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[IronMam]

I'm starting to feel a lot of anxiety over this being a boy...even though DP (who wanted another daughter) is coming to terms with it. Now he's calm, and I'm freaked out. I'm not even sure why. I'm so afraid I'll go to the ultrasound at the end of the month, and end up disappointed. I don't wanna feel that way about my baby.

[mrsavery]

I am starting to have *little* twinges of anxiety, too. This is our first baby and Lord willing we will have more than one, so there really isn't any pressure for which gender we have first. Except that my husband is REALLY excited about having a boy. We always refer to the baby as a he. And I am beginning to picture life with a son. But we ARE NOT going to find out the gender until birth....and I can't help but feel conflicted about our attitude on this. What if this baby is a girl! Goodness, we will be so happy to have a healthy little girl, of course! But I don't want to feel ANY guilt or disappointment at that moment. What do you do? How do you keep an open mind, and still bond with your baby NOT knowing the gender?

[TIFF4NY]

I think it's perfectly natural for parents to have anxiety leading up to finding out the sex of the child whether through u/s or at birth. But in the end, I think seeing and holding that little person melts away any hint of disappointment one may have had. I'm not saying people won't mourn the thought of the opposite sex, but I think for most that upset goes away. 

Maybe try bonding through their routine and movements. You can sing songs to them, poke them when they are bigger (you usually get a reaction), read stories to your belly and just focus on growing a healthy child inside. Think of all the great activities you will be able to do with this child as they grow regardless of what sex they are. 

[Munchkin08]

I too am feeling anxious about our 20 week scan on Friday. We have not had any first trimester testing done so this will be the time to find out any health concerns. Of course I am hoping to hear there are none! We also decided to find out the sex and I am nervous that it might be a boy. We both want a girl - and I think, for me at least, that stems from being first time parents and us both feeling like we can parent a girl .... "better."

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Originally Posted by TIFF4NY 

Maybe try bonding through their routine and movements. You can sing songs to them, poke them when they are bigger (you usually get a reaction), read stories to your belly and just focus on growing a healthy child inside. Think of all the great activities you will be able to do with this child as they grow regardless of what sex they are. 

Thank you for the advice Tiff4NY! We will see what happens Friday.

[1babysmom]

So, I had sort of thought this baby might be a girl...just a lot of similarities to my pregnancies with my daughters as opposed to my son.  My mom, who has guessed right with each baby, hasn't outright said girl yet, but she keeps getting pink stuff or pointing it out in stores without thinking about it, and so she's sure her intuition must be right again. LOL  Since we don't find out, it'll be another 22 weeks or so until we know, but it'll be interesting to see if she's right AGAIN, and if for the first time my initial thought was correct! LOL

[Rainey Daye]

Originally Posted by Rainey Daye 

I am having the "big" ultrasound on Wednesday at 17.5 weeks...and if baby cooperates we will hopefully find out if baby is a boy or a girl. My little dude has been confident this whole time that he is getting a sister...so it would be awesome if he gets his wish.

So, I know there is always a possibility for error, but the tech said our baby is a girl!! DS was unimpressed when we told him. His reaction was pretty much the preschooler version of "Duh, I've been saying that all along!! Weren't you listening?"!!

[Oliver's Mama]

Originally Posted by Rainey Daye 


So, I know there is always a possibility for error, but the tech said our baby is a girl!! DS was unimpressed when we told him. His reaction was pretty much the preschooler version of "Duh, I've been saying that all along!! Weren't you listening?"!!

Congratulations!!

Yep, my 5 year old was the same. I nearly teared up showing him a picture of his new baby sister, but then all his reaction was,  "um, yeah, I know mom...." a boy was just never an option to him.