Oh yes *hugs* we are moving too I sympathize. Everyone is a bit calmer so far, we've been working at it gradually, packed most things and changed the house visually quite a bit before listing for sale (new paint and we got carpet), the most stressful part was in the midst of that. Most of our stuff has been in the garage for weeks, we've just been living with less. I am getting the last things packed this week. We are renting a place while we wait to close on our house and buy the new one. My husband left weeks ago, he had to start his job right away at the new place. So the kids and last details and maintaining the house for showings has been up to me 100%. But we got it under contract! Awaiting the buyer's financing mainly, should close early Nov. My oldest (age 6) is the high needs kid, but he kinda finds it a relief to have dad gone since he is scared of DH lately when he gets caught at something. I just ground him from everything related to the offense, DH makes him talk about what he did wrong and look him in the eye while he does so. I hope that fear stuff is not too hard to work past when we're together again. He has been getting worked up when he thinks about leaving his friends, that's the only anxiety I have noticed. Our 3 year old is so laid back if he ever cries it's just about wanting a specific food or something and it's over abruptly in moments.
Living in a little apt with all our stuff crammed in it for 6 weeks will suck. We homeschool and I'm a SAHM so being limited in space will be rough, but smooths some of the transition as we don't need to get childcare and school and such. I finally got in touch with the one midwife there for OOH births, I'm not sure if she'd be willing to attend me at home I may have to go to her place for the birth, giving up the homebirth thing somewhat. I get to meet her in 3 weeks, she's a total unknown to me but she sounded nice over the phone (short conversation). I have no idea who will watch our kids during the birth esp if I have to leave home, I really hope my MiL doesn't have to drive out, love her but she is too tightly wound and worries too much to have present in labor. We still need to find a church out there too, the ok one DH went to a couple times is just too early in the morning and a bit impersonal. DH is checking one out tomorrow that may work well. On the new house part of things we are almost done getting the loan commitment and a week or so away from offering on the house we want.