Who among us has not yet named baby? And by that I mean you'd like to have a name by now but you don't, not that you're intentionally waiting to meet baby before naming him/her. Or who has a name but maybe isn't 100% in love with it? Or has anyone ever been in a similar situation when naming an older child?
What's the situation and how are you feeling about it?
My babe sort of maybe has a name :-/ When we had DS his name came so easily. Both his names are from DH's family tree. I loved calling him by his name from the moment we knew he was a boy. With this little one it's just...different. We had a girl name picked out for DS (Natalia Catalina) but DH and I agree that's not her name. DH started calling her "Tilly Mae". It was kind of a joke at first but it's sticking. DS is calling her "Tilly Mae" now too. I don't *hate* it, I actually really like "Tilly" as a nickname, but I suggested we name her "Matilda Jane" -- "M" names being a tradition in my family and "Jane" being a family name in my family -- that way she has a family name like her brother does, and has the option to use her full name or a different nickname later if she wants. DH doesn't love it but he hasnt outright said "no" to it. He doesn't want to talk about names or look at names so this is where we're at and it seems likely this is where we'll stay. Either way -- Tilly, Tilly Mae, or Matilda -- I find myself having a hard time saying it out loud.
Perhaps when I see her face it will be clear that the name fits, or another one will reveal itself...but what if she's born and we're still "meh" about it? When I picture the worst case scenario it's either fighting with DH about it in a huge postpartum-hormone-fueled rage while the birth certificate clerk tries not to stare...or it's signing off on it with a flat affect and then regretting it and crying about it in a huge postpartum-hormone-fueled breakdown. Perhaps what I'm really afraid of is postpartum hormones and losing control...hmmm. There's also definately a piece in there about feeling slighted by DH and keeping score in terms of DS having a name from DH's family and me wanting DD to have a name linked to my family...and resenting DH for not ackowledging how important that is to me. That's control stuff again. Even if DH had started calling her the most amazing baby name ever, something that I'd dreamed about for years, I think I'd still take issue with him naming her and feeling like I'm left to trot along behind the decision. Ugh, it's always so much messier when you start to peel back the onion's layers. WWYD?