I know I'm coming late to this thread, but just the other day I heard a comment, from a friend, no less, that made me sad. My girls were at her son's birthday party, and my 8 yo walked out (they were in a gymnastic facility) half way through, and said that it was too much like being in a class. We chatted a little, I encouraged her to go back, as she was there for the birthday boy, and eventually she went back in.
Later my friend told me that my 8 yo was turning to be just like my 10 yo, "unfit" for school, and that maybe it wasn't too late to change things for her. This really hurt my feelings. My 10 yo wouldn't do well in school, that's for sure--she is too independent, her thinking processes are very a-typical, she doesn't like academics at all. She's a stereotypical somewhat awkward homeschooler, who is valued and appreciated by adults--she feels at home with adults who don't behave like bratty 10 year olds. She's always been serious and mature, an over-thinker. However I consider most of this to be wonderful, and not a deficit (except for when I'm in my panic mode and we butt heads lol). The way my friend spoke sounded like she thought my girls were deficient.
All I know that I wouldn't have liked the birthday party in a gym either--they kids were allowed to just run and roam for the first 10 minutes, and that was fun, but they they started games, and considering the birthday boy was 5, I wasn't surprised that DD felt over-structured and bored with the games geard to little kids. I reminded her of the purpose for being there, and she went back in.