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What's important to do early so your baby will be used to it later?

I've seen this concept in a number of places. People have advised me to talk/sing/read to our baby in utero so it'll recognize and be comforted by my voice after it's born. NeptuneRising comments in http://www.mothering.com/community/t/1362309/whats-your-babywearing-wishlist that "I didn't get her [in the Balboa Baby Ring Sling] soon enough for her to like laying in it". And so on. What are your favorite examples? What do you think every parent should know?

I'm particularly interested in stuff that's relevant to children less than 3 months old -- but don't let that stop you if you have advice for parents of toddlers or high school students. :-)

Thanks! (And if I've missed an existing thread on this topic, my apologies.)

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What are your favorite examples? What do you think every parent should know?

I believe pretty strongly in the resiliency of babies and that there's no need to stress too much about in terms of "having to do something or else you baby won't do this or that". I mean, other than the real obvious stuff like breastfeeding, holding, responding to cues. I guess, I would suggest swaddling, which I suppose isn't that obvious. 

 

As far as baby wearing, I do think it's a good idea to get the baby in the sling but I don't think it has to be before 3 months - but, yea, maybe around there. Maybe around 6 months, would be good. The main idea behind that, for me, is that it's great to maintain the muscles you, as the mom, has built up over pregnancy (assuming you were pregnant with the baby). A sling is a great tool but I think they can be started later. 

 

I guess EC is something to consider - Elimination Communication. You can look here for info about that. 

 

I suppose it would be good to look into sleep options like co-sleeping. 

 

Maybe infant development? 

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Thanks IdentityCrisisMama. I’ve never spent much time with children so a lot of what might seem obvious to other people isn’t necessarily obvious to me. I’ve been educating myself by reading books, talking with people, hanging out with friends who have a kid, and now looking at online forums like this one...

And no, I’m not pregnant with the baby, my wife is handling that. :-)

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Thanks IdentityCrisisMama. I’ve never spent much time with children so a lot of what might seem obvious to other people isn’t necessarily obvious to me. I’ve been educating myself by reading books, talking with people, hanging out with friends who have a kid, and now looking at online forums like this one...

And no, I’m not pregnant with the baby, my wife is handling that. :-)

Well good for you and for your baby! Congrats and welcome to MDC! 

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I wouldn't worry about it too much.  Kids' temperaments drive what they prefer, and I'm not convinced the parents have much, if any control over this process.  I would say it's better to introduce something, and see if it "works", and if not, come back to it again later.

 

For example: 

 

1. Desensitization:  my son HATED the sound of the vacuum cleaner, blender, etc. from birth-12 months, then after that was totally fine with it.

 

2.  Early Reading:  my son was NOT interested in being read to until he was about 13-14 months old.  (I'm a reading teacher so I found this alarming, and kept trying, but to no avail) Then suddenly he loved it more than anything in the whole world...

 

The things that are "hard" in terms of adapting are more related to relationships or things that are developmental in nature...like adjusting to  daycare (or an unfamiliar caregiver), a major life change, learning how to eat solids, or potty training.  So I wouldn't worry about it too much.  Kids just do what comes natural to them.  Some kids are very flexible, others not so much.  You will have a better sense of this once the babe arrives, and you get a feel for his or her personality.   

 

Basically, you will figure out what is going to work for you and your particular child.  And slowly but surely build up to being able to do the things require some compromise on either side.

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