I love that many of you are really unwavering in your discipline. I, like you was dedicated to gentle discipline. I dunno, my daughter was a great baby, and great even awesome all through out age 2, but when she turned 3 she became really difficult. The tantrums were just horrid and could last up to 30 min. The outright refusal to do things was just frustrating. I was spat at, hit, bit, head butted. Rooms were trashed. I read a couple books. I tried warnings, walking away, hugging her, talking calmly, talking firmly, yelling, taking toys away. I always let my yes be yes, and my no be no. In my frustration, I tried spanking. I have done it a few times, but that didnt work either. She just had to grow up a little. I couldnt "fix" her. She just had to grow. For a year, I was afraid to leave the house with her, and most of the time it just wasnt worth it. Now we dont spank anymore, and I have promised to never hit her again. As a 4 year old, she still has crazy long tantrums where her room will be destroyed, but she cleans up her mess, and genuinely is sorry. I just wait the storm out to talk about it after. They are few and far between now.
I feel guilty about what I did, I have apologized to my child. I guess I wanted to know if anyone else broke under pressure.