shoulder. He had a bruised shoulder for 2 weeks. :( poor little guy
I am thankful that I was able to vaginally deliver my son, but this time around I feel alot more confident and empowered to have the birth experience I feel is right for me.
I plan on laboring at home for as long as possible and going to the hospital when I am feeling transition come on. But... I dont know if that will go as planned. If I do have to labor for any amount of time in the hospital I would like to be in the shower ( or whatever my body want to do) without any intervention. I understand that it is the nurses and doctors responsibility to monitor and check vitals and all that.. but I don't want it! None of it.
So this time... if they tell me they need me to lay down and I don't want to. I am not moving. I plan on being a pain in the ass patient. Unless they completly allow me to do what I want ( doubtful )
Does anyone have advice or experience with this??? Ideas... anything?