We were having lunch out today when my 3 yo DD had a full blown meltdown. She likes to unwrap her straw by herself. While I was chattering with my MIL, I absentmindedly unwrapped DD's straw for her. This sent DD into an all out screaming/pushing tantrum (she tried to push me out of the booth we were sitting in.) I carried her outside so as not to disturb the other diners. I talked with her, telling her that I understood she was angry and why, and that it's ok to get angry, but screaming and pushing were not acceptable. She responded by saying, "yes scream! yes, push!" I asked her why and she said "it's how I get the angry out."
The light bulb turned on in my brain. While I don't want her to feel that she has to bottle up her emotions, I do want her to learn how to release negative emotion constructively, so I suggested that we find her an "angry toy", such as a stress ball that she could squeeze when she gets angry. DD agrees that this could be a good idea. Any thoughts or suggestions? Thanks in advance!
Edited by zoesmom2009 - 9/13/12 at 4:02pm