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post #1 of 63
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Is anyone else itching to set things up for baby?  I totally am.  This week I cleared out the alcove in our room where the baby will be camping out, and I'm so ready to start collecting stuff and setting up!  Maybe to make it feel more real?  We weren't planning on having more kids, so I am starting from scratch and have no hand-me-downs to work with.  I think I may start with a changing table soon, since that'll be the only storage space for all of baby's clothes and stuff.  Oh, and I can't wait to decorate... it's such a cozy little nook joy.gif

post #2 of 63

We never dismantled our changing table even though DD has been potty trained for ages now. That will just stay where it is but I doubt we'll set up the crib for a long while. We never used it with DD but we've already promised ourselves that we will at least give it a go with #2. As much as we love co-sleeping, we really like our space as well. DD is finally sleeping in her own bed most nights (she always starts there) and so our goal is to atleast have her 100% out by the time #2 arrives. In the meantime, I will be getting our little co-sleeper bassinet back from the SIL to use with this one.

 

Other than that? I probably won't do much of anything. We still have some of the favorite things we used when DD was small so those are sitting patiently in the corner of the bedroom until they are needed. We are already swamped with toys so I'm actually planning to cut those down for donations. 

 

I'm actually REALLY wanting to get a dumpster so I can just start hauling all sorts of crap out of this house. I have the urge to just purge, but that was here before I even got pregnant. Now that I'm starting to feel human again I'm really going to start going through things again.

post #3 of 63

I have the urge to clean, organize, and purge.

 

I don't think we really need much for this baby. I've kept our favorite clothes that each of the kids have worn so this baby will have clothes. Not that that stops me from admiring the ones at the store sometimes. :)

 

I am feeling kind of crafty, though. Normally I make each of the baby's a blanket, but I already have a finished blanket so I don't need to do that this time. I plan to use my crafty craving on Halloween costumes for my other kids, for now.

post #4 of 63

Oh, I am so glad to read your post. I am in the May 2013 DDC and I thought this was all starting so early. Now I feel more normal....although I see you are due a month ahead of me bag.gif.

post #5 of 63
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Originally Posted by miss_nikki View Post

I have the urge to clean, organize, and purge.

 

I don't think we really need much for this baby. I've kept our favorite clothes that each of the kids have worn so this baby will have clothes. Not that that stops me from admiring the ones at the store sometimes. :)

 

I am feeling kind of crafty, though. Normally I make each of the baby's a blanket, but I already have a finished blanket so I don't need to do that this time. I plan to use my crafty craving on Halloween costumes for my other kids, for now.

 

I'm also having the urge to clean, organize, and purge and with a husband who hates order, I have my work cut out for me.

 

If there's one thing I've learned, if you have the urge, do it! You never know what's coming up.  People told me to wait to set up my nursery with my 5th child.  By their standards by the time I should have done it, I was huge and had to have my mom drive 5 hours to come help me set it up (at 37 weeks). We had to switch bedrooms and my husband was convinced the baby was going to wait for us to be ready.  It didn't happen and we brought her home to a messy house but thankfully the bedrooms were organized.

post #6 of 63

I am!

 

I am still on vacation (one more week off!). And DH has moved the furniture around to set up the LO corner of the bedroom. Our co-sleeper is ordered and hopefully on the way. My mother gave me a box of hand-me-down clothing, some mine, some my younger sister's (she is 9). So much stuff that I have to borrow a suitcase to bring it all back with me. 

 

What fun!

post #7 of 63

I have been slowly cleaning up the disaster our house became while I was sick during the first tri.  And getting rid of tons of stuff.  I don't know WHY I bring so much CRAP into my house.  I'm trying to be more disciplined about not bringing stuff in.  We are going to have to get rid of some big pieces of furniture just to have room for the crib.  *sigh*  TIFF4NY, I feel ya with the dumpster.  That is what I want to do too.

 

We did start DD going to be on her own about two weeks ago.  She is still mostly sleeping in our bed and not hers, but bedtime now is a story and a kiss goodnight and then leaving the room, instead of laying next to her for god knows how long.  I count that as nesting since it's the idea of having another baby to put to bed that kicked me in the butt to make the transition.... :)

post #8 of 63

ooooh am i glad to see this thread!  totally hit nesting like a freak this week:

 

my daughter is 7 and i didn't think i was going to have anymore kids... and ta da,  i am due mid-april!

 

i think we'll do a crib next to the bed, with the front side off, for easy in and out (co-sleep style).  i just converted an old flour cabinet into a changing table and space for clothes and diapers.  rocking chair, check.  diaper service already ordered, hello ocd. 

 

now names, that's another thing...

post #9 of 63

I am.  Totally.  I am keeping myself from doing it, though...trying to wait as long as possible.  I feel like it makes the remainder of the pregnancy feel so much longer the earlier I have stuff ready.

post #10 of 63
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Originally Posted by cyclamen View Post

I have been slowly cleaning up the disaster our house became while I was sick during the first tri.  And getting rid of tons of stuff.  I don't know WHY I bring so much CRAP into my house.  I'm trying to be more disciplined about not bringing stuff in.  We are going to have to get rid of some big pieces of furniture just to have room for the crib.  *sigh*  TIFF4NY, I feel ya with the dumpster.  That is what I want to do too.

 

We did start DD going to be on her own about two weeks ago.  She is still mostly sleeping in our bed and not hers, but bedtime now is a story and a kiss goodnight and then leaving the room, instead of laying next to her for god knows how long.  I count that as nesting since it's the idea of having another baby to put to bed that kicked me in the butt to make the transition.... :)


My daughter transitioned to starting the night in her own bed a few months ago. It was going great but she would come into bed with me during the night and was keeping me awake by tossing and pushing me to the edge of the bed, etc. Something that someone suggested that I hadn't thought of was making a bed on the floor for her. She now spends nearly half of every night on the floor with blankets and a pillow. Our chiropractor says it's great for kids to sleep on the floor and it's solved the issue for me for nighttime parenting an almost 6 year old. Just wanted to pass on the idea if it's of use to you or anyone else! We also have a story, snuggle, then I leave the room. I'm so glad we've gotten this far with it already!

 

I'm also getting huge nesting urges and my DH is not interested in cleaning/organizing very much. We FINALLY can use the dining room table!!! It's been hidden under his crap since June. Now we have a huge pile of stuff to take to Goodwill, but it's OUT of the apt and in the hall and I'm thrilled about that! We were also given a ton of newborn-9 month clothes and need to make room in our bedroom for a dresser for baby's things and we need to figure out if we're getting a co-sleeper and where that will go. We also have 2 new lamps for our bedroom but nowhere to put them yet. I'm trying to light a fire under DH but it's a slow process. We'll be mostly ready by the time baby is here!

post #11 of 63

We do a bed on the floor for the kids for situations like that, too.  I am fine with the baby and an older one in bed with me (when DH is gone- he works 24-48 hr shifts- they ALL sleep with me), but if we have more than that wanting to jump in, they go on the floor.  We actually slide a toddler bed/crib mattress underneath our bed that we can pull out for them and that's been super handy.

 

Today I reorganized the children's room (they all 3 share), purged toys, have 3 giant bags for the mission, moved a bookcase into our office/school room, and am working on reorganizing that room now.  Totally my style, so I can't blame it on nesting, but I am totally in "prepare for baby" mode.  Yet when I think too much about it that way, I feel silly, since April still seems so far away.  So then I try to justify it with wanting to do this stuff before I get too huge and uncomfortable, but that's never held me back in the past so it doesn't really stand, either. LOL

post #12 of 63

My almost 7 year old also comes in our room and sleeps on the floor. There just isn't room for her in our bed.  I seem to be down to just a couple of major hotspots in the first round of decluttering. and for the first time in well over two years, our laundry seems to be caught up.

post #13 of 63

Today I moved some furniture around in our bedroom in order to make a little cozy nook for DD.  There was so much nasty dust and cat fur behind that black chest!  The chest has to go and probably one of the dressers too in order to make room for the crib.  But I made the little rainbow bunting for her this morning and she was very pleased.   I'm hoping that by making her bed a little more accessible and "hers" that this will help with the transition into her own bed.  I also have to take the bed apart so I can put the rails on because she is worried about falling out.

 

I have to saw, I'm blown away by how well she has adapted to going to sleep on her own.  (Knock on wood!)  The first week was a little rough and we had to be kind of stern but now, she seems to prefer it, goes to bed much more quickly, and is much happier about bedtime and more independent in her sleep.  The other morning, around 4 AM, she was kicking around in our bed and I told her she needed to lie still or go kick around in her bed.  So she happily climbed down into her bed and went back to sleep.  This NEVER EVER would have happened when we were still laying down with her. 


Edited by cyclamen - 12/4/12 at 7:37pm
post #14 of 63

In the process of scrubbing the top and back of my fridge.  Uuum, yeah.  And I've been DUSTING.  I NEVER dust unless it's ridiculously horrible, seriously.  We live in a farm house in the country...it's just like trying to sweep a dirt floor, feels pointless to me. LOL

post #15 of 63

Nesting seems to have hit me BIG time. I have managed to almost completely declutter our previously almost ransacked house in under two weeks.  I have started following flylady which is helping tremednously and I have been strict on everyone in my house helping to maintain.  I pretty much informed dh that some of his previously messy habits that I'd been letting slide (but always drove me crazy) were going to stop or he'll be seeing his kids everything other weekend. I'm not joking. Yes, I'd rather wash his clothes daily than have them sit in my room so he can rewear them (I'm starting to think he might have smelled a little from doing that!)  The "scraps" he's saving for the dog and chickens MUST go out after each meal.  Anything he was storing out in the open will be considered trash if it's not moved.  If he choses to helped with dishes, he must absolutely rinse before placing them in the dishwasher. I could care less about energy savings right now.   The messiness is driving me crazy enough that I'd consider divorce if it doesn't change.

 

Every evening, I make everyone including dh (and myself) re-pick up the living room. I march my older kids back to their room and watch them clean it up.  And in the meantime, I'm cleaning places I didn't even realize collected dirt until now. 

 

My family is loving me...NOT.  However, the house is starting to look really good.  I have two hotspots left. One of which is half way to being decluttered and the other is my sewing table which doesn't take up much room.

 

Last time I had the house looking just a little better than this was when my 7year old was born. I had planned to have it cleaned so that I could just do a few needed chores to get by until I was back on my feet BUT I ended up with a birth injury and couldn't get around.   Everything I'd done was undone within weeks due to dh's "help".  Laundry was piled high, things were on the floor, dishes were waiting in the sink unless we needed them to eat. I was devastated and ended up with post partum depression due to this and too many other factors to mention.  I've threatened everyone already that should this happened again, I will hold them accountable to help clean up.  However, my two oldest are old enough that they CAN help this time.  That's why I'm trying to get everyone into good cleaning habits now and not just do it all myself.

 

Ok end of sharing rant.  I'm half proud and half nervous it's all going to fall apart again.

post #16 of 63
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Ok end of sharing rant.  I'm half proud and half nervous it's all going to fall apart again.

 

This is the part I HATE.  Because my goal is to make things nicer/easier for the future, yet realistically I know it's never going to last like I see it in my head.

post #17 of 63

We're getting rid of tons of stuff this weekend. Some of it is just to make room for replacements (like ditching the old, ugly, broken glider for the new-to-us one). But we also just sold seven boxes of DD's old clothes (now that we know we're having a boy). I'm trying to get things picked up enough that the cleaning people can actually clean on Tuesday (still so over the moon that I won free cleaning for four months)!

post #18 of 63

I am nesting like crazy. While putting up the Christmas tree over the weekend, I started dusting everything too. Took down everything off the two bookshelves in the living room and dusted. I even started organizing the attic! Then realized that may be too big of a project right now. I honestly want to just take everything out of there, re-box some stuff, and put it all back. I organized the playroom and packed away a bunch of toys the boys are too big for. And I hope to tackle the hall closet some time soon.

post #19 of 63

Today I'm trying to just pick up clutter and either put it where it goes, or at least get it out of the way. The cleaning company comes tomorrow for an initial deep clean, and I don't want my crap getting in their way when they're so generously doing this for free. It feels good to be getting the clutter cleared without also feeling overwhelmed and grossed out by the mess and dirt beneath it. This house wasn't properly cleaned when we moved in (despite the land-lord insisting it had been cleaned). So it never has been truly clean. It's such a relief to just say "it's OK, all I have to do is deal with the stuff...they'll deal with the dirt tomorrow!" I feel so incredibly lucky. I think I would have had a panic attack if I was trying to pick up AND clean before DD's birthday party this weekend.

 

And we sorted through a bunch of baby stuff over the weekend, so we've gotten out the stuff we don't need for Teddy, and boxed up what we will keep for him. Plus DH ran around town picking up a bunch of used furniture for our bedroom to re-organize in there. It's tiny, and we're going to be squeezing Theo in there with us...so it needs to be super organized for us to fit comfortably. There's still more to do in there, but we need to do it a bit at a time so it's affordable.

 

Now I just need to get some more progress done on some projects (like finishing DD's baby book!). Sheepish.gif  I've also got some sewing and such that I want to get started on, but I may wait until after the holidays...except the maternity projects. I want to convert some leggings by cutting out the narrow elastic waistband and putting in a wide, knit waist instead. The skinny elastic digs into my belly and makes me look fat instead of pregnant. I also want to see if I can finish an i-spy quilt I started for DD a year or two ago before Christmas. And we're converting an old wooden dresser into a dress-up wardrobe as a Christmas gift. Hopefully that will be fun to do though. DP is going to help me, so we'll have to do it during nap time and after bed time so DD doesn't see.

 

I'm feeling so scatter-brained today. It's like my body is exhausted, but my brain can't settle down.

post #20 of 63

December and January are great months for me when it comes to nesting (although I've only ever been STAYED through the winter so I have nothing else to compare to, unfortunately).  But I always want to be nice and tidy and prepared for Christmas, and then I want to be nice and tidy and ready for spring once Christmas is over.  Works out well. LOL

 

I am re-doing our chore system right now.  Hoping that will give me an edge on having things in order for a few months before baby comes, and hopefully get the kids into a better routine.  While we do homeschool, we don't stick to a strict routine, because we live on a farm and there's always SO much to do both on a regular basis AND just random stuff that you can't foresee.  So I just try and work with what I have.

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