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post #41 of 65
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Phatchristy~how are you doing mama?? I hope all is well in your part of the universe!

post #42 of 65

Travelmumma - sending you good thoughts following your rough news!

 

Love reading upp on everyone, though count me in on the not-so-great-at-personal replies-club, as well as the October babies - DS will be 5 on the 21st :)

 

Rough week over here, too - I'm feelign pretty well, except for a funny right arm/breast pain. My b/p was "great" at my appt yesterday (98/58), and everythign else seems fine, but I wish I knew what it was... maybe colgged milk ducts? Possibly combined with carpal tunnel? Thinking of trying a few days of phytolacca to see if it does anything... so yeah, the rough stuff if family health news - waiting for test results from DS's DR - hoping and praying for good news!

 

Gettign into fall food here as well - apple & pear crisp last weekend (made with sprouted wheat flour)!

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Originally Posted by tropicana74 View Post

EXACTLY!! Or by the time I am done reading the other replies I can see that someone else already said what I was thinking so I figure it doesn't need to be said again! winky.gif

 

 

Is anyone else feeling like baby is so low it is hard to close/cross your legs? I really don't remember feeling it this early but maybe my body just remembers how this works?

I have been carrying this baby all out front and this week I noticed I was feeling lots of pelvic pressure and that familiar feeling of feeling like my pelvis is separating. I looked in the mirror last night (naked) and could clearly see that my hips looked wider. I asked DH if he could see it and he said, now that I pointed it out, he could definitely see what I was talking about! I wonder if this LO has just snuggled in and made himself cozy in his head down position early? Or my pelvis just widening has giving him a good place to settle? My babies have always been engaged and ready to go early (at a 0 station weeks and weeks before birth) but I sure don't remember it happening at 28 weeks...maybe my memory is failing me. Maybe something I will have to Google at 5 a.m. if I can't sleep! orngbiggrin.gif

this exactly! yes, i can't cross my legs at all, but my babe is laying in a low transverse not vertex :(
DD didn't even engage until I had been in labor for a day, so this is totally new for me! It is REALLY uncomfortable. I totally feel like my pelvis needs to be wired together or I am going to fall apart everytime I go from the seated to standing position--ahhhh! I seriously feel like I am 38 weeks, not 28! Yikes!!!
total empathy, mama.
Also, I am experimenting with tying a rebozo wrap around my hips tightly to help with this separation and I think a belly band is def. called for now. Sitting in crossed leg poses isn't a good idea anymore either :( LMK how you deal with yours!

post #46 of 65

Our DD will be 8 at the end of October. thumb.gif

 

No more leg crossing for me either. Little miss has been head down for a while, though, so I just hope she doesn't plan on making an early entrance! 

 

Hugs, travelmumma. grouphug.gif

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Originally Posted by nhklh View Post

 

If this helps at all, some years ago I sent a question (via MDC) to Michel Odent about VBAC and my unicornuate uterus.  He said that he did not believe it would raise my chance of rupture any higher than a woman VBACing with a normal uterus.

Thanks for this - any positive info helps me a lot.

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Zebrachick and mamaharrison, I had an appointment with my CNM today. I asked her about all the extra pressure I am having. She offered to do a VE (which of course I declined) but she said that it is very normal  for multip pregnancies. She pointed out that the uterus is not as firm as it was in previous pregnancies and that this pressure happens earlier in subsequent pregnancies. She said it will be worse the more I am on my feet (but of course when you are the mother of 3, staying off of your feet is not really realistic headscratch.gif). She said I could try a belly support and I actually have one that a friend gave me but honestly I kind of always feel like I should leave nature alone. I always wonder what wearing a band like that could do to having the baby in the right position and allowing nature to do it's thing....a little paranoia on my part I suppose. shy.gif

 

On another note I LOVE MY CNM!! I don't plan on birthing at her facility but I am loving seeing her for care. And she is totally nonchalant about my plans to not come to the hospital and just deliver at home UC if I want to. Today I asked her her thoughts on post dates (because that 42 week dead line is always a big pet peeve of mine)! She said most of her patients deliver by 42 weeks and of the ones that don't the others always deliver by 43 weeks. That was it!!  I said so there will be no pressure to induce at 42 weeks? She said no because the babies always come by 43 weeks....so calm and freakin' rational!!! I can't believe the OB group that backs her up is OK with it....so rare. So, while I have no intentions of going to the hospital to deliver, if I had to for any reason I am so happy knowing she is my gal! They have big tubs to labor in, will do underwater intermittent monitoring, no IV's etc. So, in my worst case scenario if I do have to go in at least I won't be having to advocate for myself left and right about every stupid policy! So happy to feel like I am in a win/win situation! thumbsup.gif

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I forgot to mention this. It is such a dumb little thing but it totally made me happy and you are the ONLY people who would get it.
I have not been really sure which room I intended to labor/birth in. I couldn't really picture it in any one spot in the house...I figure that one will definitely need to just be played by ear. HOWEVER, the other day I was giving DD (5) a bath and I turned around to find her on her knees with one hand up holding onto the bar (that would hold the wash clothes and one hand on the side of the tub. All I could think is THAT IS SO STINKIN' PERFECT, why did I not think of that? So the next day when I go in to take my shower I tried it out...totally works. All I need to do is get one of those really squishy bath mat things for my knees. orngbiggrin.gif

 

I remember asking one of the home birth midwives that I interviewed what her thoughts were on birthing in the tub. Her reply was that it was fine as long as there was enough room. I remember it kind of irked me because what she was saying was that there had to be enough room for HER and HER assistant and for HER to be able to check the baby's heart rate etc. I remember it making me feel so tense that I would have to adjust what worked for me because of what worked for them and it was just one more thing that told me I could not have anyone there! Anyway I was so happy to see that even though we do not have a over sized tub it will still work perfectly for my purposes! smile.gif Kind of silly, I know. 

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tropicana, that sounds downright dreamy for a backup! (and I like that tub idea.)

 

DH and I had an early anniversary date night tonight (our anniversary is on Saturday, sort of--it is the date of our big, production wedding, but a handful of people know we were legally hitched 5 months prior, lol). ANYway. DH is going on a camping outing with DS1 Friday night and an all day outdoor skills camp Saturday, then leaving town for work Sunday afternoon. So this weekend is just too crazy as it is. We had dinner at an Asian bistro here in town that was fabulous (GF Pad Thai, FTW!!), grabbed a GF vegan dessert at a local pizza place, then saw a movie (The Campaign, which really is hilarious *and* relevant, believe it or not.) His mom took the boys home from soccer practice, fed them, and watched movies while she re-braided DS1's cornrows. (I'm slow and they're never tight enough when I do them; she's an expert. I'm grateful.) It really worked out fabulously. 

 

I also found out that DH will not only be gone this week Sun-Wed night, but in a couple weeks, he has to fly out for a presentation in NM the day before we leave for wedding proceedings he's part of which are 4 hours away. Then the day after we get back from that, he leaves Mon-Fri/Sat for another round of meetings in California (Carpenteria, in case anyone is curious). Then we get a couple week's break before he flies back out to NM for a few days in November. I *think* we'll get a reprieve until at least January, maybe Feb, after that, though, because he already put in for possible paternity leave starting during his usual NM meeting week in December (the week of my EDD!). 

 

I'm a little bit nervous about this week's trip since he will have the car and we'll have the van for 4 days--and the stupid van is acting up again, like it's missing or something. DH will try to fix it tomorrow before he leaves for the camping trip with DS1, but I'm beginning to think we should just eat the cost of being underwater on it a bit and get a new (used) one altogether. I can't fit another kid into our car (a Prius), and will need to be driving another vehicle almost exclusively come December. :/ 

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Oh mamas, I am sorry that this post is going to be AAM, but I have not slept in like two days...it started when my middle daughter came down with a high fever and a severe wracking cough, then my eldest came down with it like 7 hours later, as of last night-EVERYONE in my house except DH is super sick. I spent all of last night making and administering horehound and licorice root syrup and our bed was a tangled mess of five sick grumpy bodies...I am sooooo tired and my neighbor whose son I am watching still dropped off her son today as she "doesn't care if he gets sick-he's a kid and they're germy anyway" Ummm ???!???!!????!! Yet he had nowhere else to go so he's here, I feel half dead, DH is at work now, the kids are craaaaaaazy sick, and I am super sad because it definitely does NOT look like making it to Jen's Harvest Party is in my future bawling.gif  If their cough does not start breaking up soon I am going to have to make wild cherry bark and slippery elm bark tincture....sorry to be such a rain cloud mamas :( I hope all is well, Stegen rae-I hope your van holds up and you and DH get a break from the hectic schedule soon! Tropicana-I looooove how awesome your backup sounds! Travelmumma and Phatchristy-Sending love in your directions

post #52 of 65

Darkblue!!! hug2.gif

That is the worst. Having sick babies is hard enough but when you are already so tired from being pregnant....ugh!
And your neighbor, really!? He is germy? Ack! irked.gif I'm sure another kiddo is just what you wanted today.

Thank goodness mama isn't sick too. Make sure you take care of yourself as best you can. Keep up your vitamin C & D levels and whatever else you can to keep your immune system running. 
Hoping everyone does a quick recovery.

post #53 of 65
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Originally Posted by stegenrae View Post

DH and I had an early anniversary date night tonight (our anniversary is on Saturday, sort of--it is the date of our big, production wedding, but a handful of people know we were legally hitched 5 months prior, lol)............ His mom took the boys home from soccer practice, fed them, and watched movies while she re-braided DS1's cornrows. (I'm slow and they're never tight enough when I do them; she's an expert. I'm grateful.) It really worked out fabulously. 

 

I also found out that DH will not only be gone this week Sun-Wed night, but in a couple weeks, he has to fly out for a presentation in NM the day before we leave for wedding proceedings he's part of which are 4 hours away. Then the day after we get back from that, he leaves Mon-Fri/Sat for another round of meetings in California (Carpenteria, in case anyone is curious). Then we get a couple week's break before he flies back out to NM for a few days in November. I *think* we'll get a reprieve until at least January, maybe Feb, after that, though, because he already put in for possible paternity leave starting during his usual NM meeting week in December (the week of my EDD!). 

 

 

Happy Anniversary! DH and I will be celebrating 12 years next month! My MIL will be in town by then and I am soooo looking forward to a date night in the city!

That is so nice that your MIL can do braids for you. When we used to do foster care I was always so grateful that the little AA boys we got had really short hair. I would have been clueless (even though I took an AA/biracial hair care class to get some of hours for my foster care re-certification it would not have been pretty)!

Sorry your DH is traveling so much...single parenting is HARD! It just hit me this week too that the chance of DH getting any real leave is probably not going to happen. He even admitted it will probably just be shorter work days or something but not a real leave. greensad.gif

post #54 of 65

Hello ladies!

 

For some reason this thread is feeling a little intimidating to jump into this week. So much going on! Hope everyone is hanging in there with the stress and the sickness and the discomfort!

 

I am on my 11th day in a row of working (hopefully I will be getting my normal weekend off tomorrow!) and am pretty exhausted from it. Working so much means my house is a total pigsty, which bothers me probably more than it should. I did manage to get some laundry done last night, but I am looking forward to spending some quality time with a broom and a sponge tomorrow! 

 

We started our Birthing From Within classes last week (2nd one is tonight) and so far we are feeling kind of disappointed. I guess I was hoping that we would be spending more time working on techniques for coping with labor and ways that partners can be supportive. We did spend a small amount of time on that, but spent the majority of class on going over the basics of labor (signs of labor, stages, etc), which is important, I agree, but the whole reason I took a BFW class instead of a more traditional childbirth education class is that I was hoping for less of that stuff. I know that I am the exception to the rule for pregnant women in that I have attended many births and was pretty knowledgable about the subject before I ever became pregnant,  but I was pretty shocked by the lack of knowledge in the class about pretty basic stuff. These are mostly women who are planning home births or birth center births, so I would have guessed that they would have done some research/read a few books. I know I should be patient, but I was feeling really frustrated by the fact that we ended up spending so much time on "the basics". I am afraid I may have let my frustration show a bit after we spent a good 20 minutes talking about one's water breaking as a sign that labor was starting and I finally had to blurt out the fact that most labors do not start that way. Sorry if I sound like a raging bitch - I just need to vent a bit. I am really rethinking this class as a good fit for us, but I am unlikely to get my partner to attend a second class series with me and I don't really want to shell out the money for another one. Blech.

 

On a more upbeat note, we are getting ready to take a week long trip to Portland in a few weeks. We are going to have a little wedding ceremony in a friends back yard (he owns a large house that he rents out, but doesn't live in). All of our closest friends are coming up and staying at the house with us, so it is going to just be a fun weekend of celebration, good foods, and the people we love the most in the world. I am looking forward to it a lot. 

post #55 of 65
darkblue, oh, man... maybe that kid will carry home the germs and get his mom sick and maybe she'll care a little better next time.

kateadelle, sorry the birthing class isn't what you wanted it to be. hug.gif

AFM - I am super excited b/c DS's potty training is going MUCH better than DD's did. I did a "naked day" a couple of weeks ago (prompting DD to draw an anatomically correct version of the boy in my tummy, lol) with him so I could watch his signals and get his "pee pattern" down. In the afternoon of that day, I did commando, and then I got tired and distracted at the end of the day and he had a few accidents. But since then, he's done really awesome, even out and about, and even when he's with people other than me and DH. He did have an accident on Wednesday but that was from drinking WAY too much water unrestricted, and he didn't realize his limits, lol. If he continues to stay dry tonight and tomorrow, I'm ditching the nighttime diaper, too, and having him in undies full-time.

Now, if I could just get some motivation to start getting some baby things ready. I have not-so-mad time-management skillz, and we moved into this house at the end of June, and nearly half of our boxes are still closed up. redface.gif The crib is in disassembled pieces, leaning against a wall, I don't know where my diapers are, etc. Meanwhile, I also work at home (since DH's income alone doesn't make our ends meet), try to keep the kids from torturing each other too much, homeschooling DD, laundry, cooking, etc. DH works super-long hours so he's very little help. I am exhausted just trying to think about what to do next with regard to unpacking. I did get DH to hang the pictures up on Wednesday. I would nearly go into a panic just thinking about that task, so I told him, "I don't care where they go. Just get them on the wall. I'll be back in a few hours." Then I left for my glucose test appointment, lol.

My dr was late to that appointment because she was at her third birth of the day! It was crazy busy. I'm starting to get excited about the upcoming birth. I'm past the point in my pregnancy that I was last time now, and now I'm just praying that my c-section scar holds as my uterus grows, and that it gets at least to 37 weeks, but preferably 39 or 40. I toured the hospital this week and it's nice. My doctor puts new updates in my chart at nearly every visit so I can get the birth I want. A lot of the things I want done for the baby, though, have to go through the pediatrician, and our pedi is in the complete opposite direction from the hospital, so I'll have to talk to her next month at DS's well-child visit and get my ducks in a row for the baby, too (no eye drops, no vaccine, I'll warm the baby with my body instead of having him in a warmer bed, no formula regardless of his weight, etc.) My milk has come in at exactly 60 hours (it's really uncanny how down-to-the-minute it is for me) all three times, both with my spontaneous, full-term vaginal births and with my 25-week emergency c-section. I'm not planning to still be in the hospital at 60 hours PP so there's no way the baby will gain any weight until after we get home.

But more preparations are falling into place as well. DH couldn't come with me on the hospital tour, but there is a little tour with a sibling class they offer, and both kids will be old enough for the class, so we'll be doing that in early November and also meeting our doula that same day. I think after that day, I'll really be kicking into gear to get things ready, lol.

Anyway, whew. That was long, lol.
post #56 of 65
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We started our Birthing From Within classes last week (2nd one is tonight) and so far we are feeling kind of disappointed. I guess I was hoping that we would be spending more time working on techniques for coping with labor and ways that partners can be supportive. We did spend a small amount of time on that, but spent the majority of class on going over the basics of labor (signs of labor, stages, etc), which is important, I agree, but the whole reason I took a BFW class instead of a more traditional childbirth education class is that I was hoping for less of that stuff. I know that I am the exception to the rule for pregnant women in that I have attended many births and was pretty knowledgable about the subject before I ever became pregnant,  but I was pretty shocked by the lack of knowledge in the class about pretty basic stuff. These are mostly women who are planning home births or birth center births, so I would have guessed that they would have done some research/read a few books. I know I should be patient, but I was feeling really frustrated by the fact that we ended up spending so much time on "the basics". I am afraid I may have let my frustration show a bit after we spent a good 20 minutes talking about one's water breaking as a sign that labor was starting and I finally had to blurt out the fact that most labors do not start that way. Sorry if I sound like a raging bitch - I just need to vent a bit. I am really rethinking this class as a good fit for us, but I am unlikely to get my partner to attend a second class series with me and I don't really want to shell out the money for another one. Blech.

 

On a more upbeat note, we are getting ready to take a week long trip to Portland in a few weeks. We are going to have a little wedding ceremony in a friends back yard (he owns a large house that he rents out, but doesn't live in). All of our closest friends are coming up and staying at the house with us, so it is going to just be a fun weekend of celebration, good foods, and the people we love the most in the world. I am looking forward to it a lot. 

You know, to be honest, I kind of had a similar experience with BFW classes. Back when I was getting my labor doula certification, I had to audit a series of CB classes. Not being preggo at the time, and feeling like I was on the up and up with basics, I thought BFW would be a cool one to do. I know so many doulas/midwives who love that method after reading the book and attending the classes, I always felt like an outsider because I'm not really that into it. There are aspects I like, but I'm a practical person and the particular class I took was a little ...I don't know...new age-y for me. It WAS fun, but I remember thinking I would be kind of let down if I had actually been a pregnant first timer or something because it just did not go into comfort techniques etc. enough.What they did touch on was done in a unique and cool way though. I would recommend sending your educator an email or something and just asking when you might expect to go over some of the things you are really interested in. Also, you do NOT sound like a raging bitch! I think your complaint is totally legit, those classes are pricey!

 

Hey, you'll be in my neck of the woods-ish :) I live about 45 mins south of Portland, hope we have decent weather for ya!

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Originally Posted by Harmony96 View Post
Now, if I could just get some motivation to start getting some baby things ready. I have not-so-mad time-management skillz, and we moved into this house at the end of June, and nearly half of our boxes are still closed up. redface.gif The crib is in disassembled pieces, leaning against a wall, I don't know where my diapers are, etc. Meanwhile, I also work at home (since DH's income alone doesn't make our ends meet), try to keep the kids from torturing each other too much, homeschooling DD, laundry, cooking, etc. DH works super-long hours so he's very little help. I am exhausted just trying to think about what to do next with regard to unpacking. I did get DH to hang the pictures up on Wednesday. I would nearly go into a panic just thinking about that task, so I told him, "I don't care where they go. Just get them on the wall. I'll be back in a few hours." Then I left for my glucose test appointment, lol.

Oh man, ME TOO! Same thing, moved into our house at the end of June and half the stuff isn't out of boxes and the stuff that's been unpacked is no where near organized. All of my stuff is waiting for its "forever home" lol. I keep thinking I'll get motivated or something but...nothing! I totally do NOT feel comfortable or cozy or "at home", but I just can't seem to get in gear. I love your method of getting those pictures hung, lol! Totally something I would do :)

post #57 of 65

Wait, wait, kateadelle did you just say you're GETTING MARRIED?!?  Squee!  Congrats, what are you and your partner wearing, who is doing the ceremony, etc?

 

Anyway, I am trying to get ready to teach a BFW class all day tomorrow which I have had NO TIME to prep because DH has been out of town and I am actually sitting my kids in front of the screen to get it done (blech.)  I sincerely hope, though that it is somewhere between Kateaddelle & Marilyn's not-so-great experiences - i.e., I do some basics if the couples are inexperienced/not up on them - and some cool stuff - but without being too woo woo.  I think it probably really depends on who you get as a teacher/mentor.  I've gotten good feedback in general from the couples I've worked with - but I don't think I'm perfect by any stretch of the imagination.

 

Also on germs - we are all snuffly/sniffly/coughing, but it's really not a bad cold at all.  I'm worried though because DH is coming home tonight but working again tomorrow afternoon - when I am still teaching my class - and my mom is supposed to be caring for my kids.  But she is super germ paranoid.  My kids have had no fever, are not 'spraying' stuff when they cough or sneeze (which isn't often anyway) and we haven't needed to skip any of our usual activities - just take it a little easy.  But I'm sure she's going to be grumpy about watching them anyway and will probably blame us if she gets sick anytime in the next 2 weeks (despite the fact that she just flew cross-country, which is much more likely to expose her to nasty germs than my mildly-sniffly kids . . .).  Okay, enough of that vent!

post #58 of 65

Darkblue and Mamabeakley - My little ones seem to be getting colds, too. Both of them sound congested and are coughing some at night, but no fevers and no other symptoms as of yet. We are taking it easy this weekend and hoping that their immune symptoms will fight this off quickly. I need to make some ginger tea to help give them a boost. But in case they do start getting worse, I would love to hear more about your syrups and tinctures, Darkblue. I have never heard of horehound and licorice root syrup. What are the properties of these? How do you make it? And the wild cherry bark and slippery elm bark tincture? Just in case things get really bad! I am just now starting to get into homeopathy and herbal remedies. I found out about ginger juicing and ginger tea to help ward off colds last fall and it worked great, but remedies from symptoms are still new to me.

 

Happy anniversary(ish) to stegenrae and many blessings on your upcoming wedding, kateadelle! Hope everyone has a great weekend and that we ALL get some much needed rest.

post #59 of 65

Darkblue, any improvement on the coughs?

Phatchristy and Travelmumma, I am anxious for updates on you!!

Umm, is anyone else dealing with an insane appetite? My weight gain had totally plateaued at about 13-14 pounds for several weeks and in the last week I climbed my way up to 18 pounds!! I am so hungry. I do think I have probably been eating more carbs than normal but oh.my.gosh I just can't seem to get enough food. During the second trimester I felt like I was back to my pre-pregnancy diet. Eating three normal meals, not having to get up at night to eat but wowza I am only a couple weeks into this trimester and what a difference!!

Tonight I was home alone with just my two youngest so I thought I would order them pizza as kind of a fun treat (and ordered an extra for myself). I ATE FIVE PIECES OF PIZZA....tomato, hot banana peppers and garlic sauce!!!! redface.gif Well, here it is time for bed but I haven't eaten in 5 hours and I am feeling famished again....I am actually considering eating the 3 pieces of pizza I didn't eat earlier. Good grief. Not a healthy choice, I know....such a moment of indulgence! yikes.gif

post #60 of 65

tropicana:  Me, too!  I have been famished these last few days.  I have gained 15 lbs so far but I'm sure at my next appointment I will have shot up!

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