How far along before you tell your employer you are pregnant?
Do I need to do it in writing, or how should I tell them?
Edited by bmcneal - 9/16/12 at 12:58pm
Basically, tell when you are comfortable doing so. You can even tell just your immediate supervisor and let him/her know that you want to keep it quite from general information for a while yet.
I've had three different experiences with it.
DS - told my boss right away and he asked my permission to consult with two other people about possible hazards in the workplace that we hadn't thought of. Decided on any necessary job modifications and I told co-workers later.
Pregnancy2 - hadn't intended to tell, had a workers comp. accident where I cut my finger and needed stitches, the pregnancy information came out. I miscarried. Having to tell everyone I was no longer pregnant really really sucked. However, when I screw up everything I touched for 1/2 a week and then took the rest of the week off no one said a word and understood that I was working through some stuff.
DD - Waited until I was 12 weeks and then told everyone who had already guessed, because I get really ill when pregnant and no one belived I'd had "a touch of a stomach bug" for that long.
I know at least two people who choose not to say anything until closer to 20 weeks, but I think may have let their immediate supervisor know sooner.
So it varies so much. Just tell when you are comfortable doing so.
Depends on the job and how you're holding up, really. If things are fine, I'd say wait as long as you can. I personally like to wait until it's pretty obvious because the minute people find out you're pregnant, it seems like they start acting really weird around you and treat you like some totally different person. Or you get a ton of "advice" or horror stories that you may or may not want to hear. I vastly prefer not to have all that extra attention.
I kinda like things to be as normal as possible, as long as possible, so I never tell anyone until it's totally obvious and I'm showing.
Legally, I think you have to give a month's notice for FMLA, but in practice, it's good to give them a few months' notice to find a temporary replacement.
Well, I told them, because DF was worried about me doing heavy lifting, but they said it didn't matter, they would only restrict or change my duties if I had a note from my doctor restricting lifting or something. I guess restricting lifting is not everywhere, so we shall see. I'll just have to be extra careful.
The part that is a little more upsetting about having told someone is that I told a few of my friends, but apparently they thought even though I asked them not to say anything to anyone, it was okay, because there's a lot of rumors going around now, and people just running their mouths about "who's the daddy?!?!?" like I don't know.