I am so close to offering a paci. Any advice is welcome!
The main issue is not getting enough nipple in and ending up with a very pinched raw nipple at the end plus now the joy of engorgement.
Have you tried to pump off the top a bit so you are not as engorged and a bit 'softer'?
Have you tried a different hold?
Have you tried calling a LLL to come and help?
Make sure you are bringing baby's head in at an angle a bit so the nipple points to the roof of his mouth.
This might seem basic put have you tried the nipple sandwich thing? Take your index and middle finger and hold it like you would when playing "paper rock sissors" (idk how to spell, sorry) and kind of pinch your breast like at the areola and it should kind of flatten your nipple and areola into a better shape for baby to latch on. I hope that helps.... also try tickling his upper lip to get him to open his mouth wide, you might need to try to get him to open his mouth a few times before he opens wide enough... I'm so sorry you are having a hard time... Do you have an LC that can either make a house call or that you can visit? Congrats on your baby! Sending happy breastfeeding vibes your way!
I am so sorry that your having trouble - I felt the same way with DS until someone showed me how to grab a hold of my breast and and gently squeeze it until your nipple is firmly pointed out, then take babies head and direct it right on the nipple, making sure he really opens his mouth all the way before you let him latch on, you can do this by rubbing near his chin or cheek so his mouth is wide. If he doesn't get it correctly, put your finger in between his mouth and your breast to release the latch and try again. Also, if you don't have one, I would get a boppy or a similar pillow to make sure he is in the correct position, as this video shows, you don't want him tugging at your nipple. Good luck, it will get better
Jend, I'm sorry to hear that it's so rough right now, I've totally been there! I can tell you that my LO is two weeks old now and it still has its tough moments, but it's MUCH better. I had nights where I would want to cry when i heard the baby fuss because I really, really didn't want to breastfeed him since it was so painful on my chapped nipples and sitting up for cradle (all I could reliably do without latch problems) was so painful where I had torn and had stitches.
I don't have it all figured out yet by any means, but one thing that helped me was figuring out that squeezing your areola into that 'sandwich' really helps, but the big thing is to then quickly push the baby onto your breast once their mouth is open very wide. I was scared to jam my boob in these because it was so raw and torn up, I just *knew* it was going to get injured even further and wanted to take it very slow :) Turns out that going slowly and methodically at that crucial moment just makes things worse, and actually getting it in quickly and pretty far back into the baby's mouth saved me some pain.
My MW also suggested taking off some layers of the baby's clothes/blankets and massaging his feet or touching his ear gently to get him to start sucking actively again when he starts to drift off to sleep or take long breaks. This helped me shorten the nursing sessions during times I was super tired and needed a reprieve. When I'm feeling strong, and during the day, I let him just do his thing uninterrupted.
It'd be best to talk to a lactation consultant before relying on this, but maybe trying a nipple shield? I had to use one for the first few weeks after DS was born because my nipples were a little flatter and he wouldn't latch well. I know that using those shields can sometimes cause other problems, so it's good to ask an LC about it, but using one may give you enough of a break to let your nipples heal and not interrupt your LO while he's learning to nurse. Good luck!!
Oh man, I remember this with my DD. Like everyone above said, sandwich the nipple, tickle his top lip with your nipple and as soon as his mouth looks open as far as it can go, bring HIM to your nipple very quickly, shoving your nipple in as far as you can. It may hurt for the first 20 seconds if your nipples are already damaged but it should subside. You'll know if it's wrong. And if it's wrong, start over.
Also, if his mouth is really small and your breasts are large, at the same time you tickle his top lip, pull his chin down with your finger and shove him on your nipple. This is practically impossible without some sort of breastfeeding pillow. Football hold worked best for us.
The first two weeks were SO difficult but after that, it was easy.
i had that same problem at first too. It was terrible and I almost gave up. I ended up googling videos on youtube that showed how to get the latch. I ended up doing the football hold for a while and she got the latch much easier. It took a few days for my nipples to heal... a few very painful days, but they got there now I can feed with almost no latch on pain.
I understand exactly what you mean about jsut getting the pinching. Annabelle woudl do the same thing and scream to nurse from 9pm till 2 am when I am convinced she just wore herself out instead of getting enough. Hang in there! Do you have WIC where you are? They will send a free lac consultant, or at least they do here. I didnt end up using it, but I almost did. Contact your local LLC and see what resources they can offer you.
I think a lot of us have been exactly where you are. It can get better with some proper guidance!
Just wanted to empathize.. I've got a teeny tiny baby and semi-flat nipples and there's just no way the ideal amount of areola is fitting in her mouth at this point. We're hanging in there but she's having a rough day today- my milk is coming in and she's kind of freaking out about it.
One day at a time.. Heck, one feeding at a time. We can do this.
That is so sweet!
Jend - I'm glad things are a little better....You have gotten some great advice and you will get additional help on Monday so that is great! Support groups are also WONDERFUL! Keep it up! It's the best thing you can do for your baby (and yourself!)
Miranda - your story of your LO giving a bear hug to your boob is so sweet, I started tearing up!!
I am on day 10 and I have noticed a HUGE difference, I think it is a combination of DS's experience and growth and my confidence now that my nipples are not as sore. He is definitely cluster feeding in the evenings, but we are both getting better at it every day!
Jend so glad you are going to get some support tomorrow, hopefully your weekend went quickly!