I have not typically felt jealous of other people's good fortune--I am actually more of a cheery optimist, very grateful for what I have--but lately I have had very ugly feelings about DS's brother and his family. All is going well for them, particularly in the area of finances and job security, which happen to be our biggest challenge at the moment. The siblings are not close and neither the brother or his wife is particularly easy to be with; we've had our relational issues over the years, which might make it easier to feel a tad bitter toward them. Nowadays, we can get along at holidays and such, but that's about all there is to the relationship between their family and ours.
Do you ever feel jealous? What do you do about it? Until we've dealt with some of our debt, had better career luck, and feel more stable in general, I can't figure out a way to contend with this. Nothing I am saying or doing would reveal my jealousy to them, but I know it's not healthy and it's not the way I want to feel toward them. I don't want to be hateful.
Any advice welcome! Thanks.