9/9 Weekly Chat Thread - Page 3
Kicking and screaming, huh? I hope your garage sale it's a success...and I hope to see more of you around here since we're due so close together. I'm glad you joined in (and will again in the thread that starts tomorrow--nudge, nudge).
those cries are good to have. those fears are real - whether the circumstances behind them are real or not, the fears themselves exist, and need to be acknowledged. NOT acknowledging them is what gets us into trouble!
Now that you have had that cry, are you ready to put some positive affirmations into place? I think every laboring woman gets to the 'I can't do this' place during labor. Having yourself already knowing that you CAN do it, you CAN give birth, you WILL NOT FAIL - the only way to fail at this is to be eternally pregnant, which no one has managed to do ;) Anything else is a birth - maybe not the one you imagined, but a birth regardless.
I just wanted to acknowledge what you said - it's a big deal for all of us to face these thoughts & fears. Thank you for being brave enough to face them, and to share with us!
I think I am more concerned about my general level of fear and distrust of the universe, rather than specific fears about this birth. I am more afraid of what may happen outside of me than of how I may respond, if that makes sense? And I know that's not how I WANT to approach life/this birth, but it's just where I am right now.
Need to finish up here and GO HOME. I have worked 5 full days this week, and will work tomorrow and Monday. I am SO TIRED. Then DH is going out of town for 4 days. I think Tuesday (when I will be crashing and he will be gone) may be a pajamas, popcorn, and movies day, which I NEVER do.
travelmumma, rofl at the "THERE IS A BABY IN THERE AND IT IT SLEEPING! THAT IS SOOO FREAKING WEIRD!!!" Pregnancy hasn't "sunk in" for me yet... and motherhood didn't even sink in after they were born, lol. Even now, with a firstborn who is almost 6, I look at her and her brother and still wonder where they came from. <3 A target for breastfeeding, rofl.
segolilymama, it's definitely possible to still stay in touch for years. I used to be a member of a forum for charting fertility cycles, and there were a group of us who were avoiding pregnancy at the time for whatever reason. Slowly, and at different times, we all graduated to a TTCing group, then to a pregnancy group, then to a mommies group. The group was started back in 2005, and we all STILL keep in touch (on Facebook now), and it's so great to really know all the people there.
kel, feeling little body parts is one of my favorite things. Later on, my kids usually settle into LOA and I feel their little feet up on my right side. Right now, though, he's still flipping around all over the place. I was feeling his little head today.
lulubikes, I gained another cup size after even the pregnancy growth once my milk came in. Also, with a belly that big, your rib cage is slightly expanded, so getting fitted for a nursing bra doesn't make sense until after you have the baby. I had outgrown everything though so I did get some with DD when I was 8 months pregnant with her, but got a band size that fit around on the loosest setting, and got a couple with a cup size one larger, and I was able to shrink the band and grow the cup and they fit when my milk came in.
cieloazul, I've never worn maternity undies. Just regular bikini briefs (or hipsters now, I prefer that booty style, lol) a size up from my normal worked through the whole time, and I carry loooooow in the belly, too.
I learned some heavily horrible and crappy information from family today. I can't believe how nearly horrible the timing is for it. It looks like I'm going to be dealing with some major stress coming up that I completely have NOT anticipated. Really crappy timing. I've basically spent the last few hours crying and feel like a mess right now. Just horrible timing. I'm going to try to deal with things head on and not internalize things. I'm seriously worried now about staying centered in the middle of all of this. I don't want stress to affect the baby's health or my health. I know too that my emotions play with my blood pressure.
Sorry about the 'me' post. I know I'm being lousy support right now, the bad thing is there's really nobody in real who can understand this. I feel like I should be spending my time focusing on the baby and not on this. But, it's going to be nearly impossible to deal with. Not sure what I should do.
I agree with nhklh. Is there anyway you can remove yourself from having to deal with this. Would there be anyway to set yourself a healthy boundary for the sake of yourself and your baby. Self-care is of utmost importance right now.
Please let us know if there is anything we can do...sounds silly I'm sure but we're here, if nothing else then we can listen and be a sounding board since you don't have anyone IRL to talk to about this.
I'm sorry. Update us on how you are doing when you get a chance.