Originally Posted by snozzberry
I don't wish this on anyone, but it is SO nice having someone else in the DDC who is going through this! Thank you for keeping me sane about this.
Did your midwife give you any indication of how long this sort of spotting might last? I think I know the answer (it always depends, right?) but just curious what her take was.
The thought of not DTD til second trimester as a precautionary measure isn't very appealing...
Hi Snozzberry and SilaM--sorry to hear that you're both going through this, as well!
My midwife said that usually -- USUALLY -- spotting should stop or seriously reduce by the end of the first trimester, if it is related to hormonal/cervical changes (or progesterone levels) and *not* due to subchrionic hemorrhage or placenta previa or other factors. This has been the trend for me -- the spotting is slowly, slowwww-ly clearing up. But, of course, I would think this wouldn't necessarily be true for spotting related to a friable cervix, since presumably the cervix can be re-irritated (by DTD, or BM, or whatever) at any time, right? However, I did read something online that said that friable cervix can also sometimes correct itself by end of the first trimester. So, long story short: it does depend on your particular situation, but there are some general trends you can anticipate.
Snozzberry, I agree that total abstinence is a bummer, but again, I would talk to your provider. If they can help to convince you (as my midwife did for me) that the spotting is unrelated to any kind of danger for the baby, then maybe you will be more "okay" with it? I have had some spotting with DTD, but it hasn't made it necessarily worse (and, actually, I was anticipating it getting a LOT worse, so it was reassuring...) FWIW, my midwife actually advised me to go on pelvic rest, not because DTD would be any danger to the baby, but because she didn't want me to get stressed over nothing. I ended up deciding to stay pelvically "active" and just to accept the notion that my normal life is *not* having an impact on this pregnancy, because I am doing everything right and taking the proper precautions, and the spotting is just... spotting. It's not a m/c. (Again, not to say I am out of the woods by any means, but just that this current situation -- as it stands -- is not dangerous!!)
If I do miscarry, of course I will be devastated, but I will also know that there was nothing I could have done to change the outcome. Again, I am healthy, I take care of myself, I am trying to be as mentally healthy as possible, and, in my case, spotting is not a danger sign. If the spotting changes to a bright red flow tomorrow, that is -- of course -- an entirely different situation. But what are my options now but to stay positive and try to stay mentally healthy?
SilaM, I feel for you, my dear. This is so, so challenging. Keep us posted about any changes you experience -- we care and we want to support you!
Sorry for the lengthy post, but I just needed to write this out so that I continue to believe it. It matters to me, I think, more than I know that I enjoy and embrace my pregnancy, with all of its downsides and worries and problems.