My 29 month old is a high needs child. She was a high needs baby and is now a high needs toddler. She is very bright and challenges us every second of the day. I now have a 3 week old infant to care for in addition to DD1, and I'm doing a terrible job.
DD1 has never been a good sleeper, but now she flat out refuses to sleep. She fights us every night and every nap. She wakes up 4-6 times per night. She has been in her own bed since she turned 2 and until baby was born she woke 1-2x per night max. I know she is transitioning, but I am having difficulty keeping it together. DH is working tonight so I have both girls by myself, and DD1 won't sleep. I got her down once, but then she woke up 15 minutes later. I went in to get her back down twice but both times she refuses to sleep. I cannot be held hostage by a 2 1/2 year old.
So now she's in her room crying because she won't sleep and I won't sit with her for hours waiting. I feel like a horrid mother because I just don't care anymore. She tantrums at the drop of a hat the second she doesn't get what she wants the second she wants it. IO can't take any more right now. We never did CIO with her because I don't believe in it, and I'm not leaving her in her room for sleep training now but I don't know what else to do. Letting her stay up isn't an option because she gets violent and destructive when she is overtired. Me staying in her room isn't an option because she won't go to sleep when I have the baby with me. I can't leave the baby alone either because if she wakes up I need to be able to get her, and if DD1 sees me leave, we are back at square one.
I am so angry and sad that I don't have any idea how to parent this child.
X-posted in parenting a toddler.