I'm about 29 weeks with di/di twins and starting to think about how I'm going to organize help for the first little bit. It's not an easy task for me to ask for help, but I know we have a good community of friends that would love to help out when they can. My family mostly lives far away and so does DH's. So, how did you do it? And how did you know what you would need help with?
I have a 3 year old DD who we will be keeping in daycare/preschool 4 days a week for the first 6 months, to give her a break and to keep her routine. But, I need to think about getting her to and from. DH can probably get her there most mornings....
We also have a roommate, a close friend of ours, who works part-time and loves to clean and wants to help out, so I feel fairly confident that the housekeeping won't completely fall apart. But I'm not comfortable relying exclusively on her.
And my mum is coming before the babies get here to help me cook and stock the freezer (I'm aiming for a month's worth of meals).
What else am I going to need help with in the first few months?
I'm thinking of maybe sending out an email or something to the friends that I know would like to help out and would likely be able to and ask if they are interested in committing to checking in with me on a rotation schedule (so it won't over-burden them) to see if I need anything. I know myself that if I leave it to me to contact a friend and ask for help, that it won't get done. But I feel that if I can count on once a day, someone I know and trust is going to give me a call or text and offer to help, that would make me feel better.