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[brooklyn_warbler]

Originally Posted by BeanBean06 

I'm still really feeling boy. Ad have really enjoyed reading all of your theories on families with all kids of the same gender. More so that I just feel like this baby is a boy, is that my husband paternal grandfather had 5 boys, my husbands father had 3 boys and both my husband brothers each have 2 boys! Lol it appears the men in my husbands family only makes boys lol altho my poor mother in law would LOVE LOVE a baby girl she's been sending me "girl vibes" lol since we told them we were expecting lol
I'm having another US on Wednesday, cuz I've had some bleeding. And I'll be 16 weeks 2days. I'm hoping baby cooperates and we'll be able to see "the goods"

Whoa I can't believe we're so close to anatomy scans! I loooooove finding out what others are having (even if I don't find out myself,lol!).

My pleasant calm kid is my boy.  My firecracker kid is my daughter (even though she is wonderful and charming too, she is always the whirlwind of the family).    My son is such an easygoing sweetheart.  So I'm not too scared of another boy...but I was a gender studies academic before being a student midwife so I don't super buy into the innate difference thing very much. I also acknowledge we could have a totally intense or difficult child next regardless of sex so I'm just hoping we get lucky a third time  because all things considered we've been super lucky so far.  LOL.

[1babysmom]

My boy (the youngest) is our calm, easy going one, too.  My eldest daughter is definitely a first-born (perfectionist, control freak...everything her mama is LOL), and my second daughter is the opposite, and has a lot more spunk, but she is so tender-hearted.  I love seeing the precious differences in personality.  It's such a blessing.

I would love either.  But size-wise I'd prefer a girl. LOL  (my girls were both dainty 7lb'ers with tiny heads...DS was almost 10 lbs with a 15.5" head...this actually follows the trend in DH's family, apparently)

[brooklyn_warbler]

Originally Posted by 1babysmom 

My boy (the youngest) is our calm, easy going one, too.  My eldest daughter is definitely a first-born (perfectionist, control freak...everything her mama is LOL), and my second daughter is the opposite, and has a lot more spunk, but she is so tender-hearted.  I love seeing the precious differences in personality.  It's such a blessing.

I would love either.  But size-wise I'd prefer a girl. LOL  (my girls were both dainty 7lb'ers with tiny heads...DS was almost 10 lbs with a 15.5" head...this actually follows the trend in DH's family, apparently)

Ha! My daughter was 7lbs6oz and my son was 10lbs3oz...a nearly three pound difference!  We are all curious to see what the next one is and where his/her size will fall on this rather large spectrum.

Seeing the different personalities of my children is almost the BEST part of having kids.  It's such a blessing to witness who they are and how they are different and similar.  I never stop marveling over it.

[BeanBean06]

Originally Posted by brooklyn_warbler 


Whoa I can't believe we're so close to anatomy scans! I loooooove finding out what others are having (even if I don't find out myself,lol!).

My pleasant calm kid is my boy.  My firecracker kid is my daughter (even though she is wonderful and charming too, she is always the whirlwind of the family).    My son is such an easygoing sweetheart.  So I'm not too scared of another boy...but I was a gender studies academic before being a student midwife so I don't super buy into the innate difference thing very much. I also acknowledge we could have a totally intense or difficult child next regardless of sex so I'm just hoping we get lucky a third time  because all things considered we've been super lucky so far.  LOL.

Well we couldn't see gender today! Bummer! Lol baby was all curled up and it was just a cervical check scan so they didn't spend a lot of time trying to see. But my official anatomy scan is in two weeks! YIPEEE

[Kara9080]

ah man! hurry up and pass 2 weeks! LOL

[bmcneal]

Originally Posted by brooklyn_warbler 

Ha! My daughter was 7lbs6oz and my son was 10lbs3oz...a nearly three pound difference!  We are all curious to see what the next one is and where his/her size will fall on this rather large spectrum.

Seeing the different personalities of my children is almost the BEST part of having kids.  It's such a blessing to witness who they are and how they are different and similar.  I never stop marveling over it.

I'm still not feeling specifically either way, but I wanted to say my two were the same way. My daughter was 5lbs12oz, and my son was 10lbs7oz. (Of course, DD was a month early, so no telling how much she would have weighed if she could have had the whole time.) DF said the other day, "You're really showing. You're carrying low, so it's going to be a boy, and it's going to be a *big* boy!" I told him if Baby is bigger than DS was, I'm going to smack him. When they did the BPP for DS, they said he was going to be 13 pounds, and apparently, big babies run in DF's family, (His cousin had a 13 pound baby), we weren't surprised. I'm just kind of hoping this baby isn't that big.

[Munchkin08]

This evening my DH asked if we were going to find out the baby's gender. I said that I don't want to know prior to the birth. He said that he might want to find out. And not be tempted to tell family/friends. Has anyone ever done something like this? 

[bmcneal]

Originally Posted by Munchkin08 

This evening my DH asked if we were going to find out the baby's gender. I said that I don't want to know prior to the birth. He said that he might want to find out. And not be tempted to tell family/friends. Has anyone ever done something like this? 

DF and I talked about this type of thing when I was pregnant with DD and DS, but we never did. We always found out. But I'm not sure how well it would work if you meant for him to find out and not you. I know for us, DF would slip up and say something indicating one way or the other. Part of me doesn't want to find out, but part of me wants to be able to plan everything. I don't know.

[TIFF4NY]

I just want to say that I took the Intelligender Test this morning and the results say boy. It'll be interesting to find out if it's accurate. 

[bambihelton]

My next ultrasound is on the 30th and I will only be 15 weeks. My doctor said that they may be able to tell the gender, but wouldn't be too sure of it, even if they did get a good position. 

Although I have no idea what the baby is, my entire family has decided that there's no way it will be a boy. My mom (who is ALWAYS right about babys' genders) swears that it is a girl. It's funny that both my aunt and mom have began racking up on girl clothes and necessities. 

I'm thankful, though, even if they are buying for girl. It's nice to know that I have support and I know that it can all be returned for blue if pink isn't appropriate. :) 

[Lisanne]

My husband is now saying he wants to know. He wants time to mentally prepare if it's a boy. I don't want to know, but to be honest I don't let him make many of the decisions when it comes to pregnancy and baby so I'm tempted to give in and let him have what he wants. 

[IronMam]

I've got an ultrasound this afternoon, but it's just the early screening one. So, it's still going to be over a month before we get a peek at the sex of Turducken. I'm anxious to find out. If I had ridiculous amounts of money I'd order one of the DNA testing kits. But they're way too pricey for us.

[mayday]

Lisanne, my partner is the same way. I've more or less run the show for the last few months, as far as the babe is concerned. I've even told him what I'd prefer to name the babe! Thankfully, he's pretty easygoing.

I've been on the fence about finding out the sex--I'm going to love the babe no matter what, so why not be surprised--but he gave me an emphatic YES when I asked him if he wanted to find out. So we're going for it, but I've asked him not to tell those folks who are going to go crazy pink-or-blue on us.

I'm trying to look at it like this--since so much of the babe is going to be public now (friends and family are so excited, we've even gotten gifts already), it'll be nice to have a secret for just the two of us again. And soon! At my 16w checkup today, the doc got me scheduled for the ultrasound in 2 weeks!

[TIFF4NY]

If all goes well, I will be finding out the sex of this little one next Tuesday at 16w4d. I just called the place where I had a (more accurate) sex u/s with DD and they told me to come in at 16.5w which is a week from today. So DD turns three on Monday, I have the scan Tuesday, OB appt Wednesday and a follow up for my thyroid meds on Thursday. It will be a busy week!

The scan itself is $50 but I feel it's well worth it since I'm dying to know if I should keep or get rid of all the girl things we have leftover from DD. I've been itching to get this house cleaned out so that will be nice to know. I didn't expect them to want me to come in so soon so I'm kind of shocked but happy about it. They say if it's not 100% certain they will have me come back at no cost. Can't beat that!

Please cooperate little one!

[Munchkin08]

From the start I have said that I don't want to know the sex of our first baby. As you have probably read, my husband wants to (at this point). To be fair we haven't talked about it too much. We will set up that appointment once we see the midwife tmw, and I don't think that will be until the beginning of December. I have started looking at baby clothes (after ordering the solid colored Disney onesies earlier this week) - very dangerous. I have seen some cute cute outfits. And wonder if I may want to find out the sex after all. BUT I feel like this is our first birth, and the first "real" surprise, that I don't want to loose the opportunity and might be disappointed if I find out. On the other hand, if we don't find out (and have a boy after wanting a girl) that I could be disappointed. Big sigh. I know you guys cant tell me what to do but it would make it easier. :)

[BeanBean06]

Originally Posted by Munchkin08 

From the start I have said that I don't want to know the sex of our first baby. As you have probably read, my husband wants to (at this point). To be fair we haven't talked about it too much. We will set up that appointment once we see the midwife tmw, and I don't think that will be until the beginning of December. I have started looking at baby clothes (after ordering the solid colored Disney onesies earlier this week) - very dangerous. I have seen some cute cute outfits. And wonder if I may want to find out the sex after all. BUT I feel like this is our first birth, and the first "real" surprise, that I don't want to loose the opportunity and might be disappointed if I find out. On the other hand, if we don't find out (and have a boy after wanting a girl) that I could be disappointed. Big sigh. I know you guys cant tell me what to do but it would make it easier.

I totally always felt the same as you! This baby was never suppose to be (I was told years ago I would never have children) so I always said if we ever did we wouldn't find out. But after getting pregnant, I was so sure since the beggining that it was a boy that I began to feel concerned that if it ended up being a girl I might feel some dissapointment. Not that I don't want a daughter, cuz I really DO! I just feel like this baby is a boy. Anyway, I ended up deciding that if I was going to have a few feelings of disappointment it should be before the baby comes. So we are going on Monday (ekkk so excited) to my 18 week appt and anatomy scan to find out. For me, I'd rather work through some feelings of dissapointment (if any) while pregnant rather than when the baby comes whatever decision you make will be right for you! But as far as the surprise, I think it's a wonderful surprise either way

[Oliver's Mama]

Originally Posted by BeanBean06 
 I ended up deciding that if I was going to have a few feelings of disappointment it should be before the baby comes. So we are going on Monday (ekkk so excited) to my 18 week appt and anatomy scan to find out. For me, I'd rather work through some feelings of dissapointment (if any) while pregnant rather than when the baby comes whatever decision you make will be right for you! But as far as the surprise, I think it's a wonderful surprise either way

This is how I'm feeling too. I'm hesitant to say I'd be disappointed, but maybe, it's that I'm not excited to have another boy and I would need some time to rally around the idea. I'm no good at just playing out hypothetical situations in my head and just being prepared to be excited for either.  Sure, there is nothing more emotional or special as when you first see and hold your baby, but I hate to risk the chance that I might feel my heart sink even for just a moment.  I just don't want to be dealing with the surprise at that moment.  It's not the baby's fault, it's mine, and he/she doesn't deserve to start life dealing with mama's baggage!

[brooklyn_warbler]

{ETA this is for those of you who are weighing whether or not it would be better to possibly be disappointed via ultrasound or at the birth...Totally absolutely NOT in any way making a judgment call about whether it's somehow "better" to find out or not find out via ultrasound!}

To play devil's advocate I might also point out that in  my experience it's A LOT harder to be disappointed when you are actually seeing a sweet little person's face and you have all your birth endorphins and oxytocin pumping than when you are looking at a somewhat alien-like creature on a computer screen and they don't feel as "real" yet.  If I really preferred one over the other (which I do not) I would want to wait.  But then again I find ultrasounds kind of offputting and not a bonding moment like actually meeting the baby, so I may be weird!
 

Edited by brooklyn_warbler - 10/28/12 at 1:31pm

[1babysmom]

Originally Posted by brooklyn_warbler 

To play devil's advocate I might also point out that in  my experience it's A LOT harder to be disappointed when you are actually seeing a sweet little person's face and you have all your birth endorphins and oxytocin pumping than when you are looking at a somewhat alien-like creature on a computer screen and they don't feel as "real" yet.  If I really preferred one over the other (which I do not) I would want to wait.  But then again I find ultrasounds kind of offputting and not a bonding moment like actually meeting the baby, so I may be weird!
 

Not weird, I'm the same way!!  We've never found out though, so I have nothing to compare to, but I've never wanted to find out either.  Sure, I've had urges, but overall I've always felt it was worth the wait.

[IronMam]

For me, I feel the birth is such an exciting moment no matter what, that I don't need the extra surprise. I'm sure I'll end up surprised by something anyhow. With DD, I ended up "surprised" by a 36+ hour labor. 

 Not knowing something just stresses me out anyway. I'd rather not spend my entire 9 months obsessing over the unknown. Part of that is just due to my personality. I have some control issues. I don't like not knowing something knowable, and I like to be prepared. Obviously, less anxious people, people with more laid back personalities, may feel very differently.