camoshades, no one is here to judge anyone, so don't worry about that!
circ was never something i thought much about, until my fiance told me how he feels, as an intact male. he watched this documentary on genital mutilation in cultures and shared with me some of it, and i was horrified. he's not nearly as crunchy as i am, he's quite the average guy, so it gave me a lot to think about. all the guys in my family, all of my brothers, and most every other male i have talked with have been circ'd. i guess i just had to really think of it as why people would want to do it in the first place. and once i researched that why's, i came to my own conclusion that it is not a good enough reason for me to do that to my baby. having my fiance be intact has been great- we can talk about things like this. being clean, etc. has never been an issue for him, or his parents, so i don't get why that argument even comes up. i feel like it's a very weak contention. keeping a girl clean down there is much harder than keeping a boy clean.
do discuss it, gently, and explore all of the angles together.