The ONE Thread for September 23-29

[anyalily]

WELCOME TO THE "ONE" THREAD  for Sept. 23 - 29

posted by alexisyael in 2004:

The One Thread is designed for all on the MDC board. No matter where you are in your cycle, you are welcome to join the One Thread! We are also open to those who are "Waiting to be Ready" for one reason or another. We continue to embrace those of us who have become pregnant as well. Feel free to jump in at any time and introduce yourself!

To help keep the list current and manageable, members will be deleted after a month of not posting to a One thread.

Please make add/remove/change requests in Bold.

Waiting to O 

baby4makes6

bdavis912

doularebekah 

filiadeluna 

FreedEm11 

gratefulstella  

jaxxy

jeslynn 

jr'smom

kimble

kitteh

LindsayDawn   

magoodoggy 

maia.springgoddess

MyKidKissTrees

MyName

nattery

newtoTTC

Shawnamarie 

skeemama

SKJ2011     

Stevi 

sweetnatural

ThePeacefulMama

Tropicalfever

windsova

zebrapopcorn

 Waiting to Know (2WW) 

A2E 

Angierae 

BaileyB

bebelove 

BetsyPage

brichole 

brogransmomma

cavertmmy

ciga
dakipode

dbl_my_luv 

delilahbeau 

firsttimettc

Fnord   

InLove2009

- Jenn -

JustJenny
kittenbritches 

lenny1027 

librarygirl  

lilgreenmama

LindsayDawn      

livingsky  

mamainthemaking

MissCee
Mz J

odinsmama

Renaissance31 

SandyLoam

stegenrae 

SweetMama34
wannabemomkt

 WTF IS GOING ON?!?! 

amlikam
bloodofthefae

southernmommie

RavenMadMommy

 Waiting to be Ready 

anyalily   

Butterflymom

candyshells

imbjer

jeminijad

jlmschirm 

John16n33

Lidamama84

Michaels-Mommy

nisojon     

samy23 

sleepingbeauty 

Texanromaniac 

tinytina

CDsMom1031 

Zyon'sMommy

 ~ GRADUATES~ 

Big congrats to you all!!

Graduate Thread in I'm Pregnant: 

http://www.mothering.com/community/t/1352182/one-graduates-may-june/20

 (the current thread keeper can update the graduate link as needed)

 September BFP's 

aHikaru

AmandaLynnH

LittleBlackBug

Quinalla 

 August BFP's 

LittleKind

TwighlightJoy  

 July BFP's 

nearlyelated

Edited by anyalily - 9/28/12 at 2:28pm

[dakipode]

anyalily, thanks for the new thread. Can you please move me to waiting to know? Thanks.

[kitteh]

Well, I continue to get BFNs and I'm starting to think that September might have been an anovulatory month for me. In that case my spotting last week would have been breakthrough bleeding and not implantation spotting. I'm leaning toward the anovulation because I had my right ovary removed when I was a senior in HS, due to a dermoid cyst that torqued the ovary and cut off blood supply, basically killing it. I know I'm still fertile (and have a Surprise! DD to show for it) but maybe I don't ovulate every month? Does anyone know how that sort of thing works? I recall being told in HS that the ovaries alternate months, so maybe the fact that I only have one now means I only ovulate e/o month? I dunno, but it seems plausible to me.

So I tucked a thermometer under my pillow (just a Vicks brand drugstore thermometer, but it measures in tenths of a degree, will that be sufficient?) Today was my first morning of temping and I was 97.1 which seems a little low to me. But it will be interesting to have this extra insight into my cycles. I think we're going to take a few months "off" from TTC. Not that we're going to use protection or avoid or anything, but it's more of a mindset thing for me. I'm going to look at the next month or two as an opportunity to get back in touch with my body and learn about my BC-free cycles, instead of looking at them as OMG BABY MAKING OPPORTUNITIES. Hopefully the shift in perspective will help me find peace and serenity.

Oh, and I need to be more disciplined with my eating. I'm right with you, Anyalily, when it comes to emotional eating. I'm also definitely an "excuse" eater as well, and the stress from TTC has given me plenty of (unwarranted) excuses to overindulge and I've gained 4 lbs this month. It's not a lot, but I want to be at my lowest weight before getting knocked up, and I really want to keep my baby weight-gain down to a more reasonable amount (like, not the almost 40 lbs I gained with DD!) So that means being more disciplined and trying not to gain a bunch of weight in the first trimester. Which also means not gaining a bunch of weight before I'm even pregnant! Whoops.

One question about breakthrough bleeding and anovulatory cycles, for those who might know--do I count the first day of spotting as my period for this cycle? That's what I plan to do, so hopefully its right.

Baby Dust !

[dakipode]

kitteh, I don't believe it's an alternating schedule, just either/or but not necessarily L-R-L-R... I don't have any insight to offer as far as anovulatory cycles go, but wanted to extend the invitation to join us over in the Saner TTC thread. It might be a nice place for you to hang out while giving yourself a mental break from things.

[JustJenny]

Anyalily- Could you move me to waiting to know please :) I ovulated yesterday and the chart looks good for conception so my fingers are crossed....

[anyalily]

Dakipode and JustJenny, welcome to the 2WW! Good luck!

Kitteh, it could have been anovulatory. I have always thought I am only working with one ovary because I seem to alternate between short cycles and normal cycles and because I only feel MS on one side. A little while before menarche when I was 11, I had a badly impacted ovary on the right side. It sent me to the hospital and I got a scrip for codeine... Ah, alopathic medicine. Years later, I had what I thought was a miscarriage, but never tested positive and my Dr. vowed I was never pregnant. I sometimes wonder if I threw a big cyst or something... I remember learning that the ovaries alternate, but since then I have heard that sometimes one ovary runs the show every month, or that they alternate, but not R-L-R-L, as you said. I hope this cycle gets back to normal for you!

AFM, I am doing this annoying thing I do every month, thinking that I should hold off on trying and lose some weight, but just not wanting to wait! It is getting so old, and I am sure you are all sick of hearing about it, too. LOL. I am not so afraid of being fat, I am afraid of chronic pain, weakness and depression. Sigh.

[SweetMama34]

Anya - what do you need in order to feel at peace with things? Do you need help starting a fitness/nutrition regime? Or just acceptance that you are where you are? Whatever the case, I know you aren't alone - I waffle back and forth for my own reasons, too.

I'm just trying to figure out what's up with my body post m/c - I've had tons of EWCM, distinct O symptoms, but no temp rise. I'm on CD 15 and pretty confused. Most of the time, I'm okay with the fact that it may take some time to conceive again - but other times, I'm really sad that we lost that pregnancy and wish we were just on track - I'd be coming up on 9 weeks this week, and it just kind of sucks to realize that.

[anyalily]

Originally Posted by SweetMama34 

Anya - what do you need in order to feel at peace with things? Do you need help starting a fitness/nutrition regime? Or just acceptance that you are where you are? Whatever the case, I know you aren't alone - I waffle back and forth for my own reasons, too.

I'm just trying to figure out what's up with my body post m/c - I've had tons of EWCM, distinct O symptoms, but no temp rise. I'm on CD 15 and pretty confused. Most of the time, I'm okay with the fact that it may take some time to conceive again - but other times, I'm really sad that we lost that pregnancy and wish we were just on track - I'd be coming up on 9 weeks this week, and it just kind of sucks to realize that.

That's a great question. I think the reason I am so frantic about all this is because I am not in the habit of including self-care. I take care of my daughter, I take care of my cat, I am so-so at my relationship, I am letting my garden die and my house is chaotic 90% of the time. I meet my obligations at work - barely. I want to be more functional, and for that I see that I need to be stronger and more balanced. 

So I guess the answer is, I need to have a period of self-care and balance before I will feel at peace. I have started that, actually. I realize that I cannot do a total overhaul of my lifestyle choices overnight. So I am focusing on two habits a week. This week is to make my lunch every day (or make a healthy lunch choice) and to take Zumba or Aqua-aerobics 5 times this week. Next week I will continue with Zumba and lunches, and add not eating after 8pm and doing some resistance training. The third week I will add in Pilates and avoiding sweets (1 meal off). The fourth week will be to start going dancing once a week and avoiding refined flours. BABY-STEPS toward making a baby!

So that being said, I think we will TTA this cycle, and I will focus on myself and meeting my existing obligations. I will reassess next month, which would be the last month I could conceive until trying again after the new year, because of work obligations. If we skip two cycles, we will end up having to skip 5, but if I am making progress, my life could be very different in 2013, and I could be poised to enjoy a pregnancy much more.

The other thing I realized is that I should just ask myself if I should TTC this cycle, rather than trying to plan out my entire life.

SweetMama, it sounds like your body is gearing up but hasn't released the eggie yet. Keep charting and keep trying! I remember reading that stress can delay ovulation. Maybe your grief is delaying things. What can you do for yourself? Spa day?

[SweetMama34]

anya - You have such a great plan! Best of luck on your path toward better self care. Sometimes, for me, the best thing I can do is to SLOW down...I do so much, usually for others, and when I slow down I can better see what it is I need for me. Tough to do, for sure - us mamas are hard wired to care for the rest of the world and sacrifice our own well-being. When I practice self care right now, I think of it as caring for our next child - the healthier a vehicle I can be, the healthier my unborn child is going to be.

I'm going to get a swim or two in this week for sure. I'm also picking up a volunteer position that I've missed so much (I know, I know - that's helping someone else, too - but I really do love it!) I need to write a gratitude list, and maybe another one specific to why I'm grateful that I'm NOT pregnant today (there are reasons, you know - I can drink Diet soda guilt free, no nausea, more energy, focus available for other areas...like school that just started today!)

I usually don't O until CD 21 or so - I was really hoping the m/c would reset things and I'd O sooner - so I got really excited with all of the ewcm. Maybe I'll still O earlier? I've been taking B6 daily for a few months now without noticing a change. I just really, really want to extend my LP by a few days - it's been 8-11 days (hard to tell, as I didn't chart cycles meticulously when I had my IUD in - but they seemed to be on the short side always). I'll be devestated if another conception ends in m/c and I'm nervous that it's due to the shorter LP. My midwife says my LP is fine, though - so I doubt she's interested in further testing. Still, I'll request progesterone levels to be drawn ASAP after my next BFP.

Whew....was that a novel or what? I guess I had stuff on my mind. :)

[LivingSky]

Can I please be moved to Waiting to Know 2WW?

Though I think I'm actually just waiting for AF - terrible timing this month with being away from home.

[anyalily]

SweetMama, I like what you said about self-care is like caring for the unborn child. I just got to my office after a great Zumba class and I feel like a million bucks. I can do this! I agree about being thankful that I am not pregnant at this moment. I feel a little guilty when I feel that way, but it is what it is! NOT looking forward to nausea and fatigue... Well, I've bought some time, anyway. I am still going to hang out here and be thread-keeper, if no one objects. I am moving back over to waiting to be ready. I'll still be charting, just so there is no lag time when I do start up again.

[anyalily]

Originally Posted by LivingSky 

Can I please be moved to Waiting to Know 2WW?
Though I think I'm actually just waiting for AF - terrible timing this month with being away from home.

Maybe you'll get surprised!

[LivingSky]

Originally Posted by anyalily 

Maybe you'll get surprised!

I suppose anything is possible! I don't even really know when I ovulated. My temps originally rose like I O'ed on CD11, and my CM dried up. Then CD14 they dropped for one day (though I temped very early after only a couple of hours of sleep) then I missed a day or two of temping, then they started back up again. My CM came back for one day (CD16) then gone again. So who knows! I guess I'll know when AF arrives (or not)

[InLove2009]

Hi, can I be moved to Waiting to know? I am not sure if I ovulated yet, but as soon as we dropped our visitor off last night we pulled into a rest area 

I think maybe there was something there to get the egg if there was an egg yet earlier last week. We will see, I am not expecting much this month... 

[SweetMama34]

Alright - can you please move me to Waiting to Know? I'm really going to be shocked if this was a successful cycle - I know it can happen right after a miscarriage, but I don't think it did. Plus, we totally missed dtd for the two days before I O'd....I don't ever O this early and thought we had time this weekend to make a baby! Maybe the B6 really is helping? We'll see....

[amlikam]

Hey ladies, I am taking a risk since a few people in my real life follow MDC board and might find this out this way, even though not announce because- well, I don't even know WTF IS GOING ON?!?! Which is where I guess I fit in- though possibly I am Waiting to Know? (but inside I say WTF is going on?!!!)

What was an oh I miss counted this month has turned into a "it's time to try again".... I am 15 DPO and we had sex 1.5 days before ovulation. 

My body is acting like something is going on, but I am wondering if my cycles are starting to change [serious nausea for the last week, tender boobs, wanting sex (which is not typical for me this time of my cycle), wild dreams, just a feeling...]  Really wanting to know what is going on, I am usually a 28 day cycle like clockwork.... tick tock...

so if you could add me to WTF IS GOING ON?!?! :-) even though waiting to know migh tbe apropo?  -am

[anyalily]

Amilaken, SweetMama and InLove, you have all been moved. Good luck in your 2WW!

[MyKidKissTrees]

Id love to join you ladies!!  We are TTC #3.  Im Waiting to O!!  Just got my first PPAF!  Never been so excited to get a period in my life :)

[anyalily]

Originally Posted by MyKidKissTrees 

Id love to join you ladies!!  We are TTC #3.  Im Waiting to O!!  Just got my first PPAF!  Never been so excited to get a period in my life :)

Welcome MyKidKissTrees! How many months PP are you? I didn't get AF for 15 or so months. We only started trying when DD was 3.

We were going to hold off this month and then last night we just sort of went for it without talking about it. Oh well. The madness continues. I am only CD8, but sometimes I O on day 11, so we'll see. 

[SweetMama34]

Originally Posted by anyalily 

We were going to hold off this month and then last night we just sort of went for it without talking about it. Oh well. The madness continues. I am only CD8, but sometimes I O on day 11, so we'll see. 

Hehe! Love this, anya....and I SO hope this month works out for you, because it'd make an awesome story. Plus, how many times have you heard someone say, "we stopped trying...and BAM!" :)