LivingSky... Fertility Friend doesn't like all of the high temps at the beginning of my cycle, so they probably won't give me cross hairs. But, it's okay, I know when I ovulated. lol
aHikaru... I laughed at your "we'll have 9 months!" Hahahaha!!!
Lidamama84... I'm with you, it's too late now to worry about whether I can afford a kid or not! Waiting for the money to be "comfortable" is what put me in this situation in the first place!
Think Fertile Thoughts!!
Stevi 
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.I like your thinking!
We want to have our kids close in age, and I feel ready to have another baby around, but I still feel like we should be better off financially before starting to try for #2.
I believe being emotionally ready, and for me physically, is most important in wanting a baby. A happy momma= happy baby, no matter the financial issues, babies are a blessing :)
What a blessing to be 2 months from debt-free. That sounds like a great place to be. Is he OK with you not testing? I could never hold out. LOL
I think I'm waiting for a time when I'll be 100% emotionally prepared for the result either way, quite honestly I was feeling good today, but hubby called and I think I want to wait until he's ready for the answer, either way, I feel if it's a no, he'll want to NTNP, if it's a yes, he'll be unrealistic. The debt is one credit card <2K (on necessary items) and we have a little savings (something is better than nothing ), that's it, we rent, lease a car and I home school, so just waiting for him to calm down.
....Thanks everyone for being so understanding :)
I hear ya all about the finances. I am a believer in "it will all fall into place" and as long as there isn't an impending crisis, I feel alright.
And now we begin the (imagined) symptom watch! Today I felt some twinges, sort of tickly, in my wombular area. And DD is talking about babies a ton. She goes through phases. And here I am just at 4DPO. It is going to be a long week. LOL
And here I am just at 4DPO. It is going to be a long week. LOL
When are you planning to test? I'm soo tempted right now, maybe ill test the same day as you.
LOL @ woumbular area.
Thanks for the perspective re:financial stuff. I agree with you ladies, but at the same time I can't entirely quiet down that inner freak-out voice. It worked out last time, and we were much worse off than we are now. I have a loving DH who genuinely WANTS another baby, and a DD who does too. It is the right time for us, my anxiety be damned.
I'm 7DPO and I have already taken a test today, though I knew it would be negative. I have 3 extra-sensitive HPTs that can detect hCG at 10 mlU/ml but I decided not to "waste" those today because I knew it would be too early. So instead I wasted a test that can only detect @ 25 mlU/ml, knowing for CERTAIN that it would not be able to pick up the hCG even if I had any in my urine. Talk about irrational! LOL.
So now I'm really trying to distract myself and not test again til Friday or Saturday, when I'll be 11-12 DPO. Which is still probably too early, ugh. This waiting is literally making me crazy.
Also, I have only one ovary (righty was removed when I was a Sr in HS) so I might only be ovulating e/o month? Kill me now, lol.
When are you planning to test? I'm soo tempted right now, maybe ill test the same day as you.
I am trying to hod out until 10DPO but I have Wondfos so we'll see how long I hold out.
I am trying to hod out until 10DPO but I have Wondfos so we'll see how long I hold out.
I was thinking of testing this weekend as well, but not feeling hopeful right now, for no reason :/ think I just need to set a date, with a CB digital... 
Thanks for all the replies guys. I'm still totally freaked out. I mean, I knew, sure it *could* happen but now that it has I'm not sure I'm ready. DH assures me this is completely normal and does not make me the worst person in the world but I remain unconvinced. I'm a bit of a control freak so the idea of not being completely in control of my body really freaks me out. Plus I had some stomach issues a couple of years ago and never really fully recovered so the whole morning sickness thing really freaks me out. Although if it's how I've been feeling the last few weeks I can handle that. Part of my body issues stem from my mother constantly telling me that "she was skinny too before she had kids" implying that once I have them I'm going to turn into a whale. It doesn't help that she insinuates I'm fat every chance she gets (I'm 5'7'' and 140 lbs right now which is a bit higher than I like).
There's also the fact that I really have no idea how far along I am because I haven't had a normal cycle yet. There are two possible times that it could have happened, one before I started charting and keeping track when we were just not trying not to and one after when we were trying. Those were about 2 weeks apart.
I hear everyone on the finances thing, that's one of my big hang ups. I know we do well for ourselves and are saving a ton right now but knowing that daycare will take a really large chunk of my salary is really scary. There are plenty of people who aren't nearly as well off financially as we are and they manage so I know theoretically we'll be fine but it's hard to convince myself of that without actually seeing what it'll be like.
Regarding my mother, she's undiagnosed but I'm pretty sure she has something called borderline personality disorder. We just had a truly craptacular day with her on Saturday and my brother is preparing right now to cut her out of his life. DH and I are working toward the same thing and I know the baby will be one of the last straws. She's currently throwing a tantrum because my bro and his wife and baby didn't go to her house this past weekend (3.5 hrs away) because the 4 wk old baby had a cold. Apparently there was name calling, accusations of being selfish, threats to cut them out, random insults at my dad's gf (they've been divorced for 18 years), etc. When we saw my grandma this past weekend she kept talking about how important mothers are when one first has a baby and all I kept thinking about was how to keep mine the hell away from us (I guess if I'm protective of it that's a good sign, right?).
So yea...still freaked. Called and left a message for my doctor to get in. I know it's possible this one won't stick too since it's my first cycle off the pill. I didn't temp today but my temps have been falling some and IIRC that's not a good sign either.
And I'm really, really gonna miss sleep. I do love it so.
Oh, AmandaLynnH 
Your DH is right, everything you're feeling is normal, but it's still a panicky feeling, losing control. You lose more and more control as your kids get bigger, but you also become more and more ok with it (here speaks a control freak!)
Don't worry about dating your pg, you usually have an ultrasound for that within the first trimester. Also, don't worry about losing the baby. You can't change that, so just try to relax and enjoy all the crazy new things you're going to experience. Some women have a really rough pregnancy, and others breeze through it. You just can't tell ahead of time what's going to happen, so I would try and just take things one day at a time. And, yes, stock up on sleep. Although, both my kids are pretty awful sleepers, but to survive I co-sleep and learned to BF lying down, because it means I never have to get up at night or even fully wake up. Sure, I'm not as well rested as before kids, but all things considered, I still slept through the night almost every night from the time my kids were 6 weeks old.
Regarding $$ and daycare, what we did was to start putting aside each month what daycare would cost us when I went on my second mat leave (I didn't think to do it with my first mat leave). You can even do it now, while pregnant. It gives you a nice nest egg (for buying baby stuff, which is darn expensive!), gets your budget used to factoring in daycare, and maybe you can use some of your savings to stay home longer when your maternity leave runs out, if you wish to do so :)
As far as your mom goes, only your and DH know what's best for your family. If you have to cut her out, so be it. YOUR new family is what matters. Is your mom open to seeing a doctor/psychologist? Does she realized that there are times when she is "not right"?
I was thinking of testing this weekend as well, but not feeling hopeful right now, for no reason :/ think I just need to set a date, with a CB digital...
Let's test on Sunday, OK?
Thanks for all the replies guys. I'm still totally freaked out. I mean, I knew, sure it *could* happen but now that it has I'm not sure I'm ready. DH assures me this is completely normal and does not make me the worst person in the world but I remain unconvinced. I'm a bit of a control freak so the idea of not being completely in control of my body really freaks me out. Plus I had some stomach issues a couple of years ago and never really fully recovered so the whole morning sickness thing really freaks me out. Although if it's how I've been feeling the last few weeks I can handle that. Part of my body issues stem from my mother constantly telling me that "she was skinny too before she had kids" implying that once I have them I'm going to turn into a whale. It doesn't help that she insinuates I'm fat every chance she gets (I'm 5'7'' and 140 lbs right now which is a bit higher than I like).
There's also the fact that I really have no idea how far along I am because I haven't had a normal cycle yet. There are two possible times that it could have happened, one before I started charting and keeping track when we were just not trying not to and one after when we were trying. Those were about 2 weeks apart.
I hear everyone on the finances thing, that's one of my big hang ups. I know we do well for ourselves and are saving a ton right now but knowing that daycare will take a really large chunk of my salary is really scary. There are plenty of people who aren't nearly as well off financially as we are and they manage so I know theoretically we'll be fine but it's hard to convince myself of that without actually seeing what it'll be like.
Regarding my mother, she's undiagnosed but I'm pretty sure she has something called borderline personality disorder. We just had a truly craptacular day with her on Saturday and my brother is preparing right now to cut her out of his life. DH and I are working toward the same thing and I know the baby will be one of the last straws. She's currently throwing a tantrum because my bro and his wife and baby didn't go to her house this past weekend (3.5 hrs away) because the 4 wk old baby had a cold. Apparently there was name calling, accusations of being selfish, threats to cut them out, random insults at my dad's gf (they've been divorced for 18 years), etc. When we saw my grandma this past weekend she kept talking about how important mothers are when one first has a baby and all I kept thinking about was how to keep mine the hell away from us (I guess if I'm protective of it that's a good sign, right?).
So yea...still freaked. Called and left a message for my doctor to get in. I know it's possible this one won't stick too since it's my first cycle off the pill. I didn't temp today but my temps have been falling some and IIRC that's not a good sign either.
And I'm really, really gonna miss sleep. I do love it so.
It's all gonna be OK. Pregnancy lasts almost a year for a reason. The preparation is a process. In a lot of ways having a baby simplifies your life, puts things in perspective, YK? I would recommend a book called "the Birth of a Mother". I remember reading it when I was pregnant and it helped. Get your library card out and start reading! Just stay away from the scary books, there is no good gonna come out of worrying more.
Hi Everyone,
This is LisaAdkins20, I changed my username :)
After taking the whole summer of TTC, my DH and I are back on TTC #1! Could I be moved to WAITING TO O?
It is so very encouraging to read that I am not the only one who goes from the gut wrenching need/want of a baby to total panic after unprotected sex :) In one moment I think that maybe we should wait one more year, and I feel confident in that decision. The next day all I want to do is to have a baby here already. It is so confusing, and I think it confuses DH more than me. Sometimes I feel like I can't tell him about any of this, because I know that he is nervous and that he is worried. And I don't want him to be even more worried when he know how i feel sometimes....
Also, regarding the finances, I am completely freaked out. We will have to start paying if student loans starting January, and I am not sure how we can afford a baby. But before now, our main point was to graduate so that we can afford a baby. I am starting to believe that there is never a time in which we will be able to truly afford one, so I guess we are just going to have to deal with it :)
Our cars are paid off, and we don't have any other debt other than student loans and our house payment. SO I guess that is a good point to start at right?
I am also worried because all of my family is in Germany, and I never imagined myself having my own family so far away from them. I already miss them so much and I don't know how I am going to do this without them here to support me!
On top of everything, I am just feeling terribly emotional.... 
Hi all....I'm back. Miscarried my little miracle baby at 5w6d. My midwife gave me the go ahead to start trying again immediately. She told me that many women are most fertile after a miscarriage - the only reason to wait would be a 2nd trimester loss or else for emotional healing.
I never saw a heartbeat, but I'm not sure if this makes it easier. I got a very early BFP and have been celebrating this new life for weeks now. It hurts an awful lot to lose this pregnancy, but I'm determined to move forward.
I already started temping this morning, so can you please add me back to Waiting to O? (And remove me from graduates, please?) Thank you so much. Best of luck to you all! 
Let's test on Sunday, OK?
update!
SweetMama34... The emergency room doctor told me the same thing about "no reason to wait to try again" with an early loss. He said the body does not go through anything to really heal from in the first 3 months. I also read many many times over the years that fertility is raised for the three months following a miscarriage. I hope you are part of that statistic and get your new BFP right away!
Thanks, Stevi. :)
You're not alone, for sure! So sorry to hear about your loss...and thank you for being back here, to show those of us in a similar situation that there's hope in our very near future! Best of luck to you...keep us updated!
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