I will soon need to tell a friend that I am pregnant but she had a miscarriage a few months ago and I want to be sensitive to that. I've never had a miscarriage so I can only imagine what it would be like in her shoes. I was hoping some of you ladies who have been there can help me out.
Here is the situation: (I'll identify by our first initials) There are 4 of us who are fairly close friends. We get together pretty regularly and I feel like it's kind of our tribe. A few months ago N was pregnant and lost the baby at about 15 weeks. It was very scary and she literally almost died from bleeding. (This was going to be her 3rd baby, it was a surprise. They had thought they were done although she wanted a 3rd. After N almost dying her husband wants them to be done but N still is longing for another in her heart. ) They say they are and seem to be at peace with having lost the baby, just trusting God even though they are saddened. I know it can still be hard though. If I am remembering correctly the baby would have been due in October.
Within the last few months S and C have announced that they are pregnant. Now I am too. We are all getting together on Monday (at N's house) and I thought that it might be a fun time to announce my pregnancy since we're all together but I want to be careful. I was going to tell in a fun way but I wasn't sure if that would be rude.
I think I would be sad if my three close friends were pregnant and it was out of the question/I had somewhat recently lost a baby.
Should I just tell N separately? I don't want her to feel left out.
Tell them together in a fun way? (Nothing crazy, I was going to print out some pictures of my girls I took and mix in a picture of the pregnancy test.)
Tell them together and then talk to her privately afterward?
Arrive early and tell her before but still tell friends there?