Thank you tree_hugz...but how do I get out of the cluster feeding cycle enough to let me rest for the 2 hours to start my next day? Am so confused about that. And my son is sooo impatient and starts to root at first and then actually cry....don't know what to do... he clearly acts like he is hungry and not getting enough (by the end of the cluster feeding session..around 9 PM )
Some things are just driving me nuts this time around. So different from my daughter...is like am a breast feeding newbie.
I have another Q for all of you:
The way my feedings go is - he starts at my breast. In 30 secs to 1 min a letdown starts (first and fast flowing). He takes 20-30 swallows. Rests/pauses for 1-3 mins. Second burst..again about 20 swallows. Pauses for 3-5 mins. (when he is sleepy..he usually sleeps around this point.. or if I can keep him awake..then)....after 3-5 mins..3rd burst...and then after 5 mins...4th burst..
and some times (not always)..after 5-10 mins.. 5th burst. Total session = 25-20 mins. Active suckling ...maybe 8-10 mins.
My sister who has a 2 month old says that that isnot how her bfing sessions go. Her son latches on......she has one letdown.........and he feeds CONTINUALLY for 7-10 mins. Big pause. About 2-5 mins... and second letdown and another continuous feed for 5-10 mins. STOP
So active suckling = 15-20 mins. Total session = 20-25 mins. She only has a 5 min break.
I feel that my guy is spending more time with the pauses and that is probably because my breasts take longer breaks in between. He clearly does try (although sometimes it seems like he is nibbling...sometimes...working) ...so I think that something is wrong with me and it is making my guy spend/expend more energy suckling THAN the milk he is getting. maybe that explains all the poor weight gain despite seemingly getting enough milk.
Only one or two times a day (in the night)...he seems to drink rather continuously....maybe because my breasts have just replenished themselves and thus provide him faster/easier letdowns and he cannot help but drink the milk spurting in his mouth (rather than have to work)
Is someting broken with me? How can I fix it? Powerful galactagogues like Domperidone? I am already taking fenugreek, goat's rue, shatavari ,blessed thistle and oatmeal. OR - oxytocin sprays??? I heard they make for faster letdowns!