i think this headline will probably catch some attention, and might make people mad. i don't mean to. but i'm not sure how to raise this question, but i intend this post in all seriousness and without judgement. i do have some questions for our great sounding board community.
i know a couple families that i am fairly close with. the moms and i are friends, the kids are friends. in both cases the husbands are a little controlling with the money and the moms are pretty strict about not "lowering themselves" to buying regular food (or in the case of one of them described it as "crap" food). this would be your standard lower quality grocery store food. (aka: what i buy. i shop at aldi. my husband is also a little controlling about money and he criticizes me when i go to trader joes. he thinks it's too expensive to buy organic.) anyways...
in both of the cases of the families where the mom buys high quality organic... it has recently come to my attention that they are on medicaid and can't afford gym shoes (family 1) and now going to the food pantry for food because they have literally none (family 2).
i feel in a bind mentally/emotionally. part of me wants to offer some of my food if we have left overs or things that we would *send* to the food pantry. but i recall the words that she doesn't want to lower herself to buy crap food.
and part of me wants to buy the kid a pair of gym shoes if the family is so broke. but then i think that eventually my own husband is going to start questioning what i spend "his" money on and i guess i better not. not to mention, here i am saving money by shopping at aldi, while they spend more on groceries but run short for school supplies.
i just don't know what to think of it all.
i guess we all have our own priorities. maybe there is nothing for me to really do.
does anyone have a different perspective for me to think on??