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post #141 of 283

haha i did something similar to this when i went to pick up my DD from my in laws today after my hemo appointment, i kinda just zonked out on there chair in the living room while she was playing and watching t.v...while i was sleeping i had my toes counted, i got a nice big kiss on the lips, i had my whispers 2 inches from my face a couple of times lol  i feel better about it when im over there..when im home im afraid i will conk out completely and she will make a dash for something bad...although the other morning she woke up and i was still dead to the world tired so i had DH go get her out of her crib and talked her into crawling into my bed and got her to sleep with me for about another hour which was like the best thing ever!

 

random Co-sleepers question..i know this is silly but i was wondering how co-sleepers manage to have their..intimate time if you will lol.... it seems like it would make it extremely hard to have anything of that nature happen when sharing a bed with little ones... im kinda figuring there will be no chance of anything happening between me and DH untill the little one moves into big sisters room months from now because i just dont know how we would go about it and she wont even  be in our bed, just in our room...so idk i was just wondering how you mama's where managing this, for those willing to share

post #142 of 283
In our house, babies sleep in our bed for at least two years... and after that we figure out whether the baby still needs our closeness or might benefit more sleeping on their own. And clearly we've had no trouble dtd and conceiving thus far wink1.gif We do utilize the bed even with a baby in it (I get baby to sleep on my side, then roll over to dh's side.. we have a king size bed which helps) or of course there are always plenty of other rooms in the house (the living room/couches are second to the bed). Cosleeping hasn't hindered anything-- if anything hinders intimacy, it's the fear of older kids walking in! Especially with dd2 who sleepwalks often!
post #143 of 283

There are other rooms in the house and other surfaces.  

post #144 of 283
Thread Starter 
Ow ow ow ow ow ow OW. 4am and ribs/back are killing me.

This child is so very, very grounded.
post #145 of 283
LOL @hyde

I've been up at 3-4am several days this past week. I get up to pee and then I'm up for the day apparently ... not cool.

I'm loving all of these birth announcements & stories, though!

WCM -- I was thinking that I've been losing my mucous plug bit by bit since Tuesday, but after your story now I'm not sure! It looks like snot (hard to explain, but it's different from any other discharge I've had while charting) and is pink or has a small streak of blood. (Also, your story reminded me of how I felt when a plugged duct finally came out after pumping -- there it was, in the bottle, super gross!)

My mom will be here Friday for a work training and so we're going to have a baby shower-type BBQ thing. I'm cleaning in anticipation of her coming (our guest bedroom & bathroom are in the basement, and they are sorely neglected if we haven't had company for a while), but I'm hoping that she'll help me clean and get some more freezer meals going while she's here. Since I was up at 3am, I cleaned my blinds for the first time in YEARS and I also washed and patched the dog bed. I think that officially counts as nesting.

Ascher -- I guess I'm confused about when I'm having contractions/BH as well. I didn't think I was having them, but maybe I am? Hmmm. I'm not going to worry about it, since they're not painful

Evi -- good luck on the BP & I'm hoping that we both go into labor on our own!
post #146 of 283

We put a extra twin bed in the "baby's room" and would either go there or go to the floor when we wanted to DTD, once I got used to sex again we utilized the rest of the house, but that might only work if you don't have very many older kids... We only have a queen sized bed so it was hard to do it with baby in the bed and now since he's 1 I'm afraid we will wake him if we are in the same room :/. I'm gonna have to get over that cause it wil just get harder to find places once we have older kids. It's very doable even with older kids, I have my parents as an example of that. They had teenagers and toddlers in the house  lol

post #147 of 283

Oh my, I feel like such a bad wife, after reading the intimacy discussion...because I have absolutely NO interest in anything of that sort. ROTFLMAO.gif

DH thought it was the best thing in the world when, last weekend, our doula said that the most natural way to self induce was simply to have sex.  Then she went on to say that there is research that semen taken orally is even better for softening the cervix (??), and he was ready to kiss her.  Needless to say, as I am 38+4 today I am not yet worrying about self induction!

 

It's super exciting to see all of the baby pictures and birth stories.  I've always felt that since my EDD was at the end of the month I was dragging behind the majority of the board, but it's still so exciting to "meet" these babies.

post #148 of 283
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Oh my, I feel like such a bad wife, after reading the intimacy discussion...because I have absolutely NO interest in anything of that sort. ROTFLMAO.gif

DH thought it was the best thing in the world when, last weekend, our doula said that the most natural way to self induce was simply to have sex.  Then she went on to say that there is research that semen taken orally is even better for softening the cervix (??), and he was ready to kiss her.  Needless to say, as I am 38+4 today I am not yet worrying about self induction!

 

It's super exciting to see all of the baby pictures and birth stories.  I've always felt that since my EDD was at the end of the month I was dragging behind the majority of the board, but it's still so exciting to "meet" these babies.


LOL about the semen taken orally! I am in the same boat as far as no interest in intimacy... We have dtd once since my third trimester greensad.gif I feel horrible about it but it is so uncomfortable for me that it's not much fun for DH or myself... I also don't want to start anything until dh has his dentist's appt today because he might get his wisdom teeth taken out and that would suck if I went into labor while he felt so sore...

post #149 of 283

So glad to see that activealli had a successful VBAC! 

post #150 of 283
Goood morning smile.gif

Nothing happening today, I feel like I could run a marathon! I'm on the bus with DDs takog DD1 to OT .. Which is a workout in itself!

I haven't lost any more plug today, no ctx, nada. DH and I were intimate last night and afterwards baby protested like crazy.. Lol. maybe something will come of today but I'm thinking that's unlikely.
post #151 of 283

Wow, did last night suck. I am with you, hyde...this kid is soooo grounded. Some bony appendage was rammed into my stomach (the organ) giving me horrible nausea and reflux/heartburn. Butt? Knee? Foot?  Who knows. But OWWW. Not much sleep to be had at all. And sadly, the reflux is still with me this morning.  Boo! I also am slow on the digestive tract front again, which I hate. 

 

Other than that and a few tight, pressury contractions last night, nothing to report. This kid either needs to come today/tomorrow morning or hang tight till next week. I'm only 39+1 today, so I really think I have a good week and a half left.

post #152 of 283
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Then she went on to say that there is research that semen taken orally is even better for softening the cervix (??), and he was ready to kiss her.  .

Wow at my house that would be the quickest way for dh to be covered in vomit.  That makes me shudder at this point I have no drive but that sounds worse with the smell/texture/gag reflex issues I've had this pg.

post #153 of 283

I'm another in the last night sucked group. Sleeping was horrid. I had digestie issues for the first half of the night, and hip pain for the 2nd. I just read an article on avoiding hip pain. It's suggestion was to avoid activities that cause it. Unfortunately, that would mean no more sleeping!

 

Cosleeping - First, I'll admit that it definitely put a kink (and not the good kind) in our sex life at first. I know sometimes hearing how everyone else had these great, fulfilling sex lives while co-sleeping made me feel really defective when we didn't seem to be having any at all. Once we got used to the idea, we utilized the rest of the house which in some ways was good because it required a bit more creastivity, and eventually did get reasonably comfortable DTD while DD slept a couple feet away. I'm hoping that having a co-sleeper bed attached to ours will buy us a little more space this time!

 

PrincessJules - lol at your DH's reaction! I should really look into the 2nd method as at this point that holds more appeal than actual sex!

 

OK, time to get going! We have our last Mom and Tots bootcamp class of the summer today, before moving to an indoor location next week, and while the work out has gotten fairly light for me, at least DD burns off some steam and I get a little benefit out of it!

post #154 of 283

^_^! lol thank you all, i see, well i guess ill just have to venture outside the room....i dont know my im really concerned about it because things dont really happen to much around here....but it would be nice to think there will be some sort of opertunitty at some point lol...

 

have my OB app today 38W6D next one is the day before my EDD, i keep thinking that will be my last one but after so many mamas on here are gong at least a week over im starting to try to prepare myself to keep waiting ... i was induced last time so i feel like i have no idea what to expect out of my body...

 

so exciting to here everyone having there babies!! ^_^ i remember when we still had mama's trying to get over the 16W hump or the 20W!

post #155 of 283
Yeah, the key to intimacy while cosleeping is creativity... Most def !


Just got home from our weekly occupational therapy public transit rendezvous.. The girls are napping and I intend to do the same! Cervix is lower now, still losing mucous blobs, but my cervix is only around 2cm. Really soft and stretchy, however! Come on contractions...
post #156 of 283

I just had my midwife appointment. Does anyone know about blue/black cohosh? My midwife mentioned them today, but didn't give me a clear idea of how to use them or the dosage. I just want the one that is good for cervical ripening. Not the one that starts labor. She also gave me some evening primrose to put in there at night, so I might start with those. 

 

Had my first exam today. I was 40 to 50% effaced (for whatever that is worth). Baby's head is definitely down there, and that is why I'm waddling with pelvic pain. He was LOA this time, and I can tell he's gotten bigger because he's not moving so much, so hoping he'll stay where he is. My midwife told me that she is encouraging me to do things to ripen my cervix now (hence the blue or black cohosh) simply because this month she has seen a lot of ladies go to 42 weeks and need induction. After 40 weeks my appointments are every 3 days. Apparently after 41 weeks they make me go get an intensive ultrasound and do all these measurements.

 

So I'm kinda torn between waiting to see if my boy shows up on his own or being proactive and taking all these herbal things. I'm concerned about the cohoshes, because I've been reading they are quite potent. If I do take these herbal remedies, will this mess up the natural birth process?

post #157 of 283
Ascher - i would definitely take the EPO both orally and vaginally. black cohosh is the one for the cervix, but I wouldn't use it if I wasn't trying to induce. personally id try homeopathic black cohosh, aka cimicifuga. make sure you're drinking lots of red raspberry leaf tea to help make any Bh you have more effective. gl!
post #158 of 283

Ascher, I'll second the evening primrose oil.  With my first baby my midwife had me on it orally once I hit a certain point and then at the very end added vaginally, too.  I do really think it helped!  It's funny because she only has her first time mamas use it.  I tell you what though...if this baby doesn't come in the next day or two I'm so going to the store and picking up a bottle.  I can't take much more of this hip/crotch pain.

post #159 of 283

I just checked our EDD list- Everyone earlier on the list than me has had their baby already! (EricaF and 5boysplus had their babies even though they aren't updated yet on the EDD list). I know it is still normal for my fetus to be born in the next week, but but but! I am last! Tomorrow morning I have the ultrasound to check on the amniotic fluid and the placenta. I think I will ask if the doctor can stimulate my cervix to open. I feel conflicted- it is still normal for the fetus to be inside, but if I don't give birth by Saturday I can't birth at the birthing clinic. That's for my happiness, not for the safety of the fetus, so I feel like I shouldn't expose the fetus to an unnecessary intervention... But it is a very safe intervention with only a small risk of infection... And I feel like the fetus can safely be born now, it doesn't need to wait longer for developmental reasons... I can't find any information on why a fetus would choose to be born "late" other than 1) your dates are actually wrong so the gestation period is not as long as you think it is (not a possibility in my case) 2) the fetus is in a bad position (my fetus has been engaged for 2 months now). I don't know of any other reasons other than I'm just at the extreme end of the normal curve? Someone has to be there... 

post #160 of 283

Or you are just a long gestator.  Are your cycles normally longer then 'average' or shorter or 'average'?  that can also be an indicator.  

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