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Good luck Judy! Try to relax and enjoy your day! Fingers crossed that by tomorrow you'll be holding your baby in your arms!

 

There are a few mamas we haven't heard from for a few days. I hope you are all too busy snuggling your new babies to post! love.gif

 

AFM, another night of crappy sleep. I can handle all the pregnancy related reasons for not sleeping, but it's driving me nuts to just lie there with general insomnia when I'm so, so tired. I think I fell asleep around 2:30 and woke up at least 3 or 4 times before finally being up for the day at 8. I'm pretty sure lack of sleep is probably the main cause, but I'm grumpy and quite frankly bitchy today. Pretty much everything and everyone is bothering me. lol. I'm feeling incredibly antisocial, but just my luck, FIL is coming into town in about an hour. He's not staying with us, so I hope he wants to go and settle in before coming for a visit. I find him a bit stressful at the best of times, and I really don't need this right now. I guess he's getting registered in some sort of course while he's here, so he's not coming just for the baby, but man, I wish he could have stayed away until after the birth!

 

Other than that, I'm doing OK. I never expected this baby to be born by his or her due date, but despite that I'm still feeling a little let down at still being pregnant. I promised myself not to get impatient until at least 41 weeks, but it's easier said than done!

 

I hate to complain about my DH, because really, he's pretty great (especially compared to what some of you have had to put up with!) but I'm going to anyways. lol. He doesn't seem to get that we need to make some time for the baby. He's registered himself in a soccer tournament this weekend (so 6 games over Friday, Saturday, Sunday) and booked a work trip for October 1 which means travelling on Sept 30 and home on the 2nd or 3rd. Then he has a shut down to work from the 6th to the 10th (although that one wasn't his fault.) We didn't take any holidays this summer so that he could build up his vacation time and stay home for awhile after the baby is born, and now it looks like I'll be lucky if he's home for a week, and if we go past 41 weeks, it'll only be a couple days. This, despite the fact that he has 4+ weeks of vacation built up. I know I'm lucky that I have family around so I won't be without support, but I'm a bit sad he's going to miss that initial family bonding time, just like he did with DD. :(

 

Thanks for listening to me whine! When I'm less mopey, I'm pretty aware that the fact that I can worry about this sort of thing pretty much means everything else is going smoothly so I'm going to try to focus on that. It's also a lovely fall day today, so I'm going to get outside and see if some Vit. D helps my mood a bit. :)

post #162 of 318
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Other than that, I'm doing OK. I never expected this baby to be born by his or her due date, but despite that I'm still feeling a little let down at still being pregnant. I promised myself not to get impatient until at least 41 weeks, but it's easier said than done!

I am SOOO with you there! DS1 was 37 weeks, DS2 42 weeks, so I know it it a total toss-up, and I wasn't *expecting* an arrival by now, but man- I am so ready to move on to the next stage!!!
post #163 of 318

Carlin--I'm sorry he's been doing that. You can vent. :)

 

Judy--Good luck!

 

AFM: today was my day to get emotional. I actually read somewhere that having a good cry can sometimes release built-up tension. I'm just really frustrated that the birthing center cannot legally attend a home birth at my home after 42 weeks. Which means either an unassisted, which I'm not comfortable with, or an inducement at a hospital. So today I was weighing the pros and cons of a little black cohosh tincture in my water twice a day, and realized that I'd much rather have that kind of inducement and other things than the pitocin and epidural. It's annoying to me, also, that I have this worry in the back of my mind, that I'm constantly at the midwife's office, that they are telling me how little time I have left, and yet I'm then supposed to just relax and let it happen. Right. Stupid laws really piss me off sometimes.

 

I have two midwives telling me two things: one says to take action now. The other says don't worry yet, but in the process of not worrying will I give myself less time to then set things in order with inducement techniques? Who the heck should I listen to?? Next time I'm getting a home birth midwife.

post #164 of 318

Judy, 

You have a huge cheerleading squad!!! I did my MW's list too, and I think it was the electric breast pump for an hour that did the trick.  I'm sure she has that one on her list too! Thinking of you today. . . . 

post #165 of 318
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I have two midwives telling me two things: one says to take action now. The other says don't worry yet, but in the process of not worrying will I give myself less time to then set things in order with inducement techniques? Who the heck should I listen to?? Next time I'm getting a home birth midwife.

 

When are you 42 weeks?  I'd be much more comfortable attempting the natural induction methods at least as a first resort before a pitocin/hospital induction.  Big hugs to you.

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With DS2, I started natural induction stuff at 41.5 weeks, and he arrived at 42+2 only after AROM. This time around, I'm starting acupuncture at 40+2, and I'll begin other options at 41 weeks. As I have learned as a parent, it doesn't work to push our kids when they are not ready, but at the same time, physiological systems aren't perfect. There are so many variabilities, and I've learned that my body needs external help with some things that come naturally to others.
post #167 of 318
Just got back from the hospital. Everything looked fine. Blood pressure was great, urine great, baby great, blood good so i was sent back home. Yay. I guess i can be preggers til monday if i dont go into labor before.
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LibraryMo--I'm 40w4d today, but as I said, I can't have midwifes assist me at home after 42. So I basically have 10 days to have a baby the way I'd like to.

 

help007--I agree about the parenting thing, and that is why I have been so hesitant to take control here and induce, whether it's natural or not. However, I look back on ttc and I was doing chaste tree tincture and castor oil packs for 10 months before I was able to get my cycle predictable and cyst-free. So part of me is thinking I do need a little help. I just have a slower system.

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And bio-FIL, who I haven't seen since last Christmas, walked into my house this afternoon and literally the first words out of his mouth were "Wow, you are gigantic!" Snort. I'm laughing because it's a better option than telling him to take a long walk off a short pier as my Dad would say. At least he's not staying with us. If he was, I'd move out.

post #170 of 318
Ascher, what happens at 42 weeks? Are you automatically induced at the hospital? Or will they let you go a bit longer with tests to verify the placenta is still in good shape?

That is why my midwives were willing to break my water- another day, and I would have had to go to the hospital anyway for a medical induction. Plus, I was already quite dilated.
post #171 of 318

Good luck Judy.  Sending you labor vibes dust.gif

 

Carlin, I'm so sorry your DH is looking at traveling so soon after baby is born.  I'd be super upset too.  It's wonderful that you have local family support, but having your DH there is just so different.  He is, after all, your partner.

 

Ascher, I'm pretty sure most home birth midwives have the 42 week cut off too.  That's what Judy's facing.  Hope your little one decides to arrive on his/her own before your cut off.

 

Evi, YAY for good test results. 

 

AFM: I'm now 40w 2d.  My midwife is at a birth right now, so I'm hoping for Friday or Saturday night smile.gif  An equinox baby sounds really neat.  DH is getting lots of questions at the office now:  "No baby yet?"  "Are you going to induce?" "Aren't you worried about the baby getting too big?"  and lots of suggestions on how to move things along.  He's sort of going crazy with it lol.gif  DD2 is having a really rough time lately.  Last night she started screaming at the top of her lungs in a restaurant eyesroll.gif  It was fun that daddy would stand up and take her outside when she did.  Now she's doing it in the van too irked.gif  This morning my girls (who usually play beautifully together) were at each others throats and I was super frustrated and we were trying to rush to get several things done before DD1's science class...  But then we got DD1 to science (which she absolutely loves), and DD2 and I had some time just the two of us at the park on this lovely afternoon.  Now I need to go get them up from quiet time and ready for gymnastics.  Thursdays are full days around here, but it's good to keep us all busy.

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help007--actually the birth center sends me to get the tests done during my 41st week. And even if the tests are fine, I will need to go to a hospital to deliver. Something i wanted to avoid for me and my baby.

 

I have a birth pool blown up in my living room. I sure hope I get to use it.

 

I didn't realize I'd be dealing with this worry at the end. So much more I'd rather be worrying about at this point. Ok, I'm going to go sulk.

 

Evi--I agree. An equinox baby would rock!!

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Just a quick check-in... working through my midwife's list has brought on contractions and they're relatively regular and uncomfortable (a bit of variation in intensity sometimes... not super painful, but some I do have to breathe through with focus). I hope, hope, hope they keep up and intensify and turn into the real deal!! *fingerscrossed* So excited! And it's exciting!

Thank you all for the labor vibes and well-wishes! It means so much to have so many thoughts heading this way for me and Baby Five!
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Great news Judy! Here are some more "real thing" labour vibes heading your way!

 

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Woohooo Judy!  Continued thoughts and prayers coming your way!

 

ascher--For me, I think the risk of losing your homebirth would push me toward some of the less invasive labor encouraging techniques sooner rather than later. It IS stressful and difficult that you are stuck with such a small window.

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Yeeehaw judy. Labor vibes your way. That list sounds awesome. Keep us posted. What all is left on the list?
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It is so strange that so many of you are still pregnant. On the mainstream board I'm on, most inductions happen by 39 weeks. It's nuts. It's amazing just how normal it is to go to at least 41 weeks. Just so you all know, I miss those last few days of pregnancy now. Savour them. Go get a nice foot massage and a pedicure and see a movie with your girlfriend. 

 

Sending labor vibes to everyone ready to have their babies!! 

 

Dexter is doing great. He's 10 days old now. I am so in love. He has his days/nights mixed up but I know it won't last forever so I'm just accepting it. I wouldn't be this sane without DH here. He has to go back to work on Monday and I don't know what I will do without him. I think baby blues are getting better. I think. I'm not sure. I cry less but I am crawling into a shell where I don't want anyone around me or the baby (especially the baby). I just want to be alone with my baby. I don't know if that's normal. People want to stop by and I wish they would all just go the hell away. Ugh. Damn visitors. Leave me alone. LOL

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MissE - great to hear that everything looked good at your appointment! That must be such a relief.

 

MamanF - Good to hear from you! I think it's perfectly normal to want to block out the world a little at this point. As long as you are enjoying your little guy and feeling good, I think it makes sense just to follow your instincts right now. There will be lots of time for visitors later!

 

Ascher - sending labour vibes your way too! Hopefully that baby will make his arrival asap and save you from having to decide on any induction techniques. Having said that, I agree with Monkey Keeper. I'd be willing to try some gentle induction methods if the only other option was a hospital induction.

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Just got back from the hospital. Everything looked fine. Blood pressure was great, urine great, baby great, blood good so i was sent back home. Yay. I guess i can be preggers til monday if i dont go into labor before.

Woo Hoo!!! Labor vibes coming at you!

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And bio-FIL, who I haven't seen since last Christmas, walked into my house this afternoon and literally the first words out of his mouth were "Wow, you are gigantic!" Snort. I'm laughing because it's a better option than telling him to take a long walk off a short pier as my Dad would say. At least he's not staying with us. If he was, I'd move out.

Ugh, I'm sorry... I get really testy also but I think anyone would have been upset at what your FIL said... They aren't always very tactful!

 

Yay Judy! You DO have a huge cheer squad on here! SO hoping it is the real thing!! I am so hoping to read your birth story soon!!!

 

Ascher - My MW has a 2 week cut off as well. I think thats standard pretty much everywhere so you would likely be getting that pressure no matter who your care provider is... Doesn't make it any less fun though. I agree with MK, it might be better to try less invasive induction methods especially if you don't want a hospital birth. Hopefully you will go into labor on your own, most people do so don't stress too much over it easier said than done, I know!

 

AFM: 40w3d here! I had some decent cntx today but nothing regular. Took a nice long walk with DS while at my mom's house... I spent the day over there because my car wouldn't start... YAAAAAAAAAY!!!! SO now we are down to one car which isn't  huge deal since I likely won't be going anywhere tomorrow or over the weekend (hopefully because I had a baby!) it's just that the one car is the oldest car which doesn't have a lot of life left in it anyway. Poo... I really hope something will happen soon though... I didn't want to still be pregnant this weekend but I have been preparing myself for it so i am not going crazy yet... Saturday is my 2nd Tri Us EDD so who knows maybe that one is the right EDD??

I also got a lot of cleaning done today, so that is nice... I will not be running around scrubbing stuff while in labor lol

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Ascher -- I very clearly understand your dilemma because it's where I am right now. I chose not to try any induction methods too early, but did today, 41w5d for me. It's important to me to have an out-of-hospital experience with my midwife. So, I did the things on my midwife's list and it seems to be taking!

5boysplus -- using my midwife's electric breast pump right now to try to strengthen contractions!
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