Goodmorning.I have been posting over the past few months because we started the process and it has been ugly. Most of my friends don't really understand because they haven't been in this situation, but, they are supportive and I am fortunate for that. My situation is that we had a recent pendente lite decision (this week) that came back in my favor. He was ordered to pay CS, alimony, part of the expenses like extracurriculars & sitter. But, how long until he has to actually pay me anything?
Since we got this decision -his behavior is just spiraling downward. He has always been beligerant, but, now he has been acting irratic. Two weeks ago at the back to school night he sat behind me & followed us all over the school the entire time. I changed direction, stopped to talk to people purposefully, but, could not shake him. He followed us in his car when we left - I had nightmares for days! Then yesterday my daughter's first soccer game & my day to be with them (I have custody & there is no court ordered visitation, but, I have them on Saturday & he has Sunday with them). Well he decided to go (I did not know this) and went crazy on us because she did not go. He called and spoke with them, but, threatened the lawyers would hear about this???? I don't know why he is threatening me about their plans on my day.... Kids then had a sleepover and we were watching a movie. He started calling and continued to call 12 times over 45 minutes while we were watching. This was 6 hours after their last phone conversation. To make things worse he called the police & told them the children were missing and he was afraid for their safety????
Today is Sunday and they are supposed to have the entire day with him... I am afraid to let them go!
Should I allow them to go with him?
Should I pursue contemp on the restraining order on stbx?