10 dpo. Feeling everything but Zen, lol. Yesterday I could swear I was pregnant. Today I dunno. Basically I'm driving myself nuts. I've got 6 more days til AF may visit. I'll test around then. There are a ton of things I need to get done but I feel pretty distracted and unfocused. I'm going to buckle down today and get some done.....
GISDiva: I'm assuming you like Preseed since you've ordered it before. Do you have any experience with Conceive Plus?
I don't have any experience with the other brand. I didn't mind it last time, so I went with it again.
Regarding keeping the spark up...looking back, I don't think we've had sex since the last O time. Oy. It doesn't help that we only have sex with one goal in mind, does it... *sigh*
Good to hear other people also experience loss of 'excitment' about things. I am going to blow the dust off my lacy nightie, find some new reading materials, and switch my meditation practice from am to evening - hoping it helps.
I LOVE 'fake it till you make it'. It made me laugh.
I guess the great thing is that DH doesn't appear to be having the same problem. And I guess that is really the key to this baby-making game, right ;)
GISDiva and others: Tell me more about the preseed. I know the premise, having read their website, but ummm... wondering if it helps add some spice to the big event? (I'm soooo sorry if I am asking TMI).
I guess the great thing is that DH doesn't appear to be having the same problem. And I guess that is really the key to this baby-making game, right ;)
GISDiva and others: Tell me more about the preseed. I know the premise, having read their website, but ummm... wondering if it helps add some spice to the big event? (I'm soooo sorry if I am asking TMI).
Haha - the other night I said to my husband something like, "Can I just sleep and you can do your thing?!" He has no problem anytime. He doesn't get worn out. So, when I am laying on my side thinking, "Fake it till you make it," he is totally in heaven. And I can usually get there once we get going, but sometimes it takes me a while. He knows he has to get me in the mood and that could be like a 15 minute back rub!
About the Preseed - I used it one cycle and it did not add any spice to the big event. In fact, jamming a syringe full of lube up yourself can have the opposite effect! I also found that things were so slippery that it was hard to get a good sensation. It wasn't bad, but if you're expecting to have it spice things up, I don't know that I would count on that.
AFM: my own mother, who struggled with infertility and adopted me, told me yesterday "just stop thinking about it". AAARGH! Really, mom?! I told her that was the least helpful advice I've gotten so far!
I got the same advice yesterday from my MIL. Hard to stop thinking about it when the clock is ticking soooo hard. She had a very hard time and many losses while trying to conceive my DH. It all worked out, but she was much younger than I am now too.
happy2bamama- My husband went out of town a few days after my O, and I was sooooo happy to take some time off.
AFM- I still haven't tested, and expect AF by the weekend. I don't feel the signs I felt last time, hip pain and tiredness. I had a panic attack a few days ago while thinking that maybe we REALLY won't have any more children. I have always been more hopeful than that, but I feel the hope fading. I do think someone in this group will get a BFP soon! I do hope they post the good news.
There was a streak of ladies on this thread getting BFPs a few months ago! The odds are that some of us will, soon :) Isn't that exciting!! The probability of all of us being here in 6 months is not high. Yay for hope for this one moment! It's like sitting in the Price is Right audience - it could be any one of us that gets to go to "contestant row"!!
GISDiva and others: Tell me more about the preseed. I know the premise, having read their website, but ummm... wondering if it helps add some spice to the big event? (I'm soooo sorry if I am asking TMI).
About the Preseed - I used it one cycle and it did not add any spice to the big event. In fact, jamming a syringe full of lube up yourself can have the opposite effect! I also found that things were so slippery that it was hard to get a good sensation. It wasn't bad, but if you're expecting to have it spice things up, I don't know that I would count on that.
I use Preseed as well and really like it. However I don't use the syringes just for the reasons mentioned by happy2bamama. I just put some on dh and away we go. Feels very natural to me. It also makes the tube last so much longer. Which is great at $15 each!
I use Preseed as well and really like it. However I don't use the syringes just for the reasons mentioned by happy2bamama. I just put some on dh and away we go. Feels very natural to me. It also makes the tube last so much longer. Which is great at $15 each!
Great idea! Thank you for that :)
I use the Preseed strictly to create a more sperm-friendly environment, all spice has to be conjured by me and DH. *haha* I don't get gobs of EWCM, so I figured it would help. Seemed to the first time around...I honestly don't remember if we bothered with the syringes or not...
Hey. Mind if I join? I'm K, a mama in her mid-twenties. I have two living children and had three miscarriages. This is my first cycle of trying to conceive after the loss. Right now, I'm waiting to ovulate. Looking forward to getting to know you all!
Revolting: welcome! Hope you find this place helpful in your TTC journey.
In the PreSeed vs. ConceivePlus debate: one of the reasons I chose ConceivePlus was because it comes in a tube, the syringe thing sounded weird to me. The lube feels ok, before TTC we used Astroglide for years.
It sure seems like we are due for some BFPs doesn't it? I love your "contestant row" image, happy2bamama, that made me laugh! I wanted to jump up and yell: "ooh, pick me, pick me!" like an over-eager know-it-all kid in first grade!
JJClifton, JustJenny: we're all due for AF this weekend. How are you gals holding up?
Xerxella: My mother and I are very close but this is one topic I haven't really discussed with her. It feels a bit too prying to me to ask her about how she dealt with her infertility. I do believe that as I continue on this journey it will come up at some point but I'll leave it to her to start the talk. I actually look forward to talking with her (we call once a week) and I love having her be part of my TTC experience. I hope that she can one day be part of my birthing experience as well. She is so supportive of me and I think we can help each other heal. She just annoyed me the other day when she said that because I thought she would know better.
And now for a little quote from an article written by my colleague Lauren Eirk. The title of the article is "Finding contentment with your body and your yoga" but it applies even without the yoga part: We can't control how beautiful, successful or talented others are. What we can do is avoid comparison--and practice contentment with who we are.
Reading that brought me a lot of peace yesterday. (I also had an extra hot, grande, decaf, soy, upside down caramel macchiato which was awesome!)
It reminded me that a lot of this suffering is caused by the trap of comparison, and that the only way to have peace is to appreciate and be grateful for what you have.
Have a peaceful day, ladies!
And now for a little quote from an article written by my colleague Lauren Eirk. The title of the article is "Finding contentment with your body and your yoga" but it applies even without the yoga part: We can't control how beautiful, successful or talented others are. What we can do is avoid comparison--and practice contentment with who we are.
That's really helpful and really rings true to me right now. I am also a part of an on-line mom's group in my local city and it's become a really great supportive place for me over the years (many of us are friends in real life now too). There's another woman trying to get pregnant right now too and it's really, really hard to try not to pay attention to her journey as I go forward with mine. She's a teacher and seems to be able to time her pregnancies (this would be her third) just right every time for a summer maternity leave. And I'm thinking "Well, any old time will do for me, I'm not picky..." It's hard to try not to compare like it's a damn race - heck, she even got her IUD pulled out the same week as me. Gah! 
Hi, just poking my head in. I am anything but sane right now so don't want to muddle up this lovely thread with my ramblings. Just waiting for AF to confirm my BFN and put an end to this horrid PMS. AND THEN try to get sane again. 
Hugs.
I hope the whole "you're more fertile after a loss" thing works for you (and me for that matter).Xerxella: no need to apologize, I didn't feel like you were overstepping. In general I feel this is such a supportive group and everything we post is done in the spirit of helping one another.
My friend who works for Starbucks told me about "upside down". They usually put the caramel sauce in the bottom which leaves you with a latte that tastes like caramel at the end, so to remedy that I have them put the caramel sauce on last, then it sort of melts down into the drink to evenly distribute the flavor. Surely a first world problem if there ever was one...
beingmommy: sorry to hear you're feeling down. I can relate to that dreaded feeling.
GISDiva: yeah, isn't it funny how as teens we get told to not give in to peer pressure? But it lasts well into adulthood, the feeling that you need to keep up with the Jones'. So-and-so had a kid, we should have a kid, etc.... Feeling like your best friend is ahead of you because she's already done with her two kids and you haven't even started yet (referring to myself).
AFM: I keep reminding myself to be open to the possibility. At the same time I called the clinic yesterday and got some reassurance from the nurse that trying Clomid without IUI will still improve the odds so that's the plan if I need it, I'll know soon enough.
Stay sane everyone! Oh, and the fake it till you make it apparently also applies to happiness. I read yesterday that if you smile for 20 seconds you can trick your brain into being happy, you just have to be willing to look like a grinning fool for that long!
I'm going to try this today. Amazon messed up my order and my OPK's will probably not arrive when I need them. Serenity now!
ETA: Maybe it's the universe's way of telling me to chill out and let it happen without obsessing with little blue lines. Yeah, that's it. We'll go with that.
Thanks for the warm welcome, everyone!
Revolting: welcome! Hope you find this place helpful in your TTC journey.
In the PreSeed vs. ConceivePlus debate: one of the reasons I chose ConceivePlus was because it comes in a tube, the syringe thing sounded weird to me. The lube feels ok, before TTC we used Astroglide for years.
It sure seems like we are due for some BFPs doesn't it? I love your "contestant row" image, happy2bamama, that made me laugh! I wanted to jump up and yell: "ooh, pick me, pick me!" like an over-eager know-it-all kid in first grade!
JJClifton, JustJenny: we're all due for AF this weekend. How are you gals holding up?
Xerxella: My mother and I are very close but this is one topic I haven't really discussed with her. It feels a bit too prying to me to ask her about how she dealt with her infertility. I do believe that as I continue on this journey it will come up at some point but I'll leave it to her to start the talk. I actually look forward to talking with her (we call once a week) and I love having her be part of my TTC experience. I hope that she can one day be part of my birthing experience as well. She is so supportive of me and I think we can help each other heal. She just annoyed me the other day when she said that because I thought she would know better.
And now for a little quote from an article written by my colleague Lauren Eirk. The title of the article is "Finding contentment with your body and your yoga" but it applies even without the yoga part: We can't control how beautiful, successful or talented others are. What we can do is avoid comparison--and practice contentment with who we are.
Reading that brought me a lot of peace yesterday. (I also had an extra hot, grande, decaf, soy, upside down caramel macchiato which was awesome!)
It reminded me that a lot of this suffering is caused by the trap of comparison, and that the only way to have peace is to appreciate and be grateful for what you have.
Have a peaceful day, ladies!
That's so great that you have such a good relationship with my mother. I'd love to know more about my mothers' experiences with miscarriage, but I, too, don't want to pry.
Hi, just poking my head in. I am anything but sane right now so don't want to muddle up this lovely thread with my ramblings. Just waiting for AF to confirm my BFN and put an end to this horrid PMS. AND THEN try to get sane again.
Hang in there!
I'm officially in the 2ww. I ovulated sometime last night. We managed to DTD last night, too, so the timing worked out pretty well. I recently downloaded from my library some meditations for women. I'm hoping it's good and that I can relax.
That's so great that you have such a good relationship with my mother.
Hehe, just had to point out your little typo! 
Hehe, just had to point out your little typo!
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