I had an OB appointment about a month ago that I was not happy with. The assistants in the office were just awful and it felt extrememly impersonal. I also had several questions they never addressed--specifically about birth plans and having an un-medicated birth. Later, my doctor called me and addressed some of the concerns: told me what WAS standard in the hospital and that she could not deviate from certain things. I told her I would consider this information. What finally pushed me over the edge in deciding on having a consultation with a midwife was that I thought my insurance would pay for more than they actually are with the OB. Where I live is basically a black hole for alternative forms of birthing. No centers, no CNM's. There are only 2 CPM's. I actually have a consultation with one today but prior to that I had to obtain copies of my blood work and test results from the OB. That wasn't a hassle at all *sarcasm*.
To my surprise the OB listed me as 'high risk'. I am completely furious with this--especially since she never mentioned this to me. In fact, over the phone she told me that she didn't see a problem with an un-medicated delivery as I was "pretty healthy". I do have some medical issues though, but they aren't extreme. I am a few pounds over what they consider the 'safe weight' for pregnancy. But as it stands, I'm 13 weeks pregnant and I haven't gained a pound. I've actually lost some. So, not a big deal. I also have asthma. The one and only time I can recall having an attack was 7 years ago under a strict coach in high school. I rarely need my inhalers and generally only use them when I'm severly sick with a respiritory infection. The other issue is that I have HSV1--the most mild form of the virus. Again I have only had one outbreak of it in my life, 4 years ago. This virus also typically rarely, if ever, sheds. I was planning on being given a HSV suppressant at 36 weeks anyway merely as a safety precaussion. I did my research after getting pregnant and none of these issues alone would qualify for high risk. I understand that someone with severe cases of each would definitely need a hospital birth--but I don't feel like I fall under that category.
I do not have high blood pressure. I do not smoke or drink. I walk often and am signed up for a 6 week yoga class. I have read tons of articles on homebirths and I'm in the middle of reading Ina May's Guide to Childbirth. After all that I just can't see myself delivery in a hospital. I tend to be very hard-headed naturally and I can't imagine just rolling over and allowing people to decide things for me during labor. I am panicking. I want this child at home but I'm not sure what the midwife is going to think today when I show up with these records. Can I get a second opinion on being "high risk". Is it stupid for me to start thinking about having an unassisted birth? Are all these small medical issues really factors in delivering my baby? Any information would be great; I'm desperate.