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[brooklyn_warbler]

Originally Posted by IronMam 

For me, I feel the birth is such an exciting moment no matter what, that I don't need the extra surprise. I'm sure I'll end up surprised by something anyhow. With DD, I ended up "surprised" by a 36+ hour labor. 

 Not knowing something just stresses me out anyway. I'd rather not spend my entire 9 months obsessing over the unknown. Part of that is just due to my personality. I have some control issues. I don't like not knowing something knowable, and I like to be prepared. Obviously, less anxious people, people with more laid back personalities, may feel very differently.

Totally get you.  I wasn't really responding to the folks like you who know they want to know.  I was responding to Munchkin, BeanBean and Katie, who were all saying they didn't really want to know but felt like maybe they should find out in case they're disappointed.  I was offering a point of view that might help them come to a conclusion. 

[brooklyn_warbler]

Originally Posted by 1babysmom 

Not weird, I'm the same way!!  We've never found out though, so I have nothing to compare to, but I've never wanted to find out either.  Sure, I've had urges, but overall I've always felt it was worth the wait.

I personally have never found out either...but I have had friends who have found out with one and not the other or friends who were disappointed by a certain sex and then wished they had waited to find out at the birth when the baby was more real and less of an idea because they felt they would have been less disappointed.  But I don't think there's any real answer to that question.  It's all about what you want to do!  Personally I don't do it for the "surprise" but for a lot of different reasons (not liking the experience of getting an ultrasound, wanting to find out for ourselves instead of being told by a tech, not gendering baby before s/he is born...but mostly because I just plain find it magical!).

[stormysky]

I have 2 and 2, so I could go either way. I found out with the first 2, and didn't with the second 2. I really loved the surprise, but this time I'm inclined to find out. I'm at a difference place this time.

[IronMam]

Originally Posted by brooklyn_warbler 


Totally get you.  I wasn't really responding to the folks like you who know they want to know.  I was responding to Munchkin, BeanBean and Katie, who were all saying they didn't really want to know but felt like maybe they should find out in case they're disappointed.  I was offering a point of view that might help them come to a conclusion. 

I know. I was just adding my two cents.

[Oliver's Mama]

Originally Posted by brooklyn_warbler 

Totally get you.  I wasn't really responding to the folks like you who know they want to know.  I was responding to Munchkin, BeanBean and Katie, who were all saying they didn't really want to know but felt like maybe they should find out in case they're disappointed.  I was offering a point of view that might help them come to a conclusion. 

Thanks for the insights, but I've never been undecided, I totally 100% want to know as soon as possible, to deal with my disappointment / excitement issues beforehand. (although, if they tell me girl, I think I'll be very skeptical till I meet the baby!  But if they say boy, I'll have time to prepare and get all psyched about it) I'm ashamed to admit that all the hormonal excitement of giving birth will not overshadow my fear of having 3 boys.

[brooklyn_warbler]

Originally Posted by Oliver's Mama 

Thanks for the insights, but I've never been undecided, I totally 100% want to know as soon as possible, to deal with my disappointment / excitement issues beforehand. (although, if they tell me girl, I think I'll be very skeptical till I meet the baby!  But if they say boy, I'll have time to prepare and get all psyched about it) I'm ashamed to admit that all the hormonal excitement of giving birth will not overshadow my fear of having 3 boys.

Ah, I guess I misread. I totally lumped you all together when it was really only Munchkin who is undecided.  Now I feel like an idiot! 

[Munchkin08]

Being in the path of Sandy I had to reschedule my midwife appointment. Just got off the phone. It was a bit of a mess. BUT we have the ultrasound scheduled for Nov 16. I will be 19 weeks 3 days. Our latest idea is to have the tech write it on a piece of paper, put it in the envelope, and wait until Valentines Day to open it. That way it will be after our baby shower and we wont deal with any gender stereotyping by way of clothing - which is a concern for me (particularly for some family members who just don't get it). And it will give us time to get over any ..... unexpected news. But still bond with the baby - esp for DH. That's my latest idea. We will see what happens between now and then. Smile. 

[BeanBean06]

I forgot to update here, with all the other drama going on (I have to have a cerclage surgery on Friday) but the results of our anatomy scan were GIRL! Shocker! They only said they were like 90% sure and we will confirm in 2 weeks... But we got a pretty good look and there weren't any "hanging bits" as the doc said lol I really thought since I've thought boy all along I'd be a little disappointed, but as soon as he said it I was immediately excited! Girls are so fun and I'm very excited for my husband. He's always wanted daughters, and he is so gentle and tender hearted he will be an amazing girl daddy I can totally see him having tea parties, playing dress up and painting finger nails

[TIFF4NY]

Originally Posted by BeanBean06 

I forgot to update here, with all the other drama going on (I have to have a cerclage surgery on Friday) but the results of our anatomy scan were GIRL! Shocker! They only said they were like 90% sure and we will confirm in 2 weeks... But we got a pretty good look and there weren't any "hanging bits" as the doc said lol I really thought since I've thought boy all along I'd be a little disappointed, but as soon as he said it I was immediately excited! Girls are so fun and I'm very excited for my husband. He's always wanted daughters, and he is so gentle and tender hearted he will be an amazing girl daddy I can totally see him having tea parties, playing dress up and painting finger nails

Congrats! 90% sure is a good number. My husband is fantastic with DD. I think it's adorable to see men with their little girls.

[Lisanne]

Originally Posted by BeanBean06 

I forgot to update here, with all the other drama going on (I have to have a cerclage surgery on Friday) but the results of our anatomy scan were GIRL! Shocker! They only said they were like 90% sure and we will confirm in 2 weeks... But we got a pretty good look and there weren't any "hanging bits" as the doc said lol I really thought since I've thought boy all along I'd be a little disappointed, but as soon as he said it I was immediately excited! Girls are so fun and I'm very excited for my husband. He's always wanted daughters, and he is so gentle and tender hearted he will be an amazing girl daddy I can totally see him having tea parties, playing dress up and painting finger nails

yay for girls! We have 2 and my husband would be thrilled with a third :)

[IronMam]

DP really wants another daughter. Daughters are great! I'm sure sons are too, but I'm not really qualified to say. lol

[stormysky]

They're both great! I have 2 and 2 and they are all so different from one another. Both my boys and girls are sweet and loving, yet very challenging! 

[spruce]

Congrats, bean bean, on the 90%!

The further we go with this pregnancy, the more I am thinking boy. No idea why. DH joked that I have 5 months to waffle back and forth about which one we have.

[brooklyn_warbler]

Originally Posted by spruce 

Congrats, bean bean, on the 90%!
The further we go with this pregnancy, the more I am thinking boy. No idea why. DH joked that I have 5 months to waffle back and forth about which one we have.

LOL!  I keep flip flopping too.

[firespiritmelody]

I had a dream the other night that we were at the ultrasound and it was a girl. Then i've had a couple of dreams that the baby was a boy. We're having insurance issues and if they don't get resolved, I may have to reschedule the anatomy scan (currently scheduled for the 7th) and I will be really bummed out if we have to. :( Gah! I just want to know already!!!

[Oliver's Mama]

I had my first gender dream ever last night.. I was at the ultrasound, but all you could see were a bunch of cells, not a whole baby. and there were little x's and y's floating around; it was like a junior high science class diagram.. and I was thinking oh no.... not a y! not a y!  

[brooklyn_warbler]

Originally Posted by Oliver's Mama 

I had my first gender dream ever last night.. I was at the ultrasound, but all you could see were a bunch of cells, not a whole baby. and there were little x's and y's floating around; it was like a junior high science class diagram.. and I was thinking oh no.... not a y! not a y!  

[celtiemama]

I knew it was a girl instantly.  my husband and son, as well.  she'd come to me in vision and dreams and when i'd try to imagine a boy, there was nothing.  i had a pretty bad sch beginning at eight weeks and as a result, have needed a few ultrasounds.  the last one confirmed our instincts -> its a girl!
 

[bmcneal]

I had my first baby-related dream. In my dream, it was not just one baby, but twins, and it was boy/girl twins. DF said it was because I have twins on my mind, but I haven't really thought about that. I think it would be nice to have twins (especially boy/girl twins), partly because then DD and DS will both get what they want, but also because twins have always sounded nice to me.

[Rainey Daye]

I am having the "big" ultrasound on Wednesday at 17.5 weeks...and if baby cooperates we will hopefully find out if baby is a boy or a girl. My little dude has been confident this whole time that he is getting a sister...so it would be awesome if he gets his wish.