Rissaca,
Sorry to hear this.
It does sounds a lot like my case.
I hope your insurance company will be a bit more flexible. It all depend on very specific aspects of your plan but in the end the insurance could just decide to make an exception.
Mine would not and they are apparently well known for being unflexible for homebirth.
In your case like in mine the NYState Attorney General office will probably not be able to help but it does not mean you are figthing alone. These questions are very technical and I felt overwhelmed by the jargon. I found it helpful to put the insurance person of my midwife in touch with the insurance broker of my employer. The broker was very nice and really tried to help convince the insurance and I think it was helpful for her to discuss the case with the insurance person of the midwife who is dealing with these specific cases all the time. If your husband's employer is ready to help and put some pressure on the insurance it might help too.
It is really one of those "in between" cases in which a nice person ready to help out might make the difference.
It is definitly crazy that we can not have the birth we want, especially since it is so much cheaper than any hospital option.
As I said before I think we should find a way to join our efforts and share our stories to help other, not just throguh this forum.
In any case let us know how it worked for you!
Good luck,
Caroline
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