I would love a little bit of input in my situation.
DS is almost 19 months old, and co sleeps with me and DH. He has on very rare occasion slept through the night before with no prompting from me. But most nights, he wakes 2 or 3 times to nurse, which was fine...
Well, for the last couple months, he has been wanting to nurse ALL night. Like, stay latched on ALL night, and he will cry and try to get out of bed and thrash around if I even get up to use the bathroom (10 feet away!). So it has been pretty intense and I have been snappy and crabby during the day from lack of sleep. He has a lazy latch now and just wants to be 'on' the breast (and twiddling the other one), without even really drinking any milk. :( Awful.
So night before last we started night weaning. We talked about it all day, said 'nursies will be sleeping all night and you can have nursies in the morning when the sun comes up!' Night before last he nursed to sleep at 8:30, woke at 11 PM and cried and screamed for 45 minutes. Drank some water, fell back to sleep, cried and yelled for 20ish minutes at 2 AM and again at 4 AM, and then woke at 5 AM and stayed awake sniffling in my arms until I let him nurse at 6 AM.
Last night was night two. He did REALLY well for most of the night. Nursed to sleep at 8:30, and then woke up several times throughout the night where he would either just turn over and go back to sleep, or he would sit up and sign for water, take a drink and then lay right back down! Didn't even ask for nursies! But then at 4 AM he sat up, asked for nursies and when I said no he proceeded to flip out for an hour and a half, crying and screaming and writhing around in our arms. DH can't even help during a fit like that because DS just wants me and gets even more hysterical if DH holds him. So it was all me from 4 AM until I gave in and nursed him at 5:30 AM, even though it was still dark out.
So here are my concerns.
Did I blow all our previous effort by giving in and nursing him while it was still dark at 5:30 AM?
Do I need to just stick to my guns no matter how much he protests and not nurse him between his initial tucking in, and sunrise?
Or, am I being way too rigid about this? The goal here is for all of us to get better sleep, so in some ways I feel like if he does that well with settling himself back to sleep without nursing at night, then it's not a big deal to nurse him at 4 or 5 AM and let us all drift back to sleep for a few more hours. Or will that just confuse him to let him nurse at some night wakings but not at others?
If anyone has 'been there done that' before, I'd like to hear any thoughts on this.
I AM certain though that nightweaning is right for us at this age. I have to set some limits on his night nursing because grouchy mom is making more appearances lately than happy fun mom, and that's not good for any of us!