what's going on w/my pregnancy (extremely small gestational sac) « Back to Group Discussions

[Mamma Mia]

I went in today and there is a perfectly sized embryo with a strong heartbeat at 130bpm in my uterus, but the gestational sac is extremely small around it.  To put it into perspective, it's like the size of a dime when it should be the size of a small orange.  This means one of three things:

 

1. An extremely precarious normal pregnancy (most unlikely)

2. A chromosomal abnormality, most likely triploidy

3. I will miscarry within the next two weeks (most likely)

 

So basically I have to wait another 11 days and see what changes if anything.

 

I honestly feel like this is so much worse and so much harder than if the pregnancy were just over already.  I seriously don't feel like I can handle this at all.  It's like, days of waiting to miscarry or months of waiting to find out about abnormalities, in which case we would end up terminating anyway, but after another 3 months of stress.  

[SweetMama34]

Oh, mama - I'm so sorry you didn't get better news. I'm not familiar with what the problem may be, but I can totally relate to how hard the waiting is. Just knowing, or being able to move forward in whatever capacity is so much easier than waiting.

Can you get HCG quants drawn every few days to see what's happening? Or an u/s earlier than 11 days from now?

((hugs)) to you - this is not fair at all.

[Mamma Mia]

I think the HCG quants will just mess with my head. I thought about waiting a week for an ultrasound, but that would mean it would only be another 4 days before my first official prenatal appt with an ultrasound too. If the pregnancy ends up being viable, I'd be happy to not have a million ultrasounds. I don't know!  I think I can make it through this time and if I can't, I'll just schedule an urgent appointment.

How are you doing, any updates? I'm thinkin of you, mama!

[kikaaaso]

(((Hugs))) I am so sorry, Mamma Mia. I hoping for reason one for you (((Hugs)))

[SweetMama34]

The quants really can mess with your head. Mine are just helpful now, because they'll let me know if this bleeding means miscarriage or something else. I really can't imagine this bleeding not equaling a miscarriage, though, you know?

Some people say we need to practice patience during pregnancy because we'll have to be patient with our children when they're here earthside with us. I don't like this statement anymore - it's entirely different being patient with a difficult situation with your child vs. being patient about knowing if your child is well.

This is so hard, and I'm thinking the most positive thoughts for your situation - grow, sac, grow!

[porcelina]

So sorry to hear this! You are right, the only thing you can do is wait, wait, and wait some more. I'm glad you are getting the care you need to avoid having the same situation you did with the missed miscarriage, though! So sorry you are going through this. Strength to you!
 

[amyknits1076]

The hurry up and wait is the hardest part. I'm no good at it. I hope that there is a good explanation for such a small sac, and that at the very least, you get some concrete answers soon. Hang in there!

[lisedea]

I am so sorry Mamma!

[Mamma Mia]

I just wanted to update that I haven't miscarried and the measurements on the embryo:gestational sac are compatible with a healthy pregnancy, they are just more likely to be associated with an ending pregnancy or chromosomal abnormalities. I'm just hanging out, drinking tons of water, waiting for my next u/s and hoping for a bigger sac. My cervix is high and closed tight and the cramping that plagued my early early pregnancy is mostly gone. After the next u/s I have to decide between amnio and CVS testing and that is really upsetting to think about.  I haven't tested my betas in the mean time, and it's better this way.

[Mamma Mia]

Originally Posted by SweetMama34 

Some people say we need to practice patience during pregnancy because we'll have to be patient with our children when they're here earthside with us. I don't like this statement anymore - it's entirely different being patient with a difficult situation with your child vs. being patient about knowing if your child is well.

I totally agree!  That statement is fundamentally patronizing anyway, but what mother sits around patiently waiting to know how her child is? Obviously none.