What to do with that surge of regret? - Page 2

[kitchensqueen]

Originally Posted by journeymom 

Still, we're doing alright.  As long as we keep talking and figuring out the misunderstandings. 

Oh.... suddenly today, out of nowhere - I find myself in this moment with my family. My husband and I are okay - but things just went to crap with our living situation (totally not ready to spill details yet) and it is SOOOO stressful. And I'm filled with regret - we could've/would've/should've done so many things differently over the last two months.... 

But - I have my husband and my son and god willing, we'll continue to all be okay and have our health and our love. And at the end of the day, everything else is just small fry. But still... hindsight is twenty twenty!

[journeymom]

Aw, whatever it is Kitchensqueen, I hope it's resolved satisfactorily soon. You are so right, an intact family is what it's all about, ultimately.  It doesn't erase the significance of life events, like ...whatever you're experiencing. But it's a foundation to stand on. 

I figured out that I've been going through life thinking bad things aren't supposed to happen to me. But things do go wrong, and it's normal, it happens to everyone else.  I don't know why, but this reassures me, to know I'm just like other people in this. 

I swear, Kitchensqeen, the above isn't in response to your situation!    I had already come here this morning to proudly share my little epiphany.  I know I don't appreciate it when people try to comfort me saying essentially, "That's life, get over it."

[kitchensqueen]

Originally Posted by journeymom 

Aw, whatever it is Kitchensqueen, I hope it's resolved satisfactorily soon. You are so right, an intact family is what it's all about, ultimately.  It doesn't erase the significance of life events, like ...whatever you're experiencing. But it's a foundation to stand on. 

I figured out that I've been going through life thinking bad things aren't supposed to happen to me. But things do go wrong, and it's normal, it happens to everyone else.  I don't know why, but this reassures me, to know I'm just like other people in this. 

I swear, Kitchensqeen, the above isn't in response to your situation!    I had already come here this morning to proudly share my little epiphany.  I know I don't appreciate it when people try to comfort me saying essentially, "That's life, get over it."

Thanks. I know what you mean about it being reassuring - I actually kind of feel the same way. You can be really, really good but life can still be crappy sometimes. And we all go through it one way or another from time to time. Solidarity in the human condition is a little glimmer of relief, I suppose. 

[BeckyBird]

Journeymom, I understand your frustration! Here's a story you might enjoy....

Dh was unemployed for a year, so he went back to school. As soon as he graduated, he began to look for a job.  He would be working for the state, so the application was the same for each town where he applied. Well, he accidentally filled out the wrong town name on one of the applications! It said something like "I would like to work with town X because"....only it was sent to the wrong town! We didn't realize this until after the form had been turned in. When we realized the mistake, it was devastating!!

He was so anxious to start working, so this was not funny AT ALL! Now, we can look back and giggle about it, and I'm really glad he didn't get a job with that town anyway. So in the end, I'm glad things worked out the way they did. I hope something good will come from your little mistake. If nothing else, maybe it will make you pay extra close attention to the rest of your applications.

[pek64]

I like the story. There have been times when events or mistakes have dictated the path of life, and I usually do look back with gratitude. I hope the same happens with you.