I need to get this out. Yesterday DP and I celebrated our twin DD's 7th birthday at our home. Our DS, who is 2 yo, saw his sisters getting dressed and decided he wanted to wear a dress as well. This is not the first time, he does it every so often, and we do not think it is a big deal. However, my father was at our house from out of state and he had a fit. I mean, he was so upset that he actually packed up his belongings and drove away from our house only 15 minutes before the guests were due to arrive (and 2 days before he was suposed to leave). He shortly changed his mind and returned, only to stay long enough for my DD's party and then left in a big huff of tears and "I don't understand you" statements.
I am irate. The kids don't understand what happened and how can I even begin to explain it to them? IMO, forcing a child of either gender to conform to societal norms at the age of 2 when there is no good reason for it is ridiculous. I think my father behaved deplorably. What do you think? And how do I talk to him about it when / if that occurs? Is this the kind of man I want around my children? I love my father, but my kids don't need that and neither, honestly, do I. Opinions?