I am what you would call an "older mom". Married at 35, and now at 38 have a 6 month baby girl. About to turn 39. I really can't stand the discrimination against older moms. People act shocked that DH and I plan to have 1 or 2 more kids even. I have had people just assume that DD will be our one and only just based on my age. No, we plan to have more. I was an only child and extremely lonely through my life because of it, so it is very important to give my daughter a sibling.I will stop by age 45 though, but I see nothing wrong with having another at 41 or 42. DH and I plan to start trying for Baby #2 shortly. We had absolutely no fertility problems with DD. Yet "well meaning" relatives love to tell me how it'll probably be impossible for me to get pregnant at my age. I had no problem with baby#1, so I could very well get pregnant again easily.
I have endured relatives who say nasty things about older moms. I am told I should've had a baby in my 20s (despite the fact i didn't marry til later and had to live at home cause my job didn't even make enough to cover rent), told how embarrassed my children will be with having a mom who's old enough to be their grandma, how its not fair to be an older mother cause you will die when your children are younger, ect.
Then there's my own insecurities. I feel badly that I didn't meet my husband til later when all my friends had families by the time they were 30 while I was single til I was 35. Will I be the oldest mom of DD's friends? Will I ever find friends my age who also have kids the same age as mine? Or will I always be the oldest mom among DD's friends when she starts school?
I love being a mom. It is my dream come true cause I thought I'd be single and childless my whole life. But it does feel wierd being the "old mom". We live in a small country town where its the norm for girls to get married straight out of high school and have a couple of kids by the time they are 25. So in that respect I guess I am old enough to be a grandma.