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Bragging on my little guy

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Just wanted to brag on my three year old, Noah, for a bit. He's become super interested in all he can learn about the baby. I cannot wait 'til the point that he can start feeling the baby move! Anyway, last night, even though he was supposed to be going to bed, he and I had some one-on-one time. I was watching a birthing video and he became very interested. So much so that he kept wanting to watch more. At one point, he told me to turn it off and he left the room. I thought he was done. He came back with a bottle of water from the fridge and told me to turn it back on. I was floored!

 

Noah is also convinced that if it's a "girl baby" - which he is hoping for - that she will come out with a bow. He was confused as to why the "girl baby" in the video we watched last night didn't have a bow. I didn't have the heart to tell him they don't have bows.

 

I hope that my husband doesn't have issues with Noah being present at the birth because I think he may be more mature about it than my nine year old!

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That is adorable and amazing!  he sounds like a smart little charmer!

 

when my son was 3, i had my 3rd child/2nd daughter.  he was absolutely dedicated to the pregnancy- he watched some birth videos (i did NOT force or invite him to, he asked me all about it and i had to answer him honestly as that is our way in most things), talked to the baby ever day, massaged my belly and when birth came around, demanded to be there.  my mom was HORRIFIED, and thought it was indecent, but he talked her into it.  he came in just to watch the baby come out in my first home birth, and actually it was a great experience for us all (except he had been asking for a brother, so when he found it was a girl, he started crying.  after his nap, he got over it, and she became his special little baby).  he still remembers it at almost 7, and would love to be present at all my births but it's unusual for me to have babies while people are awake.  and he didn't wake up last time!  my husband wasn't crazy about the idea, but my son is a great salesman, and they were a great support to each other in that final stretch of birth.

 

 

so, just in case your husband wonders- my son wasn't scarred by watching a birth.  and i think a lot of the questions concerning how and what are answered for him for a long time....  and he's very happy about that.  he likes to know the how and why of everything.

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These stories are so cute. There is just something so sweet about little ones being excited for their baby siblings. My younger son is the most excited out of all of us. Everyday I get the most random questions/concerns about the baby. He's asked me if there's enough milk in my boobs, where will the baby fit in the car (good question!), will the baby come out with feathers, etc. He also kisses my belly which just melts my heart.

 

SmtmsAlwys, I hope you get your wish for Noah to be there! If my kids are awake I'd love for them to be at the birth but we're going to play it by ear. They might be into it, they might be freaked out, I might not be able to relax with them there, who knows.

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My oldest (who was about 2 months shy of 3 years old) was also at the birth of my 2nd.  I read him some books about birth ahead of time and we also watched birth videos together ("let's watch another one, mama!) and I explained that it would hurt mama but I'd be okay, that there would be blood but I would be okay etc.  Ultimately I left the choice up to him and he did want to be there (had to wake him up) and it was just great.  He stayed out of the way and was delighted to hold the new little one before he went back to sleep.

 

Now my youngest, who is 4, is definitely the most excited and I know he'll want to be there for it.  They both want to watch lots of birth videos and I get the belly kisses and "I love you baby" at my belly from him.

 

However I also think it's a good idea to stay open to what you might be feeling once you go into labor.  I have a friend who really wanted her son to be at her birth but once she started laboring she knew she wasn't going to progress well with him there.  She got her mother in law to come pick him up (it was during the day so they just took him out for a fun day) and labor really kicked in after that.  You just never know what mental space you're going to be in when it starts.  But you're not a first-timer, so I'm sure you know that.  ;)

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Originally Posted by SmtmsAlwys View Post

Just wanted to brag on my three year old, Noah, for a bit. He's become super interested in all he can learn about the baby. I cannot wait 'til the point that he can start feeling the baby move! Anyway, last night, even though he was supposed to be going to bed, he and I had some one-on-one time. I was watching a birthing video and he became very interested. So much so that he kept wanting to watch more. At one point, he told me to turn it off and he left the room. I thought he was done. He came back with a bottle of water from the fridge and told me to turn it back on. I was floored!

 

This is great! I love it. I watched my brother's birth when I was 2 1/5 years old. I remember all of it. Really. Even the videos we saw beforehand and the midwives arriving on the big day. It's hard to imagine that clarity of memory at that age but it's all in there. I cut the cord, I think I held him first and my mother recalls that I wouldn't let him go. I'm a big fan of the idea of sharing the next birth with our first. 

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