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I lost my dad...

post #1 of 14
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In a motorcycle accident on the 8th. He lives in Ky so we had to travel there for the funeral. A 12 hour drive. Hardest thing. Still hard. I lost my brother on a motorcycle 6 years ago. And have had 2 other losses in between. This us the 3rd one to coincide with a baby. I'm not doing so well with this. And then on top of that my bpp/nst didn't go well on thurs. Baby logs great, but my np was up, high protein in urine and ketones. I have a repeat ok monday. And tomorrow dh's brother gets married. I'm happy for them, but I just don't feel like it. Thanks got reading. I just needed to talk.
post #2 of 14

oh no!  I am so sorry!  I have no idea how that would feel, and to be pregnant and have places to be and stress tests!  Well, of course, you are stressed!  Big hugs and prayers.  Do you have friends/family nearby who can help you?

post #3 of 14
I'm so very sorry. That's a tragic, abrupt, angering and confusing way to lose a loved one.

My father-in-law was killed in a motorcycle accident a week to the day after we found out we were pregnant. It broke both of our hearts. The accident was at the beginning of February in Kansas. We drove 500 miles there, grieving every moment. It was a horrible trip.

I felt so guilty for grieving because I knew our baby could feel my sadness. But a close friend and spiritual leader in our church encouraged me to not hold back, that it would only bring baby and me closer and help her to know me more intimately. I don't know if any of this helps, but please know that I'm praying for peace and comfort for you and your family during this extremely difficult time.
post #4 of 14
I am so sorry greensad.gif
post #5 of 14
I am so very sorry JoyofBirth!! Such a horrid thing to face at any point in one's life. I'm sorry the birth of your sweet baby has been over shadowed by such pain. Sending thoughts of strength your way.

post #6 of 14

I'm so sorry for your loss!  You are in my thoughts.

post #7 of 14

I'm am so sorry :( 

post #8 of 14

JoyofBirth - sending you many warm thoughts and wishes for comfort and peace right now. I am so sorry to hear about your dad and the way it's bringing up all of these other losses. Take good care of yourself right now and let yourself grieve in whatever way you need to. Hoping for beautiful health for you and your baby, too.

post #9 of 14

Im so sorry! hug2.gif

post #10 of 14

So sorry to hear this :( My father died several years ago, it is indeed horrible.

post #11 of 14
Oh Joy of Birth....I am so sorry to hear that. Praying for you....
post #12 of 14

I am so very sorry. You and yours are in my thoughts. candle.gif

post #13 of 14

So sorry for your loss :(

post #14 of 14

grouphug.gif So sorry. My Dad died when I was 9 weeks preg with my first baby. It's truely horrible to lose a parent anytime, but especially hard during what is supposed to be such a joyful time in your life.

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