We have been married over 10 years, but my partner is now looking for his 6th job. The last one lasted a few years, but before that we made 4 long distance moves in 4 years. Some of these job changes have had nothing to do with him. ie a company going out of business, acquisition etc. Only 1 job change was by his initiative, all the others have been out of necessity. Needless to say it is taking a massive toll on our relationship, my physical and emotional health, not to mention the kids.
We figure he needs to work for another 20 years, but my guess is it will be very tough to continue finding jobs after 55 or 60. I have tried to be patient over the years, offer to work full time so he can go back to school, start a business, get some skill training (even if it is people) I have offered to pay for job coaching. I love him but don't want to be his nagging mother and don't think I have any emotional or physical stamina to continue going through this traumatic cycle of continual job loss. He is an introvert and job searching seems to be more for extroverts. It is painful to watch someone spend many, many hours planning, searching but only apply for a few jobs in a month.
I'm not sure if I'm bringing out the worst in him, bringing him down or just the wrong personality to deal with an unstable career. I'm working on building up my own business and going to wait for him to get a job, but having been to counsellors several times proved very fruitless.