My son is just seven, starting first grade, and my husband and I are splitting. My son has home-based ABA and speech, OT etc. outside of school time, plus the requisite kid stuff, playdates, soccer, and birthday parties, all of which need pre-teaching.
My husband works a big job, and travels, but insists a 50-50 split parenting schedule. This despite having been a 90-10 parent at best when we lived together. He would get too frustrated with my son, and never wanted him alone for long.
Now, he took him against my wishes on this 50-50 or else schedule for the last month and my son is regressing loads, wetting, stimming, hitting, and not being able to be in class. My husband has made less than half his appointments and can not feasibly care for him without multiple caregivers. He works long days and his work is more than an hour away from home. The sitters he hires have no experience with my son or his program, but are college kids who are taking him to their college kid house. All while I am home, and available to be with him.
I have been at home with him for 7 years, and know my son can not have his needs met when we have two full-time jobs. I tried it for a year, and his ABA therapist, and the school said, too much inconsistency.
I am seeking proposals that help split time somewhat, maybe a day or two a week, but also have a lot of consistency and follow through from a treatment perspective (also not my DH's forte).
Do any of you do this? What has worked for you?
Edited by julianito - 11/27/13 at 3:17pm