I want to explain something to folks with the hope that the next little girl does not grow up with issues like mine and if she does someone understands why and helps her.
My anxiety is a crippling thing for me and it is also nearly just about my belongings and home. Sadly I have a pretty good idea what triggered it..
As I child I was in a very wandering hippy lifestyle. We toured with the Dead, wet to a lot of festivals and gatherings and moved A LOT. Living in busses, on friends couches was common place. and each time we moved I would usually loose things, the adults around me did not seem to value any sort of consistently and maybe even liked to start fresh. but they failed to take in to consideration the effect of non willingly loosing ones stuff when you are young and love something.
over the years i had lost my childhood blanket (not a little snugly, but a full blanket that was gift from my mom) and nearly every toy i can remember having, lost or gone before i was anywhere near done playing with it. most always becasue od the nomadic style of out family and friends and the lact of respect for the impact it had on me
But there is sometimes a price to pay for what some would just call radical decluttering. A little girl that got more and more attached to each one of those little things that would up missing each time she woke in a different place.
I grew to place a ridiculous amount of importantance on simple everyday things and even things that some would consider trash, if I could associate them to an event in my life. I would treasure them and surround myself with them. And stress hugely when it logically because time to let them go.
This is one of the ways hoarding starts.
It has only been thru shear willpower that I keep above water and the angelic superpowers of just a handful of friends that really see my darkest sides that I avoid being consumed with this. I was once overrun with it and it took 5 years of digging to break free, it has been managed since then, but only barely at times.
I say all this not to address me but to address how kids and their belongings and attachments are handled. Please take them into account when "decluttering". Teach them to do it in a good way. Respect them if that are having trouble with it somedays. Listen to them if they have worries. While falling over yourself to cater to those worries might not be healthy, being dismissive, even with "pep talks" is often a very counterproductive road as well.
thanks for listening
Edited in the light of day when i was feeling calmer
Edited by ~Adorkable~ - 10/26/12 at 8:18am