I have 3 kids. The older 2 are teens and go to highschool (their choice).
The 9 year old is home/unschooled.
We have always been a free-range food sort of family. I provide the food and they can eat what they want, in the quantities they want. This works for our family.
We have an emerging issue and it is thus:
The 9 year old is eating a decent amount of the "good stuff" while the other 2 are at school. Her older sister (DD1) is crying foul (the other sibling does not care).
We were able to solve the "she drank all the juice" issue by buying a 2 litre bottle and specifying this was for home use, in addition to juice boxes, which were specified as school drinks.
The ice cream sandwiches were a different thing. DD2 ate more ice cream sandwiches than her big sister, well, because she is home more.
I am not sure what is a fair resolution to this.
I thought about portioning out food when it comes into the house - but
1: I am not keen to take on this task. I have enough on my plate.
2. I am not the food police. Unless you bought the food with your own money, the food in the house is available to anyone whenever they see fit.
Is it reasonable for me to say to DD2 that this is simply a consequence of going to school - you might get less of the good stuff? I don't want her to feel I am punishing her for going to school - but the reality is, you will get some good stuff (not just food) and miss out on some good stuff by going to school.