I am new to these boards and really admire the support system here. I am reaching out to you tonight to give me a thoughtful and honest opinion on my mission for my son to receive an IEP and help from the public school he is attending.
A little bit about my son he a 9 year old 3rd grader with an A/B average and has been formally diagnosed with ADHD , Anxiety Disorder, and Manic Depression. He as a person is full of zest and has a heart the size of the universe, he has trouble making friends but when he does make a friend he keeps them. He loves to go to school and he loves success.
Our lil situation, despite my sons Mr.Wonderful personality he tends to get into a ton of trouble at school and at home :( . He has been sent to the principals office 3 times since June for stealing, lying, and not doing his homework. The teachers say that he acts out in class, goes out of his way to lie, he gets to pull cards for getting his homework done, and not participating in large group discussions. My son comes home and tells me that he doesn't have enough time to jot his home work assignments down before class moves on to the next subject and that sometimes he only gets part of it down. He also tells me that when the teachers is talking he only gets the first half of what she is saying and by time he " looks back at the board she is talking about something completely different". When he goes to snack time he all ways forgets his snack and is really hungry in the middle of class. One day he came home with out his "agenda" in his binder ( where it is suppose to permanently stay) he interpreted " Students put your agendas up and turn to pg..." as " Students take your agendas out and put them away some where else". He was so upset because he had all of his homework written down in it but couldn't understand why he had to leave it at school! Last year it was the same problems but much worse the teacher worked with me and we got through the year just fine but she said that testing for and IEP ( individualized education program) was pointless because they would turn him down immediately because of his grades.
This year I met with his teachers and literally got the grade books thrown at me. I told them what my concerns were and asked them if they would do simple things in the classroom such as move him to the front of the room, pay attention for day dreaming and tap on his desk if needed, give the eye to mouth signal to help him focus, sign agenda, and give him a homework buddy. I got nothing but an attitude from these teachers and finally a reluctant agreement to sign the agenda and move his desk. I asked them if they thought that he needed a referral for any help outside of the classroom and I was looked at like I was a out of line child.
My family members think I shouldn't pursue the testing for an IEP and any other kind of legal action just because they think that it wouldn't make a difference and that it is a waste of time because he is making good grades, the teachers seem to feel this way too but I feel like he needs help ...am I just being an overly proactive parent in this? Should I just leave it at that and not pursue any thing else?
This is evidently bothering me to the point of discussing it at 1:30 AM ... HELP