Weekly Chat - September 10-16 - Page 13 « Back to Group Discussions

[judybean]

Oh, dear husband, assuming I'm grumpy (maybe I am... okay... I am), avoiding me at all costs really isn't helping my mood.  In fact, it makes me feel worse.  You took the day off to help around the house so that I would "feel more relaxed" and ready to birth this baby, but thus far you've gone to your mom's house to fix her plumbing issues (and you'll have to go back), you did go to dd3s soccer game (thanks), and now you're at a niece's soccer game.

Gah.  I'm just grumpy.  And terribly weepy.  And 41 weeks pregnant and not feeling like anything will ever, ever happen and I don't know what to do.  At my last midwife appointment, we discussed her list of natural induction methods and I said we'd probably run through it on Sunday (thinking, "Oh, there's plenty of time, I'm sure I'll have this baby before then!")... but that's just *tomorrow* and now I"m panicking and freaking out.  I don't WANT to have to run through the list.  I want this baby to come on his/her own.  ...... BUT! At the same time, an out-of-hospital experience is VERY important to me.  And I'm willing to do more things to encourage this baby to come out at home.

Please come out, baby.  Please.

[Worldshakerz]

Judybean, I can totally commiserate! It may be of some consolation that I become very weepy too, and very grouchy, especially toward DH, about 3 days before little Benji was born :). 

[Princessjules]

Originally Posted by LibraryMo 

Jules - you have a 5 month old brother, plus a niece/nephew on the way and your baby on the way too?! Your family is crawling with babies.

Yes, my younger brothers are 20, 15, 6, 4, 2, and 5 mo (I am the oldest and only girl)... It's really fun for DS to play with his uncles (we call them his faux bros lol) and it's nice because my parents' house is already kid proof! Oh and my other SIL is expecting a girl on Xmas! so actually 1neice and 1 niece or nephew! The grandchildren on DH's side are going from 2 to 5 within one year! lol Lots and lots of babies!!

Originally Posted by WindyCityMom 

Jules- that sounds crazy!  Asap labor vibes to you!  Well wishes for your SIL as well, that has to be rough.

Thanks! I know SIL is pretty disappointed so I hope she can find peace with any changes that need to happen...

Judy - Extra labor vibes! I'm sorry you're going so late. I really hope you feel better and things start happening for you!!

[Worldshakerz]

Oh, might as well just ask on our chat threat - do any of you have any experience with retained placental tissue? I felt something more solid than what I thought a clot should feel like, come out in the toilet this afternoon. I looked and part of it looked like a clot but the other part was a fleshy white/peach tissue that really looked like placenta to me. I called the midwife and she said when she checked the placenta last night it had looked whole or whatever, but I dunno. What do you ladies think?

[dmpkmom]

is your milk coming in? if you think its delayed and you saw this, you might have reason to ask for an ultrasound just to make sure.

[MissE]

Oh ladies...i hear you on the emotional issue. I too had a good cry this morning. Felt better after it and i'm finally used to having my mom around the house. She is awesome help. We went shopping, got a pedicure etc..just my mom, me and dd...three generations. Fun times. I'm ready for whatever is coming tonight again, be it prodromal or real.

@worldshakerz: no help on the blood clot but hoping you're adjusting well. Same goes to all the new mommies.

[mymaya]

judybean, i can relate to every single word. and I am also 41 weeks today. I just can't believe it. been taking primrose oil for two weeks now. i also don't want to go through the list, but will if needed, because i also need an out-of-hospital birth, chemical induction is out of the question. are we staring castor oil in the face?...:)

I am also wheepy, grumpy and sore. enough already, please......

[Carlin]

I'm another one feeling out of sorts today. I've been pretty even keel so far (still 4 days until EDD, so obviously no reason to be in a rush yet) but today I'm a bit grumpy and definitely feeling antisocial. Part of it is definitely lack of sleep and part of it is that everyone, including my DH seems to be making plans based on a due date baby. Instead of the 2 or 3 weeks I was hoping he'd be home post baby, I'll be lucky to get 4 or 5 days unless baby is born by the 19th. :/

I also know I'm being oversensitive, but my MIL called this morning thinking today was my due date. I know it doesn't matter in the slightest, but I'll admit my feelings are a bit hurt that close family members can't even write the correct date on their calendars. This will be grandchild number 5 for MIL, and it really does seem like the novelty's worn off! I know I'm being silly about it to even let it bother me a little bit, but these pregnancy hormones are getting to me!

Hugs to all of you hitting the 41 week mark. I remember how hard that was and how all of a sudden it seems like there's this deadline just looming over you. I know it doesn't really help, when it feels like you'll never, ever go into labour but there's still a really, really good chance your babies will all make their appearances before that 42 week mark. A week is a really long time at this point in pregnancy! 

Edited: Worldshakerz, I'd think if you are otherwise feeling good, and your milk is coming in well, it's probably not anything to worry about, but if you are feeling any hints of infection, your milk seems slow or you just feel something's not right, it can't hurt to get checked out!

[Worldshakerz]

Yeah, nothing else unusual. No fever. My milk isn't in yet but Benji was born just a little under 24 hours ago. He latches great and has been nursing often, getting plenty of colostrum, and has had wet diapers. It was just so unusual looking compared to what I've seen before. I'm feeling a bit sleep deprived and the after pains I could certainly do without, lol, but otherwise I'm feeling really good and just enjoying this amazing new little guy in our family 

[ascher21]

OMG, does this "checking up" ever stop? I got three calls today. If I don't call back I know they're wondering if something is going on. They always disguise it with some silly excuse..."just wondering how you're feeling", "just wanted to wish you a happy new year", "had a dream about you last night". It makes the fact that nothing is happening feel even worse. I'm a week behind you 41 week ladies, but I'm starting to understand the feeling. And to top it off, one of the women from my BFWithin class who was most vehement about her home birth had to have a c-section at 41 and 6 days. Not to scare y'all. It scared me, though.

How on earth do we not worry??

I walked the entire outlet mall back and forth today, then had a nice green curry at our local thai restaurant. I told the woman I wanted a spicy dish. She was like "maybe you should try mild" and I looked at her and said "NO, I'm trying to eat things that are spicy". Needless to say, the curry was still not as spicy as I wanted it. It did not make my nose run. It should have.

[domermommy]

ascher -- I wish I had better news re: check-in phone calls, texts, etc. During my first pregnancy, people started checking in on me around 37 weeks and only got more aggressive about it once I neared my due date (and then went past it by a few days.) I had friends who would call my cell, and if I didn't answer, would then text me, email me, and call my home land line until I picked up. I was furious by the end. I guess it was a first-time mom mistake to broadcast my due date as far and wide as I did -- I definitely haven't told a lot of people my "exact" due date this time around :) If I were you, I would just send them a quick message -- try not to call back and talk -- and say that you're fine and there's no baby yet. 

[WindyCityMom]

I hear you all with the asking, lol.  I ditched the quinceanera we were supposed to go to today for some peace and quiet.  I'm not going to my MILs bbq tomorrow, no way.  I don't want to see anyone, I'm going to shut myself up in here and wait until a baby comes out, lol.

I kindly asked Facebook friends not to call/text/fb/msg/email/owl mail me asking "Baby yet?!" for sake of my own sanity.  It was well received, lol.

[domermommy]

I particularly like the "how are you feeling?" question -- trust me, you don't want to know. 

[Princessjules]

Originally Posted by domermommy 

I particularly like the "how are you feeling?" question -- trust me, you don't want to know. 

LOL soooo true! Maybe the next time someone asks me about that I can tell them about how sore my vagina is and all the other not so lovely stuff that happens at the like the runs...

In the Expectant Father, the author suggests rerecording your voicemail to say something like "Hi, yes we are fine. No I haven't had the baby yet. If you are calling for another reason please leave a message" I wanted to do that so badly last time! I think word got around how irritated and crazy it made me though (or maybe I wasn't very good at hiding it) because No ONE has said anything to me this time...

[MissE]

Lol...i onoy have one friend who requests a 'peep' from me every day and i gladly let her know how i'm doing cause she's a really really good friend. I just don't mind telling her.
I'm kinda nervous...i don't know why. Maybe it's anticipation of wbat this new week is bringing or what but for that i only slept five hours ladt night i sure feel good. If there was anything to clean up, i'd do it lol but my mom took care of everything. Maybe i feel nervous because i know this night might be like the other two...pacing around the house with contractions and eventually falling asleep. Who knows. Trying to rest now, good night.

[judybean]

I feel like all I've done is cry all day. I've been really stressed about trying a list my midwife has of natural ways to induce... originally I had said we'd go through the list tomorrow, but it seriously stressed me out so much today and everything made me cry/bawl/etc. So I told the midwife I couldn't do it... and she said she was glad I listened to my feelings. I realized no induction would 'take' anyway if my heart wasn't in it. And it just really wasn't. Not yet anyway. I feel like it's too soon and I need to surrender more to the process and not distrust my body already.

I have only ever told myself I could go to 41 weeks. But in less than two hours, I'm about to move on. I don't think I'll like it. I don't think I'll enjoy it. But I'll do it because I feel it needs to be done. That I owe my baby and my body this space.

[PrettyHippie]

So I hit 41 weeks today.  My other two both came at 40+6.  I had a full day of false labor yesterday(Friday).  I really think I could cry.  Oh well...I tell myself baby just needs more time and no matter how ready I am, he/she just isn't.  Boo.  I think it's just because I'm just so flippin' sore.  I too have been getting slammed by family friends with the whole "sooooooo....baby yet?" questions.  It doesn't really get to me too much, but I would like to think that they would just know we'd call them when baby got here for goodness sake!  I've had so much nervous energy the last day or so.  DH was totally ready to man our station at farmers' market today by himself so I could just stay home and relax, but the thought of just doing nothing drove me nuts!  I would have been pacing the house like a nervous ninny.  I've been so restless all day.  I literally feel like the mama cat who just keeps pacing around trying to find that perfect spot to have her kittens.....good Lord do I hope that means something for me.  So yeah....to everyone else, I feel ya....trust me!!!  Okay I need to go try to do something else other than internet stock.  Hang in there..... 

[WindyCityMom]

I just feel so anxious.  I don't think I'll have this baby until I fully get over the anxiety part.. but it's so hard!

I cleaned (mopped, disinfected, everything!) the kitchen this evening and that felt great.  I had an evening of contractions but I knew they'd stop, and they did.  Had my nightly glass of RRL tea & evening supplements.  Right now that's Acidophillus, EPO (vaginally and orally), Prenatal, and Garlic because I'm battling flora issues and it really does help me a lot.  Here I am.  Sleepy, but I can't sleep, because baby keeps kicking me in the side and my cervical presure is just insane right now.  Oh, and I "undilated" from a 2 to a 1.  Why why why.

I'm also in due date denial.. midwives have me at 40+1 via 2nd tri u/s.  I am closer to 41w3d, as much as I don't want to admit it now!  

The only thing that gets me to sleep at night is knowing that waking up the next day will bring me one day closer to meeting baby.

[judybean]

WCM -- Every day, I keep trying to tell myself, "You're one day closer to meeting baby..." ... because it's about the only thing that keeps me (not really close to) sane.

I'm tired and exhausted from crying and being so on edge all. dang. day.  But I can't sleep.  Bit of a blowout with dh.  He's as moody as I am.  And I know this dragging on is really wearing on him too.  But I'm just not in a good spot to be supporting him through this because I'm feeling so incredibly needy myself.  Something's gotta give though because the tenseness isn't going to make anything happen.  (ridiculously excited to use additional emoticons... I never get to since I'm usually posting from my phone!)!.

re: people that keep checking up .... .. Goodness.  I'm wary to even want to go in public these days since every time I see people they get that disappointed look on their face and say, "You're STILL here?!" or something like that.  It wouldn't be terrible if it didn't happen five times every place I went (coffee shop, grocery store, etc)... Often I want to snap back with something incredibly snarky, but instead I just smile and say that I have a cozy uterus.  Sometimes just hearing "uterus" shuts people up ;)  But I do try to realize they're just excited for me as well.... and I do enjoy sharing excitement and joy over babies with others.

I'm trying to use my awake time right now to work to clear my head because I think it's holding me back.  I came across this link and find it has good things to say http://mynaturalchildbirth.org/natural-childbirth-emotions/  .

Might try to sleep soon.

[LibraryMo]

So, I'm here for the 3 am cervical opening prayer circle?

There seems to be so much discouragement here tonight and I FEEL YOU ALL. I'm 39 weeks today and becoming totally fearful of having to be induced even though I know I have 2 full weeks before that is a consideration. Sigh.

Judybean - loved that link. Taking it to heart and giving up control.