I haven't posted much because I'm kind of waiting for the first trimester to pass. After a couple losses, you never know....
I have a friend who had a baby couple weeks ago and she was lucky enough to have her mom come stay with her a few weeks before the birth and a month after the birth. She's been able to sit in bed and take care of the baby and herself while her mom takes care of her two daughters and the house. A whole month of resting!
She wants to tell me all about the things she is learning about the importance of postpartum care and rest. *sigh* I don't want to hear it. The jealousy bug has bitten me.
She got to birth with a midwife and she has all the help she needs. I have just resigned myself to the fact that we cannot afford the midwife and will have to have another hospital birth (our insurance covers a hospital birth 100%). So I'm feeling that sting. Plus, I don't have anyone to help me before or after the baby comes. Yes, my mom will pop in and cook a few times, but there is no way she would stay for any extended time. My husband is awesome, but he will have to go back to work after a few days. That leaves me to take up my mommy duties again most likely within a week of birth. The kids will be 6, 4, 2, and, of course, the newborn. Whew!
I am happy for my friend. I really, truly am. She has a tendency to get overwhelmed very quickly, and it's really good her mom can stay and help. But I am struggling with feeling overwhelmed myself and I dread hearing her tell me how great it is to have a "confinement" period and just spend time with the baby.
What is your post partum care like? Do you have a lot of help, or do you have to jump right back into daily life again?