We recently moved to a much more neighborly neighborhood (say that 3 times fast) then our old one. Everyone here knows everyone and is mostly very friendly. There is some drama between some of the parents who don't like one little boy from down the street (supposedly he kissed a little girl, even if he did I don't see why its a big deal, pretty normal for 7 year ODs, just tell them not to do it again... anyway) and won't let him play with their kids. I have no problems with him and he plays here almost everyday. He is very sweet and plays well with kids younger than him with minimal guidance.
His mom is pretty mainstream compared to us (she often yells at her son and uses a lot of threats, and rewards, we very much avoid that, and she offers my son lots of snacks I don't want him to eat) She keeps offering to have my son play at here house (since her son is here so much). I'm just not comfortable with that and I felt like I just didn't know what to say when she offered. For now I'm just saying he's too young to be over there (we only let a few people watch him who closely share our AP values or at least totally understand and respect them). But I'm sure within the next year he will WANT to go over there. My question is...
How do you handle your kids wanting to go to neighbors houses when you don't feel ok with them going?
I feel like once he is old enough to fully understand what we think is ok and what is not and can voice it, it won't be as big of a deal. He can speak up if someone is hitting or treating him in a way that we aren't ok with.
But those of you with experience can you share how you've worked this out?