An 8ish week ban on bending over « Back to Group Discussions

[tekcez]

I made a bold proclamation today.  I said whatever is on the floor will stay there until this baby is born unless someone other than me bends over and picks it up. A foolish part of me thought that dh would step up and help out by bending his non-pregnant body over and picking up the hangers, puzzle pieces, salad spinner, pot lids, books, shoes, little people, cars, trains, tampons (ds found them in the bathroom drawer and has been using them to fill his bus), tupperware, shoes, dirty clothes, packages of butt wipe, crumbs, clumps of dog hair, leaves, medicine plungers, and sippy cups from today's toddler tornado aftermath from the floor.  Like I said foolish.  All items remain exactly where they lay (lie?) and shall until bending over is again comfortable to me.  Or until dh steps on something that jabs into his foot, at which point, he will likely curse and kick it to a different spot on the floor, so, yeah, still on the floor.  

[Carinthia]

Ha! I feel the same way about bending over! So far I've always relented and picked "it" up anyway....It's amazing what accumulates if you just stop doing what you usually do without noticing! I'm sorry for your frustration though...it's the same here, nothing moves without me. I think there is a difference in awareness or something...my dh (big D, really) just doesn't see the stuff on the floor like I do... Hugs to you!

[wantabeanbrat]

lol....story of my life :)

my dh also just doesnt see stuff on the floor....not now and never during pre pregnancy days either! 

oh yeah...but everytime i see "things" on floor and in an instant my mind tells my body like second nature - to bend, pick it up and put it in the right place....dh will be like...."why are you bending? tell me and i will do it for you". I guess, it will take me some practise to condition my mind to see stuff lying around the floor and report to him...and wait (forever!!!) patiently till he picks it up :)

[abouttobe5]

LOL.  I saw a post on FB today that had a picture of a logo piece.  Above it said "I hope you step on a piece of lego.  Don't take it personally"

This post reminds me of it.  :)  It's like when DH steps on something and gets made, i"m like "yeah if you had helped me by tidying up when I asked, you probably wouldn't be feeling this way right now".

lol

[eggsandpancakes]

hubby will occaisionally ask me why somethnig is on  the floor. my response has become "it's too far away." he mostly gets it for me, unless he thinks it's something he can talk the dogs into eating.

[finnegansmom]

THIS. Exactly.  My husband doesn't pick up anything, ever.  Can you get one of your kids to pick up the stuff?  Bribery works.  Give them a little basket and have them go around and fill it up with everything on the floor and they can get a treat.  I need drastic measures at this point.  I even have my 18 month old picking up clothes from the floor and putting them down the laundry chute.  He loves doing it.

[MrsKoehn]

Oddly enough, at 33 weeks (this is my first, I'm sure by the next it'll be different!) I can generally still bend over pretty well. I am practicing squatting when I remember. Sometimes there is a little butt in my ribs that makes it impossible though. He usually moves pretty quickly though. He doesn't like being crowded at all.

[Momto2Annie]

My SO leaves his dirty clothes on the floor. Always.  Always. Always. But, then he'll out of the blue vacuum the entire living room and study... going as far as moving the couch and vacuuming and collecting the random treasures underneath.  All of this after he works 10-12 hours a day.  I can't complain.  But I still do in my head when I see the boxers on the bathroom floor EVERY day, lol

[faithsstuff]

We are the opposite, hubby is the one who picks things up.  I'm the scrubber, to him if there's not much clutter, it's not dirty.  The bathroom floor has nothing on it so it's 'clean' despite the fact that there's a stinky puddle of urine behind the toilet from a 3 year old with poor aim.  Honestly, I like the division of labor :)

[tekcez]

Originally Posted by finnegansmom 

THIS. Exactly.  My husband doesn't pick up anything, ever.  Can you get one of your kids to pick up the stuff?  Bribery works.  Give them a little basket and have them go around and fill it up with everything on the floor and they can get a treat.  I need drastic measures at this point.  I even have my 18 month old picking up clothes from the floor and putting them down the laundry chute.  He loves doing it.

Ds is almost 16 months.  He loves putting things away, but he loves taking them out again even more.  He doesn't understand yet when a job is finished and tantrums when we stop after putting everything in.  He thinks we need to take everything out again and then get distracted and move on to something else.  It's a work in progress, though.  I have high hopes for him!!

Originally Posted by Momto2Annie 

My SO leaves his dirty clothes on the floor. Always.  Always. Always. But, then he'll out of the blue vacuum the entire living room and study... going as far as moving the couch and vacuuming and collecting the random treasures underneath.  All of this after he works 10-12 hours a day.  I can't complain.  But I still do in my head when I see the boxers on the bathroom floor EVERY day, lol

Yeah, I really shouldn't complain either.  Dh is actually super helpful and busts his butt for us everyday.  He gets up with ds at his ungodly 5:30 wake up, makes all of us breakfast, unloads the dishwasher, and entertains ds while I sleep for another hour and a half.  When he comes home from work, he is happy to jump right in to the bedtime routine when I am pooped out even while ds screams for mommy.  Then he helps with dinner and washing up.  He's a gem, this guy.  But he cannot close drawers or cabinets, turn off lights, close/lock doors behind him, or get his under wear 2 feet over into the hamper to save his life.  And he just doesn't notice mess and filth.  Never has.  Never will.  God bless 'im.  

Originally Posted by faithsstuff 

We are the opposite, hubby is the one who picks things up.  I'm the scrubber, to him if there's not much clutter, it's not dirty.  The bathroom floor has nothing on it so it's 'clean' despite the fact that there's a stinky puddle of urine behind the toilet from a 3 year old with poor aim.  Honestly, I like the division of labor :)

See, this is a dynamic I could work with.  Last weekend my in-laws came over.  My MIL ended up helping tidy up and I was able to scrub surfaces.  She offered to sweep for me, but I told her that I was getting too much enjoyment out of accomplishing such a satisfying cleaning task.  Scrubbing the sink has become a calming/meditative activity for me.  This from a person who would have done anything to avoid cleaning pre-baby.  

[sere234]

Finaginsmom- Love teh idea of having your toddler pick up all the stuff littering the floor. And dang, that stuff does add up by the end of the day doesn't it?

Momto2annie- My DH tends to leave his socks everywhere. Socks!!! He'll take them off and set them on counters, the couch, the patio table, the corner of the floor, anywhere. It's so bizarre! Drives me bonkers sometimes but I just gather them up and dump them in the laundry and then he asks me where they are! Apparently he wants to put the same pair back on sometimes. To be fair, he hates getting his feet wet so if something dripped or spilled in the kitchen, it really bothers him to accidentally walk in it wearing socks....

But yeah, Tekcez, I'm with you on the bending over. It needs to stop soon. It's just getting too hard and I make too making grunting sounds when I have to do it!

[tekcez]

Originally Posted by sere234 

But yeah, Tekcez, I'm with you on the bending over. It needs to stop soon. It's just getting too hard and I make too making grunting sounds when I have to do it!

Oh the grunting!  And I know that I should be squatting, but what I've been doing instead lately is a sort of jackknife move where one leg comes completely up to counterbalance while I tip over teapot style with the rest of my body to avoid bending forward at the waist.  Harumph!  

[lovetolaugh]

Oh, I don't post often, but got such a laugh out of this thread!  I sound like I'm about 112 years old when I bend over!!

[kparker]

Wow I have to pick up all the things. The dog, to let him out' the cat and dog toys; the food and water dishes to feed the pets; and today I was on my hands and knees tidying up after I mopped the entire kitchen.

I totally deserve this bath I'm drawing!